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Why do non-white guys chase after meh/10 white women

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I’m half American/half black and I also live in a predominantly white environment.

I’ve dated a middle eastern, Caribbean, Latina and black (plus maybe a white woman too).

I agree it’s harder for “average” black males to get dates w/ opposite races. I approached an Indian (I made a post about it) and that didn’t go well. I also do cold approaches on white, middle eastern and Latina women which usually go cold. I do have some self improvement to do (though we all)

But comparing beauty the black girls I f*** were more beautiful. Especially body wise.

Though I don’t go for white/lighter skin for the aesthetic (I personally love the darker skin), it just tends to be what I’m usually surrounded by. Plus majority of black woman have BPD. Sadly Beckies do too!

Though I agree, a black male can get a higher quality (beauty wise) if he sticks with his race. Maybe a good woman overall too!? I need to get back to dating my own women.
Yeah, you can't be approaching an Indian chick as a black guy the same way you would for white or black women. They are a different nut to crack, but once you figure them out, they are much easier to tolerate than white women.
 

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Why is it that when white guys fetishize Latin, Asian, and ethnic women, the response is always positive such as "yeah more feminine women bro, screw the feminists" or "yeah bro passportbro!"?
I will say that white guys who fetishize latinas, asians, etc. are pretty fvcking weird. And I say that as a white guy myself. That's not to say that a white guy being attracted to a latina or asian girl is automatically weird...but "fetishizing" other races most certainly is.
 

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Yeah, you can't be approaching an Indian chick as a black guy the same way you would for white or black women. They are a different nut to crack, but once you figure them out, they are much easier to tolerate than white women.
It depends.

I talked to two Indians both were receptive. I felt like I made things weird by my own actions.

One of them were really receptive but I ghosted her because she wasn’t that attractive to me.

The other one was somewhat appalled when I told her I was dating for marriage.

It’s not impossible, it’s just harder. If I was Indian I would only date Indians lol. I value marriage/family. I’m just stuck in the middle causally talking to women trying to figure it out.
 

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I will say that white guys who fetishize latinas, asians, etc. are pretty fvcking weird. And I say that as a white guy myself. That's not to say that a white guy being attracted to a latina or asian girl is automatically weird...but "fetishizing" other races most certainly is.
Any fetishization is cringey. If you can pull a hot girl of another race, go ahead lol. However, when you are putting them on a pedestal for no reason then that's weird.
 

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Any fetishization is cringey.
Agreed. Fetishization of other races is particularly weird considering that people are naturally tribal in their mindset. We are naturally more attracted to those who look like us than those who don't. Being more attracted to other races is kind of like being gay. It happens but it's not exactly natural.
 

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Agreed. Fetishization of other races is particularly weird considering that people are naturally tribal in their mindset. We are naturally more attracted to those who look like us than those who don't. Being more attracted to other races is kind of like being gay. It happens but it's not exactly natural.
I wouldn't say all because I do not want to date someone that looks like my sister or cousin. However, I will agree this is true for most people. The manosphere has spread this false narrative that women are out here looking for complete men that are the complete opposite of them. 9 times out of 10, a woman is going to end up dating someone that is similar to her in looks, social status, culture/community, and connivence wise. Your average working class white girl in Des Moines, Iowa is more than likely going to date your average working-class white guy in Des Moines, Iowa not be focused on finding some rich six pack surgeon in Miami, Florida.
 

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I will say that white guys who fetishize latinas, asians, etc. are pretty fvcking weird. And I say that as a white guy myself. That's not to say that a white guy being attracted to a latina or asian girl is automatically weird...but "fetishizing" other races most certainly is.
Everyone has their preferences, I've lots of flags, I'm equal opportunity, but I sure love me my Latinas...

Polque?


 

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I like girls from Russia, Belarus, Ukraine, Slovakia, Czechia, Baltic states. I rarely date other nationalities. I'm not a weirdo ;)
You are white and they are white too

Does not matter the nationality, as long as the race ( skin color and other features ) is the same
 

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Agreed. Fetishization of other races is particularly weird considering that people are naturally tribal in their mindset. We are naturally more attracted to those who look like us than those who don't. Being more attracted to other races is kind of like being gay. It happens but it's not exactly natural.
We like it or not, depending on the race you get social status or not ( depending also where you are )

For example Africans like white people but are racist towards the American blacks

Most Asians like white people but are racists towards blacks and other Asians

That is why you get a lot of “passport bros” flying to Asia, because the dream of most girls there is to marry a white guy. Asian women put whitening cream on their face so they can look whiter. White skin is a flex in Asian countries. No one wants to get a tan there

Indians are the same, the darker your skin the more racist they are. Also there the dream of most girls is to marry a white guy

Sure, for high caliber women of other races just being white is not enough. You have to be a high caliber guy as well, but if you go for average or bellow average girls … just being white is a big advantage that you have ( especially if there are not that many white guys around )

“Fetishes” towards other races is mainly a white man thing because he just has an easier time getting one.

