Why Do They keep calling back even when they have dumped you?

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by jnallen

She is a single mother with four kids.

Ohhhh boy... Dude, do NOT date single moms for a billion reasons. Just quit answering the phone. Don't be a chump. get some balls, when she calls you, just HANG UP. How is that so difficult?

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

Re: Re: Why Do They keep calling back even when they have dumped you?

Originally posted by myfriendblu
Ohhhh boy... Dude, do NOT date single moms for a billion reasons. Just quit answering the phone. Don't be a chump. get some balls, when she calls you, just HANG UP. How is that so difficult?

The "pudding" must be tooooooo good for him to leave.


That's the only thing that will keep a man coming back for more punishment.

 

[myfriendblu]

Re: Re: Re: Why Do They keep calling back even when they have dumped you?

Originally posted by Eyecandie4ya
The "pudding" must be tooooooo good for him to leave.


That's the only thing that will keep a man coming back for more punishment.

Na, its becuase he doesn't have any other pudding to go for, bottom line. had he had something else on the back burner or went out and met new women, or READ THE BIBLE, his problem would be solved

 

[jnallen]

myfriendblu

The last post is not it. your first post I beleive.

EyeCandie has it.

Something I learned thru this process. Crazy women are the best sex.

For anyone at this site I highly recommend you visit bpd411.org or bpdcentral.com.

People with pd's populate about 10% of the planet. See the red flags to make sure you do not get caught with one.

I have plenty of women I have dated which is why I haven't been around this site for awhile.

Haven't found anything like her though. But don't get me wrong I don't want to be with her.

These people love drama and chaos. They will ruin everything in your life. I strongly advise you to check it out.

And yes she is super hot. But that is all she had. My needs are deeper than that. Bimbo blond whatever you want to call it. It is what it is.

I agree now like you about the dating single moms thing.

Let me say this. This chick could get anyone in the bar and normally does. But she cannot keep them for longer than three months. Big red flag. Her brother told me about four months after I started dating her that she had been with me longer than anyone since her divorce.

Oh and by the way I am going out tonight with a sweet chick. I just haven't been able to find anyone as exciting as the ex. It is addictive. But she was a bi**h. No one will put up with her for very long even if she didn't have four kids.

 

[thissucks003]

Originally posted by jnallen
I think she thinks I am going to be her backup guy or something.

You pretty much nailed this on the head.

She dumps you to stay with the other guy. The other guy realizes that he doesn't have to put up with her b/s and craziness and he has other options, so he dumps her. She on the other hand doesn't have that many options. I know you said she has many suitors but how many of those are actually quality suitors. I bet whatever is in my pocket that is very few. So, why not go back to old reliable jnallen? Once the guy realizes that she has 4 kids from a previous relationship, and that she is crazy, and is demanding b*tch, he leaves. Who would want to take care of 4 kids that are not his and deal with her issues? Not too many guys believe, except someone who lacks self-esteem and who isn't motivated to go out and find someone better.

My roomate has the same problem with his ex. She is so predictable. You can set your calender to when she will call him. It's always around Spring and around the holidays. She pretty much told him that she is not in love with him. Yet she still calls. Why? Because she doesn't have any better options in her life that will put up with her b/s. She also has a child from a previous relationship so her situation is very similiar to your ex. He finally has gotten tired of her b/s and told her off(in a nice way) that he doesn't want to do anything with her.

Reading your past posts about her, made me want to shake my head. Because I see you falling down the same dead end street that my roomate did and is finally realizing that he has so much more to offer someone else. Make this a wake up call. She did you a humongous favor by dumping you. You can see that she is really not worth the hassle. The only positive I saw in your post is that she is hot. Everything else was a negative IMHO.

You have two options: 1)I would call my phone company and get call blocker added on your service. 2) I would tell her off and make sure she understands that you no longer want her as a friend.

Good Luck,

TS

 

[jnallen]

TS

Did that to the last time she cameback around and I let her. I told her I would not be her backup guy and am not going to be friends with her especially after all the **** she pulled. This made her come on stronger.

