Why do you think married people are more obese?

[MatureDJ]

www.slate.com/articles/technology/f...nd_life_but_increase_the_risk_of_obesity.html

I figure the reason could be:

- Attractive folks know that they can always attract someone, so what's the point of settling down? Yep. Agree. No doubt in my mind. Social stability often breeds complacency. In fact, I believe a lot of wives would DISCOURAGE their husbands from maintaining a fit body.

- Once secured in a legal contract, spouses - and wives especially - figure that they can let themselves go, and once one spouse goes, the other figures that (s)he has no reason to continue to stay fit. Definitely.

- Because ugly people have such a hard time getting a romantic partner, they are highly motivated to keeping him/her. Hmmm. Depends on the person's income and status. We all know that there are a TON of female fatties and uglies who seem to think of themselves as a great catch.

- Even in today's toxic culture, married women are more likely to have children, and mothers tend to be fatter, both because of the natural weight gain, and also the fact that they figure that they have hubby locked into a very painful divorce & child support regime should he leave. For sure. Again: marriage often invites complacency. I have been in a long-term relationship with a woman who did not encourage me to maintain my fit physique. What purpose does having a buff husband do for a woman post-marriage? She may want him to BE fit...but she probably doesn't want him to LOOK fit. That's the female psychology of wanting the cake and eating it too. Kind of like the woman at Starbucks who orders a fat-free latte with extra whipped cream.

What do you all think?

 

[Who Dares Win]

I believe the closer one its the option number 2.

Our body and mind react to stimuli from the outside world, its proven that guys living in a dangerous environment have high level of tests since the body understand it takes to fight there while people living in safe zones have less (you can get why most of leftists are rich people living safely).

So back to the thread, the body realize that he doesnt need to "fight" to get a partner therefore adjust methabolism and desires according to the new situation, in the case of women in particular they no longer have the instictual pressure to mate which keep them in line from their weak undisciplined attitude therefore they indulge in junk food,choccolate while avoiding exercising or working out, they in fact once again base their choices on short term satisfaction.

 

[dasein]

Because people in pain tend to self-medicate, some with food, some with booze, some with drugs or whatever else. Most married people I know are miserable, and even if 25% or so are happy, that leaves 75% eating lots of donuts and ice cream, more than enough to skew the stats.

 

[The Duke]

In addition to some of the above, I think couples who are in a relationship tend to eat out more than singles.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I think there are plenty of reasons, many of which have already been stated.

But here's my rundown off the top of my head:

1) married folks don't feel the need to impress

2) married folks are older, older people gain weight easier

3) married people have less sex, but still need some kind of physical / emotional pleasure, which food satisfied

4) married people have families and don't have time to work out

5) married people tend to go places where they don't see too many strangers (jobs, mutual friends, etc) -->See #1

6) Married people have kids, and kids tend to eat a lot more, and a lot more often, which makes the parents want to eat.

 

[Ballie57]

Because people in pain tend to self-medicate, some with food, some with booze, some with drugs or whatever else. Most married people I know are miserable, and even if 25% or so are happy, that leaves 75% eating lots of donuts and ice cream, more than enough to skew the stats.

I have a classic example. Hannes one of the farmers here was one of Cathy's lovers - even when we were engaged the cougar.

Now that his wife is back, in 6 months he put on 5 kilo's - I on the other hand am working and focusing on my business and have lost 10 Kg.

My sister says I am too thin - I retort "You too fat"! Being a bachelor motivates you to stay thin. I follow the paleo diet and it works!

 

[VladPatton]

Because when they get married they feel it's over. Mission accomplished. I can eat and not give a shıt. I've chosen my mate. This is it, I finally can relax and indulge in life's pleasures! I don't care about my body anymore and sex is overrated, plus, where's he/she gonna go? We're in a marriage, pfft.

Then the other cheats, and they get divorced, and they have to start aaaaall over again and look attractive to get another mate. The circle of shıt is complete.

 

[FairShake]

This is controlled by age I assume? Married people tend to be older...

Could be a couple things really...

Married people (the ones who stay married) are usually happier than single people once you reach your late 30s or so. Happiness generally means more nights out at restaurants and bigger Sunday meals. You tend to linger longer at meals and order more accompaniments and desserts and get seconds (or thirds) when you are with your wife and family.

However...

Women do fatten up their men so they don't stray. They also dress them in horribly baggy dad jeans and ugly fleeces. Maybe this is why men fatten up even more than women during a marriage according to statistics. I was married to a woman from Texas who introduced me to the fine cuisine from the great state. I thought it was because she loved to cook and was proud of her roots. Maybe it was to make me less attractive to other girls!

 

[LiveFreeX]

Eh... I dont know what the hell is happening but I seem to be gaining weight at a staggering pace, maybe my metabolism slowed suddenly or something. Maybe its the marriage... I just find I'm more hungry lately and my wife's cooking is steadily improving.

Also, she told me that her brother's wife constantly feeds him to try and keep him fat so he won't cheat on her, I think my wife might be attempting a similar thing on me.

