"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why do women turn me off so much?

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nah i'm not gay if that's what you are wondering, it's just i'm ok with a girl and then we start talking and i lose interest in her, for example i was in the internet today and i was talking to this girl i chat sometimes and i asked her for a coffee a couple times and she refused saying she wanted to wait a little longer, that she doesnt trust men bla bla bla, the same ****ty convo im tired of hearing time and time again. today i insisted and surprinsingly she accepted, i asked for her phone number and she gave me too, but then i started thinking of things she said like she has lots of friends which she sees as brothers, she cant help but feeling nothing for them except friendship, etc etc... i mean im tired of this cliches and i told her: i changed my mind, i dont think we have that much in common, and she became wtf, arent u interested in me? my answer was blocking her...

am i losing my social skills... it seems i prefer being alone than with a girl nowadays :(
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by NeedToImprove
nah i'm not gay if that's what you are wondering, it's just i'm ok with a girl and then we start talking and i lose interest in her, for example i was in the internet today and i was talking to this girl i chat sometimes and i asked her for a coffee a couple times and she refused saying she wanted to wait a little longer, that she doesnt trust men bla bla bla, the same ****ty convo im tired of hearing time and time again. today i insisted and surprinsingly she accepted, i asked for her phone number and she gave me too, but then i started thinking of things she said like she has lots of friends which she sees as brothers, she cant help but feeling nothing for them except friendship, etc etc... i mean im tired of this cliches and i told her: i changed my mind, i dont think we have that much in common, and she became wtf, arent u interested in me? my answer was blocking her...

am i losing my social skills... it seems i prefer being alone than with a girl nowadays :(
A lot of people(not just girls) are just ****in' bubble heads these days. It's what I find tough. I've set up a standard that a girl must not read Cosmo. Filters off most of the idiots. You just got to keep looking for that one that lights you up. Namean?
 

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Sounds like a great time to click on the bible link.

What better day than Christmas.
 

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Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
Sounds like a great time to click on the bible link.

What better day than Christmas.
Shut up midget, this is a tall person thread.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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yep i was in the same boat, then I dated an asian chick and I realised its not all chicks that get on my tits, just most the ones who are born here (which is unfortunate, cause thats the majority) try a chick thats got an old world take on things?
 

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Yeah, I get that a lot as well. It's hard to find a girl that isn't annoying, and when they are, no matter how hot or "skilled" they are, the physical aspect isn't as good. From experience, all of the girls which I thought I hated before I got to know, well, they are the ones that turn out awesome. The emotion is more intense or something. I don't know. Anyway, they are out there.
 

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Originally posted by Egoist
its another sign that you are becoming less of an AFC.

you now know that its not just about being with a woman, its about quality as well.
Yep, nothing wrong with being selective. It's good to be laid-back sometimes, but i think most people are better off going for what they really want in life...especially with women.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It just seems like you're maturing.

You're starting to see beyond appearance, and not making your life complicated by going out with a headcase.

I wouldn't really worry about it man.

It's not a bad thing.

You'll find maybe 2/10 women you meet (especially around my age -- 20) are worth going out with. I also tend to go older. just find them better overall.
 

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Ugh, Yes I agree with this. When I was in my teens and ealry 20s I thought wow, girls girls girls! As I kept dating each one and interacting with more women in their 20s.. I soon found how false it was that women were really smarter than men! Finding a REAL woman who is assertive and comfortable with herself is VERY hard, and let me tell you the truth. Most of these women are MARRIED,, YES MARRIED by before they hit their late 20s. It's not because they were pushing to get married or rushing it, but you will know hen you meet these type of girls who married by their mid 20s that they're the kinda girls that GUYS WANT to hang around because of their great personality not because of their appearance.

If you want to date a girl, Go for the golden years!!! 21-25 before they start turning into sex-and the city/cosmo freaks.

Why 21-25? GIrls under 21 are morons, still teenies. And girls over 25 are becoming the greater "left overs" by men who didn't really want them, and they become more bitter and bitter as the years pass by.
 

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Originally posted by DonJuanMonk
Finding a REAL woman who is assertive and comfortable with herself is VERY hard,
very true, but at the same time, if you area a rare real man, you shouldn't worry about it too much.

but yeah, maybe i am picky, but girls that really truly excite me and very very rare. Maybe like one-two out of a 100 HBs (7.5-10)
 

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Originally posted by Egoist
its another sign that you are becoming less of an AFC.

you now know that its not just about being with a woman, its about quality as well.
I agree. Theres nothing wrong with having standards and knowing what youre looking for. Be patient, talk to lots of girls and youll find some you like.
 
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