Why do men fall in love faster than women?

[ThisNThat]

If you even google the above phrase you'll get a psychologist that has studied this. But apparently, there's some psychological reason why men fall faster than women, with women it takes longer.

Then I realized i had female friends that had told me situations, even with people in their 50s, dating, that the men tend to act like love sick kids/puppies no matter what their age when they start falling for a woman.

I had a female friend, in her early 50s, that was dating this guy, they must've dated for 6 or 7 times. But she wasn't quite "there" yet. But he sent her flowers on V-day and had expressed how he feels like a young school boy around here.

She did like him, but she was like "WOAH! Pump the brakes dude!"

Was even kind of a turn off for her when he did this, and I was kind of surprised men this age did it. lol

But I have heard women complain about the guys they just start dating moving too fast, referring to them as "honey, sweetie" or things boyfriends say to girlfriends, but to her...they don't consider each other a couple...just....dating. Nothing more.

I knew of a guy that brought a date with him to a party, and was offering to get drink or snanke for her when he went on over to the refreshment table...and apparently she found it annoying. I think he did it once for the drink, then did it later for snacks and she was like "Man, he needs to chill out."

And I thought, "Wow, such an ingrateful *itch...you're his date and you treat him like this?"

No wonder men have stopped being gentlemenn, right? lol

 

[Urbanyst]

Only men without abundance.

A lot of men are desperate and it shows.

 

[ThisNThat]

Only men without abundance.

A lot of men are desperate and it shows.

How can falling in love faster be in any way related to being desperate?

 

[Urbanyst]

How can falling in love faster be in any way related to being desperate?

When you are dying of hunger, a rotten egg can be a gourmet meal.

Know what I mean?

 

[resilient]

 

[Mike32ct]

I don't know why. I just know that, in general, men are the romantic ones, not women.

The better question is, do women fall in love at all lol?

They see a husband as an appliance. It's there to serve your needs, but you don't necessarily fall in love with it lol.

 

[ThisNThat]

I don't know why. I just know that, in general, men are the romantic ones, not women.

The better question is, do women fall in love at all lol?

They see a husband as an appliance. It's there to serve your needs, but you don't necessarily fall in love with it lol.

Yeah, I mean, I would read how old timers (men from WW II) would just point out a woman at the USO and say to his friend, "See that woman! I'm gonna MARRY HER!"

He ships off, comes back, gets married, babies, grand babies and then great grand babies.

Easy peazy, and women easily mostly said yes to guys back then, no game playing, no flaking. You didn't have to worry about a height requirement either. Short dudes, tall dudes, all you had to be was a gentleman!

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

The shift in society made it so. It isn't supposed to be like this.

 

[El Payaso]

What @Urbanyst said.

Desperation, lack of options, Disney media etc.

 

[Tenacity]

Well, this is just MY opinion, but I don't think men and women love the same in general.

- Women of today's market usually love men based on what the guy can and is currently doing for them.

- Men of today's market usually love women based on some "fairy tale image" of her in his head.

Now I'm speaking in general, this obviously doesn't apply to every single person. But when you consider my theory here, the way you handle women of this market is to see yourself as providing a SERVICE. Your product/service is your:

- Dyck/Head game
- They way you make her laugh
- They sexual convos
- They dates you take her on

She is using you for the entertainment you provide for the period of time that she wants to be entertained by you, until she gets "bored" with you, and wants to either pick another guy to entertain her or just be alone for a minute.

Eliminate the fairy tale image of women from your head because believeeee me (as President Trump would say) that bytch died a long time ago. NO woman alive today fits the fairy tale image in your head.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

There is a rational element to any relationship [where natural desires are counter-balanced by rational desires]. Every person has in mind what they want... whether that be a ONS or an LTR. Whereas in the past, most were looking for the LTR [and 10% ONS], now, in many parts of the 'over-developed' world, most are looking for the ONS [and 10% LTR]. So it comes down to what you want, and then screening [or not screening] based on that.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Just to clarify, the real problem is lack of quality options even after you get to the point where you can have a lot of options numerically(difficult).

If you are meeting a lot of women, it then becomes a numbers game... in the sense that sooner or later you'll find quality. For the desperate guys, who will wear their heart on their sleeves after the first date, they simply need to learn how to meet a lot more women, enjoy their company, and become comfortable around them.

 

[TheFixer14]

It's a little sad that men who "fall in love" are considered desperate now. What happened to this world?

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Yes it's a numbers game with very low numbers haha and an arduous process to determine good from evil

Yep, I think the key is to enjoy the process! As long as I am enjoying the feminine energy... if not, move on.

You meet some women, and they just seem dried up and dead inside. Red flag. Others are so sweet. Green light.

 

[zekko]

I think the reason is that men are very visual, we are attracted to the female's looks: her shape, her appearance. A woman's SMV is mainly in her looks, so her value is immediately apparent. So our attraction is immediate.

A man's value may not be immediately apparent, so it takes more time to discover.

 

[NSX-R]

Men are more needy because nature made us like that. We have to reproduce. That's the thing.

