"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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why do women do this?????

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OK I do alright been hanging out with the ladies on and off
BUT their is this ONE. I asked out she dissed me (She would say yes to dinner then bail out later) I liked her and she knew it whatever ,No big deal right.
Anyway this girl is a 10 no doubt we have the mutial friends so when I see her I am nice to her. I won't call her /text message ext. a couple of weeks pass and BAM she starts text messageing my cell sometimes a respond sometime I don't. She never gave me the just friends speech never mentions other guys to me. Why does she want to stay in touch with me??????
ONce a week she will text message me and sometimes call this has been going on for about 2 months now????\
MY friend tells me I am her plan B guy I laughed But it could be true?
has this happened to anyone else before or something similar???????
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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just be the BOSS, sms her to come over to your place the same night she sms's you. something like "be at my place tonight" she will have to reply somehow, dont get emotional over her she is probably teasing you, but if this works out you will have her. keep in mind that if she ask why just reply "because thats what i said" "you have got your orders" "just because".

cheers man
 

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Women do that kind of thing because guys keep putting up with it. It takes at least two people to play a game and she knows that you are usually a willing partner.
 

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Women do this because you continue to reinforce her attention seeking behavior by rewarding her with just enough to affirm her attention based self-image. It's no surprise this girl is an HB 10; she's used to a lot of attention and from many varied sources.
 

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in simple terms: you give her a big ego boost when she needs it.

if she isnt going to go out with you, stop giving her the ego boost.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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she does get alot of attention but
I tell her when her hair looks bad and how it should look when I beat her in any form of compitition I will do a victory dance
As of now I ran into 2 weeks ago and she will text mesage me thurdays or friday morning like clockwork.she will have some random message but she wants me to go where she hangs out on friday and I have not been there in or 7 weeks.
Rollo I dunno how I am rewarding her like I said before sometimes I respond sometimes I don't. If I see her I don't always say goodbye to her now only if shes in the way of the door.

FranciscoI am not putting up with her crap anymore granted I did before and think she noticed the change I don't come a running to where she is if she gives me a message saying hi

penkitten By telling her how her hair looks( good or bad) is that a ego boost?granted I have not said it in over a month and if it is what would be a good solution. I just don't say anything now.
 

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themainevent said:
penkitten By telling her how her hair looks( good or bad) is that a ego boost?granted I have not said it in over a month and if it is what would be a good solution. I just don't say anything now.
yes, because it means you took the time to notice her.
good job by keeping quiet about things you notice about her when she isnt noticing things about you. bravo! you are a fast learner.
 
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