"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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why do some girls date down

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one of these girls is 20 and the other is like 27
can i ask u why some girls the ones i knew get involved with guys who are dealers-break the law, pothead-stupid ,"but he was fun to hang out with, even more fun when he was high", pretty much low life losers -funny thing is the girl is univ educated graduate and going to bcit now too. so why she hang out with a pothead loser that smokes it all the time.
she tells me shes the party type and does crazy things-huh what is crazy things. lol hahah

u think she go for the univ doctor, lawyer, accountant and big shot guy hey but no. weird hey.

why get involved with a dealer, pothead drop out, in the first place anyways. i mean whast next hanging out with welfare bums lol
you think some girls would date up so ur status is higher. dating up is a term. who dates down to lowlifes
lets say your a girl and you went to private school, got a univ bach education why the heck would you date and be with a pothead HS dropout , a dealer. lol good luck introducing them to your family. mine lol i be disowned.

-even my folks say this---another question would a doctor want to marry/date a garabage man. ????? i don't think so. it happens ,but its far and few between. doctor would usually marry.date another doctor or another high end profession. you want to date better a higher status person, go better yourself , get a higher education and a higher paying job. higher status means more respect and honour. less people will look down on you and belittle you.

the term dating up. getting up the social ladder. so why did these girls go for these kind of guys:the Highschool drop out, dealer, smokes weed like all day everyday,
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Because they are boring and need somebody else's stronger frame to leach off of. They go with the flow, and somebody else's more exciting life, although chaotic, is better than their uneventful life. People that get bored so easily by themselves tend to be boring people. It is a value trade.
 

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DjD is right. If it was just about money and/or looks women would never settle on one particular guy because there will always be some guy who will cross her path who looks better or has more money. What it comes down to is how a guy makes her feel about herself when she's with him. Frankly, doctors and lawyers aren't typically known for being the most exciting people other than on television.
 

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Just like Francisco said, it's all about how they feel around the guy. When girls get older, they seek things like monetary security and social value so they'll marry a big-shot to obtain those two things. They feel better when they're side to side with an important male figure. They also feel better when they're having great sex, so sometimes they end up f*cking pool boys to get sexually satisfied.
 

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Who’s to say that all potheads are losers/lowlifes/stupid/dropouts? Sounds like you’ve bought too much into the propaganda.

There are plenty of highly educated, high powered professionals that smoke marijuana on a regular basis. I went through high school and four years of college with straight A’s and smoked on a regular basis. Of course I didn’t go to class high; I’m much more responsible than that.

On a very basic level there is little difference between a businessman who makes himself a martini to help unwind at the end of the day, a construction worker who throws back a few beers at the end of his day, or a designer who smokes a bowl at the end of his day.

What you seem to not understand is that women, like many men, like to be turned on, to have adventures, and feel the thrill of being alive. Marijuana is also an aphrodisiac like no other.

Sometimes one’s opinions can be misleading. I tend to grow my hair long and dress rather casually. Many times over I have heard people make the complaint to a woman that was interested in me, “What do you see in that hippie?” The short answer is that I turn her on. The reality is that I am educated, and am highly successful, so successful that I don’t have to live or dress like everyone else. While some people will look at me and think that I’m a low life, the women that I meet never think that – and especially not my doctor.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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joe45 said:
u think she go for the univ doctor, lawyer, accountant and big shot guy hey but no. weird hey.
Accountants are the most fun, exciting people in the world! :yawn:

I use marijuana sometimes as a tool to help me meet new people and improve my social abilities, and it works.
 

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yes these drug dealers, pothead ...etc might be good ppl deep inside yes i understand ,but do u really want to hang oout with them. lol
u never now when ur eating at a restaurant that a guy driving by might shoot you, why gang related shooting. ya it happens even if ur not into the drug industry,but a lot lot higher if you are. u w ant to be in that crossfire, u want to now ur buddie got shot-not me. i mean i still talk to him if hes a good friend, but i won't want to hang out with him a lot -why-dangerous. its a dangerous business. you endangering your life. thats all

ppl say you date you date for the person and not his status and rank. you think a girl whos univ educated with a master degree and good 6 figure job would really really be dating a guy with a community college 2 yr schooling and working as a office clerk and making a little over minimum wage-happens its damn rare. my friend is the community college guy, and even he said i doubt she date me. they went out once and that was it. she dating a mba guy now.
 

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ppl say you date you date for the person and not his status and rank. you think a girl whos univ educated with a master degree and good 6 figure job would really really be dating a guy with a community college 2 yr schooling and working as a office clerk and making a little over minimum wage-happens its damn rare. my friend is the community college guy, and even he said i doubt she date me. they went out once and that was it. she dating a mba guy now.
my buddie had no car and he buses everywhere. he can get a car, but chooses not to since he like to keep his expenses down. and he had girls make a big deal as to why he has no car, and when he was goin to get a car. he buses out to her area and location to hang out with her(40 min bus ride). we live in vancouver and transit is pretty good.

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not every girl is motivated primarily by money.

some girls already have all the money they want (sugar daddy) and are just interested in a HOT looking guy or some guy who is COOL and has a fun personality, knows the ins and the outs of the streets and is the LIFE at a party.
 
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Maybe the girls don't consider it "DATING DOWN" because the guy knows how to act properly and get her interested.

I have seen guys pimping on FOOT but have game and still get the girl.

There is no "dating down" it's all in the eye of the beholder.
 
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