The problem with guys who fall in love too easily, is that they don't have experience with multiple females . Meanwhile, in a controlled environment, falling in love isn't bad because it's also another kind of motivation to reproduce , in most cases , men just let themselves too much loose.

Women might seem to be the weak gender , but psychologically speaking they are the hardest and most cold blooded gender. 90% of the guys outside , fail to understand this and aply it. Today , women are more independent and most of the men forget their part as a man , which is to provide and protect his family, and this is where all the problems begin .

I believe also society promotes this kind of behaviour of men because it brings much less conflict and it's easily controllable.

 

[bigneil]

Women fall in love slower because otherwise everyone would stop to f*ck every person they met.

 

[ThisNThat]

Well, this is just MY opinion, but I don't think men and women love the same in general.

- Women of today's market usually love men based on what the guy can and is currently doing for them.

- Men of today's market usually love women based on some "fairy tale image" of her in his head.

Now I'm speaking in general, this obviously doesn't apply to every single person. But when you consider my theory here, the way you handle women of this market is to see yourself as providing a SERVICE. Your product/service is your:

- Dyck/Head game
- They way you make her laugh
- They sexual convos
- They dates you take her on

She is using you for the entertainment you provide for the period of time that she wants to be entertained by you, until she gets "bored" with you, and wants to either pick another guy to entertain her or just be alone for a minute.

Eliminate the fairy tale image of women from your head because believeeee me (as President Trump would say) that bytch died a long time ago. NO woman alive today fits the fairy tale image in your head.

Yeah, I remember one woman trying to size me up as a potential home improvement guy for help around her house. She's a single woman that should be living in apartment as far as I'm concern, because she told me she can't handle all the landscaping upkeep since she had it put all in. We were on a date and I felt like she was seeing me as a more utilitarian need than actually LIKING me.

She came off a bit bossy , too, through friends circles. But I think she was angling at making USE of me than any kind of romantic intentions. She was too much of a neat freak, couldn't even wear shoes in her house (had to take them off in the foyer) lol. Said something about when you are out in publick, you walk through nasty things and you wind up bringing that into the house.

I never once thought about that. I don't want to live in a "clean room" at NASA. lol

 

[ThisNThat]

It's a little sad that men who "fall in love" are considered desperate now. What happened to this world?

It's only desperate to those women that are quite "unfeeling", that lack that sense of romance. Funny, they'll SAY they are hopeful romantics looking for a "romantic" guy, but when it comes to applying it in real life, they don't demonstrate this.

Good example...

I was talking to this single 40 something woman, lived locally in my small town...so you'd figure in smaller towns her drive to desire a man was there, but she never really spent time in the area socially as she traveled a lot for work, only home on the weekends...so it was moot. She was the highly independent type.
I wouldn't go as far as to call her a feminazi or man-hater, but she was indeed...and like a lot of women...lacking the qualities that make them attractive...their femininity.

Anyway, she would tell me guys that she's gone on dates with would say to HER that she was seeming...callous...cold..unfeeling...and most obviously....unfeminine.

Of course, a woman lacking any romantic bone in her body would also be deemed unfeminine.

I have a male friend that have, sadly, noticed women not appearing "softer" (not physically), but in how she carries herself.
Of course, she loved her own son to DEATH since she's a single mom, but the love of a child vs any kind of emotion towards a man, two different things.

She would walk away from dates, second guessing herself, "Do I really appear that cold??"

 

[RangerMIke]

Biology and mating strategy which evolved over time and is in our DNA.

Men can determine suitability of a mate visually. If she looks good, that is all we need, if a women looks healthy and attractive... that's it, we are good to go.

Women... selecting a suitable mate, has more to do with the ability of the male to provide and protect her and her spawn. How a man looks is secondary to that need. It takes time for a woman to figure out if you are suitable. The tools she uses is:

(1) Do you appear to be in demand with other women? If other chicks like you then this is a good indication that you might be a good catch. Women also work as a collective mind. They always have to check in with the 'girls network'. A lot of guys come on here wondering what happened after the first couple of dates that went well, then suddenly the chick goes cold... many times the chick checked in with the 'girls network' and you did not pass.

(2) Do you act like a man with things going on? Most men have absolutely no idea how important this is to women. If you are busy with business and hobbies and many friends this is the second most important thing you can do. This is a strong indicator that you will be an effective provider because if you have lots of people who like you, there will be many willing to give you things. If you are too available, then this is a turn off for her.

(3) Do you look good and are you physically fit? A well dressed man indicates a guy that has it together, and if he is not in shape, he can't protect anything.

(4) Do you find her physically attractive? Women know their principle tool to keep a dude is her body and attractiveness. She has to know you want to fvck her, otherwise she will not think she can keep you and will not even try.

These are things dealing with appearance, and will be a factor in her initial attraction. But is starts here.... now she has to figure out if you are indeed what you appear to be. You act like a man, and over time she will be in love with you. The more experience a woman has with men, the longer this takes. Young chicks in the teens and early twenties will often fall for guys fast, because they haven't figured out how to effectively screen men... by their mid to late twenties they actually get pretty good at reading minds and figuring out who you really are.