You may be right about the quality suitors. I mean this chick was hot but she will not put up with anything. I mean she was like the queen of the flirts and she thought since she was all that that she could do whatever she wanted. Talk about a dumbass. Its hello it takes more than looks to make someone stay.

You are so right about the calender thing. Every two months. this time is was three. May have taken longer for her to find me this time. I don't know why I even went back before I guess I kind of feel sorry for her. I shouldn't. I won't this time.

 

[jnallen]

TS

Oh by the way that was my take to. She is not interested in this guy or he has dumped her.

She had a lot of **** to put up with.

 

[thissucks003]

Originally posted by jnallen
Did that to the last time she cameback around and I let her. I told her I would not be her backup guy and am not going to be friends with her especially after all the **** she pulled. This made her come on stronger.

I am not surprised. When you take something away from someone, they are that much more interested even though it is something that they don't want. It works in sales all of the time. Take it away and they will pretty much bang down your door to get it back.

Originally posted by jnallen
May have taken longer for her to find me this time. I don't know why I even went back before I guess I kind of feel sorry for her. I shouldn't. I won't this time.

I am glad you moved on. I would hate to see you go through the crAp my friend went through. You are on your way to big and better things.

Have a good holiday and get out there socializing and meet as many hunnies as you can.

TS

 

[jnallen]

Thanks TS

It is amazing how deeply this chick had me drawn in. It was embarrassing for a time but I understand more about those with PD's and will never make that mistake again.

 

[myfriendblu]

by PD, you mean personality disorder? oh boy
I don't even need to tell you about those chiks. You know better enough to stay away.

PD + kids = a disaster. I wouldn't date this chik if she was the last female on the planet.

 

[Healer]

Next time she calls, tell her you wanna "fcuk her brains out, meet me in the guys washroom at the burger joint in 15 minutes."

 

[WaterTiger]

The next time she calls, don't let her get past "Hello".

Tell her: We are not dating. We are not friends. I do not want you to contact me again. My lawyer says that I have enough evidence against you to file a harassment suit. If you ever contact me in any way again I will sue you for harassment. Good-bye.

Hopefully this will back her off of you. She sounds like a total nutcase and should be avoided at all costs.

Good luck!

 

[jnallen]

Yes her and her brother both have Personaality Disorders.

He does the same thing with his GF break up and comeback. This was a new experience for me. Never heard of a PD before in my life.

Evidently they do this black/white splitting thing. All good all bad. Essentially they have the emotional maturity of a five year old in an adult body. Except kids you can tell no. These people don't know what that means.

Healer

If I told her that she would say when/where.

WaterTiger

Tried that. I believe she will go away in time and yes she is a nutball. A good looking nutball but none the less overboard.

 

[bp1974]

Sounds like you really don't know what the f*ck you want. Any sane man would have made sure she got the message to leave you alone months ago.

Seems like you enjoy hearing from her and thinking about why she's doing it. Either get her out of your life or don't, but don't pretend it's all her craziness, because it isn't. If you really wanted her out of your life by now, she'd be out.

 

[jnallen]

Dude

I have told her that. I don't see her. I moved 35 miles away from where she lives. Changed every number but my business cell number which I stand to loose old customers from if I changed. She does not know where I live, where I work now. Had to change jobs to prevent that.

Did you read the whole post?

The only other thing I can do is get a restraining order. Beleive me with her this is a waste of time.

After doing the above and not contacting her how is it anything to do with me agging her on or whatever.

And yes it is all about her.

 

[ZeeOwl]

Originally posted by Starman
hahaha 4 kids?? jesus christ..just the noise of them running around would drive me nuts..

Hey Starman. Wanna know just how nuts I am. Remember my "Still hung up on ex" and "Testing 1...2...3..." threads? Yeah, that was the same woman. She has 5 kids. hahahahah! Weeee!!!! You can't catch me! hahahaha!!!

