"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why do you believe things change after mid 30s when it comes of who chases who?

Who Dares Win

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I was wondering which one is the main factor that turns the table once we hit mid 30s.

After an entire life of men chasing women it then starts going the opposite way, we can see it in real life and even online and at dating events.

Cant really tell if the major factor is men libidos and need for validation to decrease or women value to do so compared to younger ones.

Funny thing is that right now Im not as good looking as my late 20s, my hair line is much worse so are the wrinkles in my face yet I get much more interests from women...not that I care that much since my obsession is no longer sex and validation but social power and money.

Quite ironic that when you really want something it gets hard to get it while once your priorities chance, it gets much easier.

Needless to say women my age are invisible to me, dont like how they look and surely dont like how they think and behave.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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zekko

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After an entire life of men chasing women it then starts going the opposite way, we can see it in real life and even online and at dating events.
I agree it starts going in the opposite direction. I'm not sure it actually crosses the line completely, but whatever.

You mentioned some of the reasons, it's a number of different factors. The decrease in sex drive is a big one. Guys in their teens and early 20s are so juiced up, it's one reason why they get all nervous and jumpy around girls. It helps when you realize you don't have to get laid right this minute. Women also feel their biological clock ticking, they're running out of time if they want to find a baby daddy. Men increase in experience as they age, which makes them more smooth socially, and they know what mistakes to avoid. They may have built some muscle and career success, which increases their SMV.

Having a few lines on your face doesn't hurt, IMO. Looking a bit weathered, like you've actually been through something, can be appealing and make you look tougher than having a baby face. Think of Clint Eastwood at his height. It's the difference between looking like a man and a boy.
 

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It's women's desire to find a betabuxx provider for the kids that she had with Chad and Tyrone.

These middle-aged women are shameless. In their 20's they slept around and had kids with a bunch of guys, and now those guys are broke or in jail and they want to find a betabuxx provider to leech off of...

As a guy that's 36 and decently successful in life, I am wary of middle-aged women that shows too interest in me...
 

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It's women's desire to find a betabuxx provider for the kids that she had with Chad and Tyrone.

These middle-aged women are shameless. In their 20's they slept around and had kids with a bunch of guys, and now those guys are broke or in jail and they want to find a betabuxx provider to leech off of...

As a guy that's 36 and decently successful in life, I am wary of middle-aged women that shows too interest in me...
Nothing has changed with me, but I dont look that much older except the grey.
 

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Imo its men reach their peak in confidence and dominance at that age.

Ik when i was younger it was really hard for me to score with women and i was imo above average look wise. However i was lacking many things socially and it affected how i was seen, plus i was literally blind to any indication of interest.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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