"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why do women usually walk away after I cold approach them?

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Bible_Belt said:
Keep in mind that the law defines battery as "unwanted touching." You might be able to get away with a gentle arm pull on a drunk girl in a club, but I wouldn't do it anywhere else. To be fair, I did have a friend once who just stood in the club where people walked by and pawed at the shoulder of every hot girl who walked by. I thought he was nuts, but it worked for him. He was, however, physically very frail and non-menacing.

In regard to why the OP's approaches are not working, I think the answer is simply that the girl knows it's an approach. Don't be so obvious. You think you aren't, but I'm sure you are. Take the "hb" number of any girl, multiply it by ten, and that is the % of strange guys who start talking to her that she disqualifies immediately as creepy weirdos who just want sex.

What makes cold approaching so hard is that you don't have a damn thing in common with a random girl, so she knows that you must just want sex. That's why the few cold approaches that work are conversations that immediately establish common ground, and a reason to talk later. Obviously, you just want to do her, but women always need to pretend it's something more. Even when they just want sex too, they still want to lie to themselves, and more importantly their friends, by saying it's a real relationship. Giving out their number to strangers does not foster that lie.

So you have to make yourself someone who's not a stranger, and it all goes back to having something in common. It can be done with a conversation, but having a common friend together, a class together, often unfortunately a job together - those are the situations that create relationships.
Ok then. I should quit caring about my direct approaches having more of a potentially negative effect than my indirect ones did. An approach is an approach afterall. Wow, women are so logical about these cold approaches than in later parts of attraction. i'll keep approaching direct and eventually something will hit.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You need to move out of your hillbilly town.

If you live in a rural area with most of the women your age married, COME ON!

Move to a downtown center of a major city.
 

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TheAsianLoverReturns said:
You need to move out of your hillbilly town.

If you live in a rural area with most of the women your age married, COME ON!

Move to a downtown center of a major city.
Yes, that'd be great. I have to get a job in a place like that eventually. I'll start sending out applications to larger cities so I can game on in a place that is more target rich. That and in general, there would be so much more to do.
 
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