 

[jnallen]

This chick had four and wanted another. Wanted one with me. God I am glad I got out.

And she wants to know why we can't have sex anymore. oh my god that would be dangerous.

Talk about a trap. Chicks motives like this are scary.

 

[ZeeOwl]

Originally posted by jnallen
This chick had four and wanted another. Wanted one with me. God I am glad I got out.

Talk about a trap. Chicks motives like this are scary.

You've got a winner there. And I thought mine was bad. Yikes! Read my "Testing 1...2...3..." thread to see another example of this personality type, though not anywhere near as bad as your's. Maybe we could trade notes.

I don't think it was a trap, just irresponsible. She would have dumped you even if you'd had a kid with her. Mine had 5, and was hinting at wanting another with me. Her kids were fine though, except her oldest which was a brat (13yo girl). I love kids, so got really attached to them too.

Why you get hooked on these chicks: Looks in part (mine was a 7, 8 when she was dolled up), sex (mine was near nympho, and loved pleasing me), and thrills (they are exciting to be around). I think they appeal to the savior/hero side of the masculine psyche too. Like you said, a lot of men are attracted to them,... until they get to know them.

The one I knew would probably be salvageable with therapy, but I think your's is way past any hope of recovery. It's sad for the kids...

 

[jnallen]

Z

Yes we will definately have to swap stories. A T told me about her and said she probably has a PD.

She could never make up her mind. It could drive you nuts. You make plans they are cancelled. She was the queen of flirts. Cheated, lied in a subtle way.

She leaves and you get over it. Then out of the blue here she comes. Calling probably because she go dumped or dumped him.

She use to goto the bar and bring home 30 flowers and say hey lookat all the flowers the guys bought me tonight. Totally immature, naive. Didn't work, cook or clean arounf the house.

Her way or the highway attitude, would not put up with anything. Though she was all that. Her kids were total brats. She was always screaming at them. Everything you did with her had to be with her totally messed up family which caused us all kinds of problems. It was like she wanted to start fights. Tried her best to make you jealous. Must have been insecure. She did so much stupid **** it isn't worth listing. My time with her was with her and her kids. Our time alone was spent with us doing seperate activities with friends.

Never appreciated anything you did for her. Like she expected it. She was a total B. One of the last things she did is come out of nowhere at a bar I was out and beat the hell out of some chick I was talking to. I didn't even know this chick.

Sound like yours. Every once in a while it helps to remember how bad it truly was. The sad part is at one time I was GA Ga over this chick.

1utfan1 helped me thru getting away from her back in Feb. He was a lot of help when I slipped into temporary insanity for a bit.

This post is not big enough to list the bad qualities she had and the good quality if she had any was a three letter word. That is it.

The problem I had is that I was married to my HS sweetheart for 16 yrs. So when I started dating I had been out of the game for a long time. This was a nightmare because this was only the second chick I dated after my divorce. The first one was a stripper that wanted to get married after dating for three months. I ran. Only problem is I ran into this train wreck of a woman.

And I let this chick move in with me after 4 months of dating.

Can you say I will always be single?

I will read your thread. Thanks.

 

[ShortyBrown]

You're as phucking bad as each other.

Women who have been dumped frequently go back to the scene of the crime because they do not have a sense of closure. Closure that was the responsibility of the dumper (i.e the MAN) to give. Since you have a big ego and are clearly feeding off of this, you probably didn't think that you had to have the balls to tell her straight up that you did not want to see her again.

Dude
I have told her that. I don't see her. I moved 35 miles away from where she lives. Changed every number but my business cell number which I stand to loose old customers from if I changed. She does not know where I live, where I work now. Had to change jobs to prevent that.The only other thing I can do is get a restraining order. Beleive me with her this is a waste of time.

After doing the above and not contacting her how is it anything to do with me agging her on or whatever.

Muthafukkin' bull****. Where there's a will there's a way. You're loving this. Grow up.