"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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why do women start to ignore after seemingly decent interaction?

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they want to know you want them, but that doesnt mean they want to be approached.
very true , and they keep after you to prove to them selves you want them , and the moment you give one IOI they ignore you because they done from you . I can confidently say be kind of rode with them if you want them to stay chase you . I live in Toronto when average professional woman have a decent level of *****iness and rudeness , they look to men in un respectful way , so treating them in the same way is fair game
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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next time you try to fix any woman pc and they try to caht then up look then like she is a strange/ she don't know her place, it funny when they try to chat you up you look then like, are you crazy woman? then leaves without caring what she says, look, did that sometimes on my old job and half woman always tryed to get my atencion in some way, but just that AW at they best, just ignore like the crazy they are.
 

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Dating at work is very different than dating out of work. It all depends on your position in the office. People are constantly watching you and talking about you, so a girl has to be careful who she even talks to in the hall for a brief second. People will assume you are banging or have something going on. Thats why a girl will get to know you quickly, then shut you out like a leper to avoid anyone thinking you have something going on together.

At the office the key players usually benefit from very overt or noticeable benefits they receive (good office, parking, power). This stuff is candy for women, drives them nuts. Women will throw themselves at you if they see you are one of the top dogs of the office like that, even if you are a complete a s s h o l e. It seems to attract them even more if that makes any sense. These guys can pick what girls they work with, who she sits next to, and who to fire if they get too close to a girl they like, and nobody will ever know their true motives. A fine woman will usually try to make herself seem as available to these guys as possible. And so will avoid being seen with you too much or at all if her sites are set so high.

How I personally handle the office hookup:

Be aloof and unaccepting, don't treat anyone like your friend. Just because she's pretty doesn't mean she's cool. If a girl has a technical problem be very open in your conversations with her. Bring other people into your conversations when you can so everything is very public and clear there's no hookup going on. People at the office just love pop culture, watch "Breaking Bad" or something so you have something to talk about that is relevant to what everyone else is talking about.

If you establish a good enough rapport with her and the topic of things done after work comes up always speak in secrecy and hushed tones. You don't want people to know or suspect you are hooking up or hanging out. If she asks just tell her you don't like people at the office knowing your business or personal life. You don't want undesirables infiltrating your group. You don't want her to worry about this stuff either. You want to make her feel special, like you are letting her in on some awesome secret club where coworkers let their hair down and party like animals.

As soon as you get her out in private game her like usual. If she is not receptive cut her ass off completely. She's obviously an idiot for letting things go this far with someone she does not have interests in. She's confused about you and she is going to be confused about other things as well, you don't want an idiot in your crew blabbering about the things you do after work to everybody else just to have something to talk about. And she will...
 

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foreverAFC said:
im a low level IT worker, and i only really talk to them if im helping them set up a piece of equipment or something.
You're low on the totem pole.

Get into something like IT Management. The view is really nice from up here.

And Game chicks outside work.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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