why do we overlook certain people, then feel intense FOMO when they grow or improve in ways that suddenly make them irresistible?

[jhonny9546]

Since I started improving my health and physique, not just to be fit, but to look attractive too, I’ve noticed that some women I’ve known for a while suddenly began showing interest. It felt like they were waiting for that one missing piece.

I’ve realized I do the same. There’s a girl I know and if she focused more on her health, I’d find it hard to even be around her and not be flirty or touchy, I already feel a strong attraction.

It makes me wonder: why do we overlook certain people, then feel intense FOMO when they grow or improve in ways that suddenly make them irresistible?