Why do some women fall for AFC behavior?

[joey2times]

I know this girl who is a friend of my girlfriend. This girl is easily an HB8 and I don't say that lightly. I'm very harsh when it comes to women's looks.

So, this girl is trying to break away from the loser chump she's been dating. We've set her up with successful, goodlooking guys. She goes on a couple of dates with them, but it never seems to work out.

This loser chump ex of hers keeps calling her and whining about how much he loves her and how he wants her back. This guy literally calls 30 times per day. And guess what, she's thinking about going back to him!!!!!!!!!

This is the same girl who complained about what an abusive, clingy jerk this guy was. How she couldn't stand being around him. Now after all his begging and pleading she's thinking of going back to him?????

How does this jive with the advice we're given on this board? They say to play it cool, give her space and not come crawling back. This guy is doing the EXACT opposite and it seems to be working.

 

[guru1000]

When she gets back with him, it will not last for more than a few months. She has no respect for him therefore the relationship is DEAD. She goes back because she misses the good times but inevitably he is not a MAN in her eyes.
The relationship is over.

 

[marinetti]

she's put effort into the relationship, and anytime someone puts effort into something, it feels more valuable to them. how many guys on here have stayed in a long term relationship, even though it's obviously not in their best interests? They may be scared of committing to end it, or not want to be single, etc. But it mostly comes down to a fear of letting go of something they've committed to.

Girls make these kinds of judgment errors too sometimes. Sounds like she's doing the same thing now. Although you should give her space, and not whine about how dumb this relationship is, maybe if you take her out and do something she enjoys, make sure she has fun, she'll realize that she's not having fun with this guy and will dump him faster.

Other than that, like most men, you just have to wait it out. I guess AFC can also mean average frustrated chick.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

She can control him easier.

Some women like doormats. These same women will generally not bother with Dons like yourselves.

Believe it, there are women who will avoid DJs who have confidence, bigtime, because they'd rather have a chump who they can manipulate. She's toying with this guy and enjoying it too.

Yeah, sure, one day she'll get tired of him and dump him for some other chump, but for now, I guess he serves his purpose.

She probably gets lots of money and gifts off him and in some twisted way, this is love to her. God help her when a DJ comes along and changes her outlook.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

She can control him easier....

:yes: This is why "nice guys" are so popular, at least until they get bored and get swept away by a "bad boy." But then the bad boy cheats on them and they get upset so they look for another nice guy to exact their vengeance of control over a man.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

You're right of course.

 

[Dilberto]

It's all a vicious circle, they spin around on. Women love DJs.....but also want a guy they can stomp all over too. A true-blue DJ will have none of that. This explains why alot of women vacillate from DJs, to marshmallow males. The ideal male for them, is really one who can evenly BALANCE nice-guy traits, with some non-needy, DJ qualities(requires TACT and practice). In other words- ALWAYS keep them guessing.....and you got them by both nipples.