When I was in my 20's I could eat a whole pizza without even blinking... now... christ, its visibly noticeable on my stomach when I eat a big meal. My wife is extremely insecure and jealous, she just walked out to see if I was messaging other women while I was writing this post. That's asians though.

 

[Ballie57]

Women do fatten up their men so they don't stray. They also dress them in horribly baggy dad jeans and ugly fleeces. Maybe this is why men fatten up even more than women during a marriage according to statistics. I was married to a woman from Texas who introduced me to the fine cuisine from the great state. I thought it was because she loved to cook and was proud of her roots. Maybe it was to make me less attractive to other girls!

That is it a nut shell I am not as cool as Scara - the silver fox. But I operate a side business, with my sister, we call ourselves DJ Gingernuts - because we are both red heads and we are crazy. Maybe that's why enjoy Swartberg so much.

Only 2% of the population of the world are ginger's -- but in Swartberg - out of 70 white people 10% are - Ginger Ninja rules! Natural born Alpha males as well.

We had an EG bowling club meeting and as a shrewd businessman - I was sniffing out for business for our venture.

What a success! All the old Ballies (old dudes) have either died or are grey / bald. It is Movember here - ie you grow your tache (and in my case a tuft of hair. well groomed permantly) for the month of November. There was only one big young guy there, about 1,8m tall who tried! All the wannebe DJ's are either too young - or they are too grey to be able to cultivate a fine tache like me - because their wives don't want them to.

Anyway, all the old dudes were dressed in white - i was the only cool guy dressed in black. I don't play bowls (yet) but am a honoury social member.

I don't know how many ladies I bowled over - but rescued a few as I am a bouncer as well - met a Goth girl in her twenties who is willing to play as drummer in my new band and fvcked a boere meisie with a bun in the oven - snatched her like a prime choppie right off the fire, right under an ex school mate's nose

Excuse my Afrikaans for a moment (But Scara and I understand) "they boere meisies weet hoe om te naai)

ie - they know how to fvck!!

The point I am trying to make - out of all the dudes my age in their 50's, I can spot the single men a mile away - so can the ladies, because they are all old broken fat men!

It does not matter how old you are - it's all in the atitude!

 

[Married Buried]

It's because after marriage the woman gets fat due to kids or she doesn't care any more. Then the husband stops caring too since his wife got fat and ugly, he has no incentive to stay in shape. I don't think having kids is an excuse to get fat. I have seen women who had a kid and they are still a size 0.

I have already let her know in the beginning there will be no getting fat for this marriage to last.

All you have to do to stay slim is run on a treadmill 20 minutes 3 times a week and not eat fast food and junk. Is that so difficult?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

All you have to do to stay slim is run on a treadmill 20 minutes 3 times a week and not eat fast food and junk. Is that so difficult?

Apparently so, judging by the rapid fattening of western society...

 

[Married Buried]

Apparently so, judging by the rapid fattening of western society...

So I go to Chic Fil A to get a grilled chicken sandwich. I go into the lobby and it's empty but there is nobody to take my order. I look out the window and the drive through has a line around the block. People waiting 20 minutes for food in their car when the lobby is empty. What the hell is wrong with people? Their legs don't work?

I guess sitting in a car in traffic 2 hours a day isn't enough.

 

[zekko]

So I go to Chic Fil A to get a grilled chicken sandwich. I go into the lobby and it's empty but there is nobody to take my order. I look out the window and the drive through has a line around the block. People waiting 20 minutes for food in their car when the lobby is empty. What the hell is wrong with people? Their legs don't work?

I went into an Arby's once, ordered some food, and was left waiting there for what seemed like forever (might have been 10-15 minutes) while car after car got served through the drive through. When I inquired about it, the waitress was apologetic, but said that management's policy was to serve the drive through customers first. Apparently that's where they make most of their money, and that business depended on keeping the cars going through quickly with fast service. I've talked to other former fast food workers who said they had similar policies.

Needless to say, I haven't gone into a fast food restaurant to order since. Now I always go through the drive through.

 

[Married Buried]

Needless to say, I haven't gone into a fast food restaurant to order since. Now I always go through the drive through.

Sure I can understand not going into the lobby if the drive through only has a few cars. But you're telling me if there is a line around the block for the drive through, you are going to wait in that line instead of just going inside?

 

[backbreaker]

So I go to Chic Fil A to get a grilled chicken sandwich. I go into the lobby and it's empty but there is nobody to take my order. I look out the window and the drive through has a line around the block. People waiting 20 minutes for food in their car when the lobby is empty. What the hell is wrong with people? Their legs don't work?

I love their spicy chicken with a lemonade. That might be the best fast food combo meal of all time. Throw in some chic fil a sauce for the fries and bam.

All of the reasons stated above are valid. It's also easy to "happily" put on weight, even eating good home cooked meals. Excess carbs are an easy trap to fall into.

This x 10. My wife when I met her couldn't cook a freaking bag of roman noodles (Seriously she burned a bag on my stove). Now this woman is freaking learning how to throw down. She's determined she wanted to learn how to cook and now we eat good EVERY night. It's usually relativity healthy; fish, baked chicken, etc. last night we had some chicken with Italian dressing and brown sugar, with some mashed potatoes with some green beans and a dinner rolls. **** put my ass to sleep lol.

it's not fat fvck food but you eat like that every freaking night of the week, you are going to put on some weight if you aren't in the gym.

