You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Deep Dish said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Or you could find a woman who doesnt think she owns her man and has the same attitude in health/fitness as you do.Burroughs said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
This is where your moronic estrogen fueled logic fails sugar titz. :crazy: :crazy: :crazy:rearea said:
Everybody changes.PlayHer Man said:
Keep her IL high, and this doesn't happen. I have a sneaky suspicion that you've had trouble in the past with this. Just sayin'.PlayHer Man said:
how long have you been married SD? you need to keep you in shape and to take responsibility for her so she has to stay in shape? you are pulling two trucks man, high IL? if you are talking about marriage, IL has to take a back seat, you are now in the realms of lifelong committment, you both stood and made public vows. they apply equally, they are for grown ups, if you cant keep them, dont fvcking make themspeed dawg said:
Well then.. doesn't that negate her whole f*cking point? :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:speed dawg said:
Shaming tactics?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.