Why do you think 39 y.o. women are most likely to cheat?

[MatureDJ]

I found this interesting blurb ...

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs...he-economics-of-adultery/?tid=pm_business_pop

Women who are 39 years old are more than four times as likely to sign up for Ashley Madison as women aged 38 or 40.

Very interesting. There must be something about age 40 as being an age where a woman feels that she can still attract another man, and that it is her last chance to do so - and probably similar to the age of 29 when women realize that they need to get that husband (presumably to trade in 10 years later? :trouble.

 

[logicallefty]

I'm just taking a stab at the answer based on my own experiences. ... It may be because of the fact that the woman is unhappy because her man doesn't "nurture her emotions" or whatever emotional BS is flowing in her complicated brain. And by 39 she thinks that she better give the little kitty cat with bad breath another hurra before she turns 40 and isn't desirable anymore.

 

[Mike32ct]

Like my dad tells older women, "Honey, it might be your last" lol.

It's because she's "young" at 39.9 but OLD at 40.001.

Gotta love chick logic lol.

 

[logicallefty]

Like my dad tells older women, "Honey, it might be your last" lol.

It's because she's "young" at 39.9 but OLD at 40.001.

Gotta love chick logic lol.

Chick logic? I didn't know they used it. lol

 

[Jaylan]

This is an easy answer that doesnt require overthinking or assuming a woman is worry about her youth at 39.

A woman in her 30s and 40s is more likely to be married. And shes more likely to be in a longer marriage. Considering how common cheating and not so happy marriages are, it wouldnt surprise me that women in their late 30s - late 40s come out as having a high sign up rate for that site. Marriages can become stale, and some people would rather cheat than work on a marriage.

Id expect similar with the men.

I mention 40s because you cannot sit there and really think the ages given on this site are correct. Ive seen some people fudge their ages on OKcupid and POF...and Ive even seen it on Tinder. Given how cautious a cheater would have to be using the internet, itd make sense that a good portion might lie about age just to cover tracks. And of course people lie about it to look more appealing too.

 

[zekko]

Wo men who are 39 years old are more than four times as likely to sign up for Ashley Madison as women aged 38 or 40.

That's interesting. With myself, I've noticed that when I've experienced uneasiness about age milestones, I usually experience them in the "9" years. In other words, I started to worry about turning 40 when I was 39, about turning 50 when I was 49, etc. By the time the milestone actually arrived, I was over it.

Maybe a similar thing is at work here, kicking off a kind of midlife crisis. The women feel they have to do something before their youth completely disappears.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

A while back I dated a 39 year old cougar I met off of POF. I'll spare you guys the details but it didn't end up working out (no bang). Anyways, I saw her on OKCupid a few years later and her age still said 39.

 

[bmp2cpm]

This a programmed biological sex strategy by women. Last opportunity to get a new and possibly better mate before menopause. It's all about having a mutual emotional connection to a new partner who will be kind and generous with resources, e.g. money, emotional sharing, time, support her offspring and eventually support her grandchildren.

From the Evolution of Desire by David Buss

"There are a number of reasons why women's extramarital affairs.....might peak toward the end of their reproductive years. Women at this time are less likely to be so intensely guarded by their husbands.....Older women also suffer fewer costs inflicted at the hands of a jealous husband.....

Affairs may also signal an effort by women to switch mates before their own reproductive value has plummeted. Support for this idea comes from a study of 205 married individuals who had affairs. Fully 72 percent of women but only 51 percent of men are motivated by emotional commitment or long-term love rather than sexual desires in their extramarital dalliances. The fact that women who have affairs are more likely to be unhappy in their mariages and more likely to be emotionally involved with the extramarital partner suggests that they may be using their affairs for the purpose of changing mates."

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear MDJ,
An interesting article....I agree on the need to tolerate adultery where the Family unit is not threatened....very much the Southern European Attitude,where most prosperous Men have a Mistress...
On the posters Question....Thirty nine is about the end of a Womans natural; Fertility....After that it is difficult and ill advised to try for Kids,they may not be conscious of this but it could well be subliminal!

 

[The Duke]

A while back I dated a 39 year old cougar I met off of POF. I'll spare you guys the details but it didn't end up working out (no bang). Anyways, I saw her on OKCupid a few years later and her age still said 39.

I had a similar experience with a girl I dated who was 37 at the time, 4years later I saw her on pof and she is still 37!!! Amazing. She always looked way younger than she was but that doesn't make it right. Once a liar, always a liar.

Girls know they all hit the wall at 40 and begin to lose their sexual market value. They all want to seal the deal before they hit 40. lol, women are stupid.

 

[Frogster]

My wife just turned 40.

I can say for a fact that the last year, there has been a significant difference in her demeanor.

I believe that the BIG 4 0 is a significant milestone in a woman's life. Men peak when we are 19, and a woman's hampster is in high gear at 39 (and 40 for that matter). My wife can't get enough. She'd be happy with 2 to 3 times a night. I'm constantly exhausted, but in a good way

So to protect your marriage, I highly encourage you to rekindle that flame in her late 30s. She's still that girl you fell in love with, and she's getting hornier every day that she approaches 40.

What did I do for my wive's 40th birthday?
I took her to the "Nude Art Show X" in Tulsa. I still remember the look on her face. She was bouncing around like the 16 year old girl that I first met, with a grin from ear to ear.

And you guys are wondering, "Has she cheated on me?"
In 23 years of marriage, could she have cheated? Possibly, everyone can succomb to temptation. Does she love me? I have no doubt.

"What would you do, if you found out she cheated?"
That depends upon a lot of things. I tend to look at this from a Christian perspective. God will forgive me if I make a mistake, and ask for forgiveness. He's not going to forgive me, if I continue in my sin with an unrepentant heart. So it boils down to being a heart issue.

A single indescretion by my wife would most likely be forgiven. If she is unrepentant, and is actively pursuing other relationships, she's gone.

"Aren't you affraid she'll cheat?"
What an AFC thing to ask. Why should I spend my life worrying if my wife will cheat? I'm married to a High Quality woman, I know her character, and I trust her. If she cheats, she cheats. I will cross that bridge when it happens. I'm not going to waste my life worrying about it.

Stimulate her intellect and stimulate her desire. If she's getting it at home, she's less likely to look for it around town.

Unless you're married to a wh0re, but I have no experience with that.

 

[Night-hawk]

Perhaps remnants of the memories of the promises of her youth cling on her and she makes an attempt to prove the invisible toils of age have not yet become visible on HER, and that her value is still real and alive in the loins and minds and hearts of other, younger men.