"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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why do some girls mysteriously lose interest

WORKEROUTER

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Who the fukk cares why some girls mysteriously lose interest?

Only think about perfecting yourself and eliminating your own weaknesses; whatever the broad wants to do is of her own concern.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Only think about perfecting yourself and eliminating your own weaknesses; whatever the broad wants to do is of her own concern."

---There's not much substance to this statement. Self perfection is an impossible, exhausting, self defeating goal. I would use the term self improvement instead; this goal should include developing one's intuition to better understand others, rather than attempting to ignore their interests to focus only on yourself. The entire point of DJ'ing is to develop the social skills and confidence necessary to approach new people so that we can enjoy our time with them. It doesn't make any sense to recommend that we ignore other's actions or concerns if our goal is to develop relationships with other people, does it? A DJ never fawns over women or accedes to ridiculous games or demands to be sure, but this is not the same as advocating a complete insensitivity to others. Let's set it straight. Callousness and selfishness are not part of the DJ program, bro.
 

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^^^^^^

I think you are missing his point. He is pretty much just saying dont worry about her actions (i.e. IL falling), because there is nothing you can do about it. Sometimes, no matter what games or moves you pull, you cannot make her IL climb. These are the times that it is best to let go.
 

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You have to take a few things into consideration:

FIRST OF ALL... and Ive said it before... you cant expect EVERY HOT GIRL will work for you. A girl being hot isnt reason enough to marry her. Compatibility is reason #1. Some people get married and ralize YEARS later they just are not compatable in some situations. Compatibility issues cause sudden drops in IL

Second... missplaced expectations. I am sexy, but not sexually experienced. Once, I had seduced a girl with a BF of two years who had only slept with her BF before to take me to her dorm. She was all over me, ripping my clothes off and going down on me. I fumbled with the condom for 5 min, she looked at me really confused. After 5 min of less than mindblowing sex, she asked me to leave. Also, Im young. I go to bars and women meet me thinking Im "the one." They find out Im 18 and literally get depressed. First impressions lead to a lot of expectations, if you dont meet them, interest level drops.

Third... they find another guy. Self explanitory

Fourth... you dont escalate. Already elaborated on earlier in the thread.

Fifth... they get scared of their own attraction/attachement
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

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Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
Who the fukk cares why some girls mysteriously lose interest?

Only think about perfecting yourself and eliminating your own weaknesses; whatever the broad wants to do is of her own concern.
Easier said than done, my friend. Seems like you've had similar issues as well as of late based on your recent threads, so I'm sure you can now relate.

It's the right attitude, but at the same time, we're only human, and that sort of stuff can sometimes bring out the worst in us as far as curiosity goes. We all strive to try to explain that which we can't understand.
 

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Originally posted by TonyTheTigerOI
Fourth... you dont escalate. Already elaborated on earlier in the thread.
Can someone clarify "escalation?" Most of my relationships end way after I've buttered her toast. How does one escalate a relationship after having done the deed?
 
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Jon Boy, were you sexing them??
 

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IF I'm reading this correctly...

You're flirting with them, and going out for 2 months without bedding them?

If that's true, then it's a wonder they even hung out with you that long.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by TonyTheTigerOI


Fifth... they get scared of their own attraction/attachement
What is this? Can you elaborate? I'm not sure about this one...
 

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Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
...whatever the broad wants to do is of her own concern.
nuff said....
 

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I got stood up tonight by a girl who asked me out earlier this week. I contacted her today to confirm our date and she ignored me.

Most times it's nothing we do or don't do. Women are just erratic and act on whims and moodswings, and there's no logical explanation to be found. As guys on here have already said, just let her do what she does and take no notice.
 
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