Why does it feel like he's about to get fvcked over?

[Eph]

So, a few months ago one of my closest friends started dating someone we've both known for a few years now. They started dating around a month (maybe less) after she broke up with her ex (a guy who actually used to be our friend; dated for like 2 years) for cheating, and from what I know, completely drove him out of her life. She hated his guts for a while. But now they've started talking again. Today, he gave her (And her sisters) a ride home, which is something he always did when they were dating, which alarmed me, but my friend seemed completely okay with it. She's definitely not the type to cheat, but I have the strangest feeling they're about to get back together, and I honestly hope it's not true.

To top things off, she seems to be in control of the relationship (we were just talking about how he's always busy now ever since they started dating), and he's been buying and getting her tons of presents. When we first heard about it, me and a third friend agreed that this sounded like he was her rebound. But what do you guys think? Does it really sound like a rebound relationship?

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Your best option is to stay out of it. If your friend is this dilusional than its a waste of time trying to convince him for ****. You will learn that most people are weak and would rather take sweetened sugar coated advice rather than face reality. It is up to you whether you will exploit this or not.

 

[Yewki]

Definitely a strong chance he's going to be the rebound. She would not have accepted the ride home and all the gifts if she really respected your friend. She was with the ex for 2 years before hooking up with your friend for, what, a month? Two years is a long time for someone to establish feelings. I would give him a serious talk about this, and then when he naturally plays it off don't bring it up again... at the very least if/when he becomes the rebound, he'll respect your opinion more and maybe you can help him with his next relationship.

The tricky part is if you talk to him about this, there's a good chance he'll start acting more beta towards her which could make the situation worse. I would just tell him if she starts acting distant for no apparent reason, this is why... and to not chase her like an AFC if/when this happens.

 

[Eph]

Definitely a strong chance he's going to be the rebound. She would not have accepted the ride home and all the gifts if she really respected your friend. She was with the ex for 2 years before hooking up with your friend for, what, a month? Two years is a long time for someone to establish feelings. I would give him a serious talk about this, and then when he naturally plays it off don't bring it up again... at the very least if/when he becomes the rebound, he'll respect your opinion more and maybe you can help him with his next relationship.

The tricky part is if you talk to him about this, there's a good chance he'll start acting more beta towards her which could make the situation worse. I would just tell him if she starts acting distant for no apparent reason, this is why... and to not chase her like an AFC if/when this happens.

I've been telling what I would do in his situation, but nothing really major yet. For instance, he was talking about how he said something to her, and she stopped talking to him completely for a day, and I told him he should have just let her be mad. Or how she wanted him to do something, and I told him "fvck what she wants". I could keep at it, but I doubt he would listen any time soon. He's also passive aggressive. His ex broke up with him for "being too nice", and after that he started going out of his way to be an as$ to her to show her different. So, when this one ends, it won't be pretty.

Your best option is to stay out of it. If your friend is this dilusional than its a waste of time trying to convince him for ****. You will learn that most people are weak and would rather take sweetened sugar coated advice rather than face reality. It is up to you whether you will exploit this or not.

I've been trying to, but it's hard when it's someone close. And no, of course I wouldn't exploit this. Even though, he seems to put girlfriends before friends, I try to be the opposite. Besides, I can't stand her. She has the worst, "don't tell me what to do"/"I do what I want" attitude.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

My friend was in a similar situation. Long story short, he ignored my advice and believed the advice he wanted to hear and he ended up getting owned. Our social circle is pretty much a mess right now. Now he is talking about how he is gonna play the field and get a girl. I again tell him what he needs to do, but he still ignores me and listens to advice from girls.