Same as fat white women prefer black guys because they know that black guys like thick bodies on average

The white guy, unless he is desperate , will not bang a fattie. But a black guy very likely would. That is why fat white women have also a “fetish” for other races

I had a time when I was into Latinas ( mainly because I liked their look + how easier it was ) , living in Spain is full of them, but then I kinda realized that you can not really have a relationship with them. They are bat sh1t crazy in the vast majority of cases + they tend to be small in height ( not that amazing genes for children )

They are fun but not more than that

Again, depends what you are looking for. I am more interested now in finding a baby mama rather than just banging someone

Also the higher caliber you are, the more you will be in demand by other races too ( does not matter you gender )

If you are a an average Indian for example very difficult you will date outside your race. But if you are a handsome and high value Indian guy you can basically date any race you want at the same tier as you
 
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Today at the gym, there's this gorgeous Indian or Pakistani girl working out and she decides to do the bend over exercises in front of me while I work out. I automatically assume she has a boyfriend and what the guy looks like. Drum Roll, I was correct because her boyfriend was just at the other corner of the gym. He was a tall, but lanky looking Indian or Pakistani guy that was definitely pulling above his league. Now, if this guy would've gone for a white woman, there's no way in fvcking hell he would pull a similar caliber woman to his current gf.
Questions:

Do you blatantly stare at the girl doing those bend over moves in front of you?
Was the indian guy atleast goodlooking in the face?
 

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Questions:

Do you blatantly stare at the girl doing those bend over moves in front of you?
Was the indian guy atleast goodlooking in the face?
I try not to, but if it is in front of me, it's hard not to in general.
The Indian guy was average looking, just tall and lanky.
 

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@CornbreadFed

I think a lot of non western cultures see white women as the pinnacle of female beauty. Just about every culture is obsessed with lighter skin, hair and eyes. You can see this in India, Japan, Iran, etc. White people in general are the most preferred race for both men and women, the only real competition with this is Asian women are also highly sought out for. There have been some surveys that studied this, basically every race was likely to be open to interacting with a white person, either man or woman, and every race of man also liked Asian women, though it doesn't work the other way around. Outside of this, most races generally date within their own.

As a white American man, I regularly find white, Asian and hispanic women as attractive. Black women for me is a rare thing but it has happened before, though they typically are much lighter skinned and almost mixed looking.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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I am not sure if I am the only one that notices this but it seems like of the white women that look good and go interracial, a good chunk of them tend to be more brunettes than anything. Everyone will refute it by saying "well that's because brunettes are the most common". I get that but I have been in environments that had a lot of "blondes" too (whether natural or not). Outside of dating some top tier black or ethnic dude, I don't see the typical hot blonde go interracial that much. Again, this is in environments where you have both blonde and brunette white girls present in around the same quantity.

The more a white girl makes herself appear darker than she is (ie: Megan Fox), the more I feel like she ends up getting with a guy that isn't white whether casually or long-term.

One of my wings who was an Arab guy tried this theory, he actually went out and only approached white girls that were blondes and then only approached those who were brunettes. He also made sure these girls looked hot and he was in a city that was mostly white.

The outcome? All of his awful blowouts and rejections came from blondes. A good chunk of his numbers, dates, and lays came from brunettes. He found that with brunettes, he could get higher quality than he did a blonde.
 

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I am not sure if I am the only one that notices this but it seems like of the white women that look good and go interracial, a good chunk of them tend to be more brunettes than anything. Everyone will refute it by saying "well that's because brunettes are the most common". I get that but I have been in environments that had a lot of "blondes" too (whether natural or not). Outside of dating some top tier black or ethnic dude, I don't see the typical hot blonde go interracial that much. Again, this is in environments where you have both blonde and brunette white girls present in around the same quantity.

The more a white girl makes herself appear darker than she is (ie: Megan Fox), the more I feel like she ends up getting with a guy that isn't white whether casually or long-term.

One of my wings who was an Arab guy tried this theory, he actually went out and only approached white girls that were blondes and then only approached those who were brunettes. He also made sure these girls looked hot and he was in a city that was mostly white.

The outcome? All of his awful blowouts and rejections came from blondes. A good chunk of his numbers, dates, and lays came from brunettes. He found that with brunettes, he could get higher quality than he did a blonde.
Yes blonde women have attitudes more so than other women plus blonde women are not that hot
 

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Yes blonde women have attitudes more so than other women plus blonde women are not that hot
Objectively, they are the most desired, especially by wealthier and well off man. I just never got why ethnic dudes, especially Middle Eastern, South American, and darker Mediterranean guys are super obsessed with them.

However, if you are a minority with a thing for white women, just game brunettes. You can get a good big for your buck often. I swear, brunettes just have lower standards overall.
 

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Objectively, they are the most desired, especially by wealthier and well off man. I just never got why ethnic dudes, especially Middle Eastern, South American, and darker Mediterranean guys are super obsessed with them.

However, if you are a minority with a thing for white women, just game brunettes. You can get a good big for your buck often. I swear, brunettes just have lower standards overall.
True
 

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I am not sure if I am the only one that notices this but it seems like of the white women that look good and go interracial, a good chunk of them tend to be more brunettes than anything. Everyone will refute it by saying "well that's because brunettes are the most common". I get that but I have been in environments that had a lot of "blondes" too (whether natural or not). Outside of dating some top tier black or ethnic dude, I don't see the typical hot blonde go interracial that much. Again, this is in environments where you have both blonde and brunette white girls present in around the same quantity.
I have mostly dated blondes, but I prefer brunettes or red heads. It just seemed like all of my friends growing up were obsessed with the country blonde or sorority blonde girl type and they just gave me the ick.
 
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