Why do I hate the idea of the happy couple?

[Boilermaker]

What did Tolstoy write in the first line of his famous Anna Karenina?

"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."

I am with the OP here, happiness is ordinary... and thus boring.

 

[Slickster]

Wifey is pretty bad. A little off topic but my personal gripe is when a guy starts calling his fresh new girlfriend his "Ol' Lady".

"Yeah I better get home or the ol' lady is gonna have my nuts for breakfast."

I cringe!

 

[typical]

No I don't envy them at all, I've never done it and never ever will. If your happy in a relationship you don't need to show the entire world with all that crap.

For me I see it as attention seeking for validation. I had a best friend (key word "had" not friends anymore). Fu(ktard got cheated on by his ex gf, she was 80 kgs and he was 60kgs back near the end of highschool, they talked like that all the time. He got depressed and had his cousin hook him up with a bird overseas who he ended up marrying after a 6 month online affair. When he got her back here it was the same sh!t all over again with the stupid talking and other crap.

You want to know the worst part of it ............ she gave me direct eye contact at the airport when I met them and her eyes told me she would jump me at a moments notice if her new hubby didn't find out. I confirmed this with light talking on the drive home, all the while her asking me if I'm single and if I have many gf's etc etc.

Trust me guys that rubbish IS NOT REAL.

These days I look and smile at couples like that because I can tell that they are putting on a show and the guy is most likely dominated by the woman and is her doormat. It's normally written all over their faces, especially when you throw out the typical ........... "hey me and the boys are gonna go to town hit some clubs play some pool" and then the woman says "No We have work in the morning" that gives it all away

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

A rich man doesn't have to tell people he's rich. Its evident in his demeanor, his dress, his outward presence, without him having to broadcast it. The first thing one thinks of when they encounter an overly religious person making grand displays of proselytizing is the the guy's a phony and a hypocrite. Likewise a "happy couple" doesn't need to wear their happiness on their sleeves.

The happiest couples you know - the ones who are the best fit for each other - are the ones who display it the least. When I hear a husband continually pop off about how lucky he was to get with his wife because he's such a hopeless schmuck, or I see a woman post "for the both of them" on their communal Face Book profile, it tells me all I need to know about their relationship. It's struggle, it's doubt, it's a constant need for convincing themselves that what they're doing, who they chose to commit their lives to, how they need to "work at their marriage" in order to keep it fresh, is all according to some greater design.

Good couples don't give this a passing thought. People love to tell that a good relationship is hard work, bullsh!t. A good relationship is effortless; it's matter of fact, not a constant role one plays or an advertisment.

 

[bugsquish]

If you've never been in a LTR, then you can't really understand the feeling of being 'in love'. This is IMO a simple combination of chemical processes, instincts and emotions, some good, some bad and most irrational - but something beautiful to experience nonetheless (so long as it is reciprocated of course).

I've been in that situation a few times, where you obsess about someone so much that you just want to be with them 24/7, bodies pressed against each other, pumped up on the childlike euphoria of endorphins that make you go all gooey and behave in ways that make others want to puke. When this is reciprocated, it's a GREAT feeling. Then why would you care what anyone else thinks?

Trouble is it doesn't last. I've seen it come and go so many times that I've deconstructed it into it constituent parts and killed my sense of romance. It's now something I actively avoid. But when I see others behaving in this way, I don't feel any malice or jealousy. I have a nostalgic smile to myself and appreciate it for it's fleeting beauty. Beautiful, but just not my thing.

 

[zekko]

People love to tell that a good relationship is hard work, bullsh!t. A good relationship is effortless

Very true, I totally agree with this. If you find the right fit, there's no work to be done, it's effortless, as you say. If you have to work at it, that means you're forcing it in some way - it's like trying to get two puzzle pieces to fit together that don't belong.