"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why do my buddys always go home alone?

Desire

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I have two friends that is 20 and 25 years old. They are very handsome and sexy and look like moviestars both of them. The youngest one is my best friend and I have known him for about 3 years.

We have party almost every weekend and the women always show they are interested in them, and following them. But in the end they walk home alone. I think its petty, and wonder why they don't use their handsomeness to favck all those beautiful and sexy women.

They are ****y and funny and it seems that they have all traits that's needed for seducing.
What can be wrong? Is it fear?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dear Desire,
They are good Fishermen,casting their line into a Waterhole that has no fish in it.
 

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crazyboy said:
I dont if you guys ever heard of quality over quanity.If you ever had a bunch women chasing then you know its not smart to sleep with every girl in there clique unless course there just a bunch hoes. Almost some dudes like me go out knowing they got ***** wait for them as soon they leave party or club. So it doesnt matter if i gets women number or not.
Better to bag five 4s then to bag one 8. 20>8. If there are 3somes or moresomes, you get to multiply. A threesome with 4s is worth 16.
 

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Maybe they're walking home to the same place? Are you sure they're not riding each other's discostick? Having a 46-year-old supposedly female friend and all that.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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scrouds said:
Better to bag five 4s then to bag one 8. 20>8. If there are 3somes or moresomes, you get to multiply. A threesome with 4s is worth 16.
Better for you not for me. When women judge by you looks already percieve you as a player then banging 4 and 5 just aint going have to happen. I would rather be percieve as a player then to bang 40 women that were less than appetitizing.I take away my own allure when if i were go bang 4s. Like i said quality over quanity for me. Just how i operate.
 

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scrouds said:
Better to bag five 4s then to bag one 8. 20>8. If there are 3somes or moresomes, you get to multiply. A threesome with 4s is worth 16.
I like that method.

To get to the OP's question. Here is the downside of being a guy...

Young guy = Plenty of sexual opportunities are thrown at you. But you might not have the experience to notice them or the confidence and/or skill to close the deal.

Older guy = You can spot the opportunites, and you have the confidence/skill to close the deal. But you get far less opportunities.
 

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samspade said:
It's all about game. Talking to girls is easy; getting a number close or F-close for that matter takes discipline and practice. .
...and balls.

I guess it is fear. F close takes guts.
 

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Mike32ct said:
I like that method.

To get to the OP's question. Here is the downside of being a guy...

Young guy = Plenty of sexual opportunities are thrown at you. But you might not have the experience to notice them or the confidence and/or skill to close the deal.

Older guy = You can spot the opportunites, and you have the confidence/skill to close the deal. But you get far less opportunities.
Good observation.

Many good looking guys dont get laid because they miss the signals or dont have confidence and blow opportunities when presented.

The average looking guy while given less opportunities knows how to seize upon them when presented and ends up getting laid more than the clueless good looking guy.

Ive seen this scenario played out many times.
 

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Where are they going to party? Is this a house party, club, or bar. Clubs are extremely difficult to take home girls from for obvious reasons. Bars are less difficult but its still not the norm to bring home attractive chicks here. House parties are the easiest to hook up with chicks from. Is it very possible to pull chicks from a house party.

The sad reality is that most guys that go out to party, return home alone. Even if they are handsome and have game. The conversion rate for even the best "PUA's"/players it is no more than 15% if that. If your scoring with 10% of the chicks you approach then you are phenomenal. At its core its a numbers game, people often forget this. Your friends are in good company. Tell them to keep approaching and tell them to stay out of bars and clubs and focus on house parties. They need to expand their social circle. Most of the hook ups occur becuz of connections within your social circle.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Definitely sounds like either (a) seeking "the one", (b) not closing properly either due to inability/fear/lack of desire, etc. Man I've been down that road myself ... most of the time I went home alone was because I wasn't assertive enough ... I hadn't mentally resolved the close, was letting the "winds of life" dictate things ... unfortunately that seems to only get so far. One recent lesson I've learned: KINO KINO KINO. Smile nod, do all the stuff to get them lit, but if you are not hitting on KINO it's going to be a tough battle...and furthermore, trying to establish kino far after you've failed to initiate becomes uphill too....(1) initiate (2) rapport (3) kino kino kino (4) close....
 

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Desire said:
I have two friends that is 20 and 25 years old. They are very handsome and sexy and look like moviestars both of them. The youngest one is my best friend and I have known him for about 3 years.

We have party almost every weekend and the women always show they are interested in them, and following them. But in the end they walk home alone. I think its petty, and wonder why they don't use their handsomeness to favck all those beautiful and sexy women.

They are ****y and funny and it seems that they have all traits that's needed for seducing.
What can be wrong? Is it fear?
I'll bet dollars to donuts they're not sexually escalating, aka trigger anxiety, for fear of losing the girl(s).
 

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When you described them as handsome and sexy and walked home alone, a funny thought comes to mind.

Do you ever wonder if they walk home together without you knowing?
 

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L B said:
When you described them as handsome and sexy and walked home alone, a funny thought comes to mind.

Do you ever wonder if they walk home together without you knowing?
LOL thats a new way to look at it. Stranger things have happened.
 

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scrouds said:
Better to bag five 4s then to bag one 8. 20>8. If there are 3somes or moresomes, you get to multiply. A threesome with 4s is worth 16.
Wrong! It is not additive.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ridingthelightning said:
Wrong! It is not additive.
If anything, it should be subtractive.
If you do five 4s, you should lose 20 points.
:)
 

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scrouds said:
Better to bag five 4s then to bag one 8. 20>8. If there are 3somes or moresomes, you get to multiply. A threesome with 4s is worth 16.
I'd rather bag one 10, two 9s and three 8's. I'd rather have one solid, consistent 9 or 8 than even thousands of 4's lol.
 

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Why do my buddys always go home alone? Reply to Thread

Mostly perception to some body not likes to each other there will be serious responsibilities and likes and dislikes so never we argument against any one.
 
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