 

[D Wolfgang]

Simply put, they let themselves go.

Because people in pain tend to self-medicate, some with food, some with booze, some with drugs or whatever else. Most married people I know are miserable, and even if 25% or so are happy, that leaves 75% eating lots of donuts and ice cream, more than enough to skew the stats.

This is also true.

I think there are plenty of reasons, many of which have already been stated.

But here's my rundown off the top of my head:

1) married folks don't feel the need to impress

2) married folks are older, older people gain weight easier

3) married people have less sex, but still need some kind of physical / emotional pleasure, which food satisfied

4) married people have families and don't have time to work out

5) married people tend to go places where they don't see too many strangers (jobs, mutual friends, etc) -->See #1

6) Married people have kids, and kids tend to eat a lot more, and a lot more often, which makes the parents want to eat.

True: "They are older" was the first thing I thought when I saw the thread. The metabolism slows down. I am surprised others didn't think if ot right away.

And definitely, the children. I come to think of a couple I know, who both gained weight after having kids. They say that they always had leftovers from the kids' meals, so they eat those leftovers. And kids always have food full of fat, apparently.


Let's not fall into this trap. Personally I have skipped wheat, which is a huge fattening factor. It makes my stomach much more peaceful, eliminates gas, and makes me much slimmer. It doesn't impede building muscle mass either; I do weightlifting three times a week and I gain muscle mass just fine. I also stopped eating rice, and I eat boiled potatoes only sometimes. (And little sugar, it goes without saying.) Instead you can eat the common mushroom with your chicken, works fine as a replacement for potatoes. Or just do as I do usually, just eat the fish or meat or chicken, with some boiled eggs and some nuts, and load the plate with whatever vegetables you have in the fridge. (Unprocessed meat, of course.)

You can also eat fruit, because even though it contains sugar, that sugar is held in the stomach a much longer time and siphoned off slowly, which makes it easier for your body to deal with it. (Scientific research - I love you!)

Just skip wheat, folks, and reap the rewards. It only feels like a chore the first three weeks. Otherwise you'll be one of those middle-aged people who say "I don't need that newfangled thought, I just eat smaller meals" but really they don't, because they have a big flabby stomach they never get rid of and so they just give up. "I jog and jog and jog, and I hardly ever eat hamburgers, why can't I get rid of this stomach fat? Pass me another sandwich." Gee, why can't you, indeed.

 

[Ballie57]

I also don't eat bread, because I am gluten sensitive. The advantages are as the OP said:

Just skip wheat, folks, and reap the rewards. It only feels like a chore the first three weeks. Otherwise you'll be one of those middle-aged people who say "I don't need that newfangled thought, I just eat smaller meals" but really they don't, because they have a big flabby stomach they never get rid of and so they just give up. "I jog and jog and jog, and I hardly ever eat hamburgers, why can't I get rid of this stomach fat? Pass me another sandwich." Gee, why can't you, indeed.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Ballie,
Wow you did well at the party....Yeah red Heads...I think they are descendants of the Belgii and Caledonii...Such fearsome warriors...Their Women fought too...Naked,covered only with Wode a blue grease paint...Are your Red Heads generally Boers or Anglos?
As to Wheat,I agree I don't think Wheat is good for Northern Europeans...For most of our existence we ate,grass seeds the ancestors of,Barley,Rye and Oats...I developed this view after several trips to China,where for a couple of months at a time I could not get decent bread...Someone here mentioned,years ago, Bacon,Tomato and lettuce Sandwiches evidently a US specialty...Tickled my imagination,and now I am a convert,even if I get a bit bloated its very tasty,Live fast,die young and make a beautiful corpse,that's what I say Ballie!

 

[Wolfgang D]

As to Wheat,I agree I don't think Wheat is good for Northern Europeans...For most of our existence we ate,grass seeds the ancestors of,Barley,Rye and Oats...

Actually, for most of our existence we converted protein to energy. The body can get its energy either from sugar or protein. Wheat produces glucose, blood sugar, that the body has to take care of first because it is dangerous in large amounts, and therefore the body doesn't burn fat/protein for energy.

Plus, wheat makes you hungrier, so you eat more. What energy the body gets from wheat it runs through faster than energy from protein. (Worst, of course, is white bread, as you have no doubt learned. But dark bread is not so much better after all. When you are middle-aged, it makes you tired before it is time for the next meal.) It also often causes skin problems; when you stop eating wheat, you will feel the itchiness go away, and skin rashes are often diminished or disappear completely.

I can guarantee that anyone who stops eating wheat will have a calmer stomach and will weigh less after three weeks. And it is not a dangerous fat loss, as some would tell you because they can't handle the thought of a new idea. Because you still get all the energy you need, you eat enough and don't go hungry. I read the Success Stories at MarksDailyApple, one new every Friday; here are middle-aged people who measure their blood pressure, etc, and who go visit their doctors regularly, and the doctors are impressed by their improved values. It is really a good change for your diet. I definitely recommend it.