Why do I always lose physical attraction in relationships?

[newtothis_]

is that normal? Happens around months 4-6 and then I feel like an a**hole.

They're always great girls personally wise I just lose desire to be sexual with them.

I feel like bailing on the relationship to find someone that gets me more sexually interested but at the same time id be losing out on other qualities that are hard to find in most girls.

Suggestions/advice?

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Once you've banged her more than 10 times the novelty wears off and you want someone new. I always get bored in relationships. After 3-4 months I'm looking to bail.

 

[grayclif]

10 sessions sounds exactly right. Attraction is especially lost if they aren't a bit freaky in the sack. I too feel I am losing out cause these ladies do have many other positive traits.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

10 sessions sounds exactly right. Attraction is especially lost if they aren't a bit freaky in the sack. I too feel I am losing out cause these ladies do have many other positive traits.

Can you push the right buttons or create the motivation in her to let her be more of a freak?

 

[grayclif]

@mrgoodstuff. Generally this is what I do. I try to push those buttons so each following session is heightened sexually. We start introducing all sorts of stuff to the bedroom. But every girl has her limits and I wish not to appear as too much of freak myself.

 

[newtothis_]

That's the issue I find the ones who are freaky and get me rock hard instantly are generally the ones that lack good relationship qualities.

I'll be out in public and see tons of other women who have the look of "do whatever you want to me" the look my gf doesn't have and it makes me want to bail on the relationship but I know I'd be losing the harder to find qualities in her.

I find sometimes it's difficult to get in the mood for sex with her.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

@mrgoodstuff. Generally this is what I do. I try to push those buttons so each following session is heightened sexually. We start introducing all sorts of stuff to the bedroom. But every girl has her limits and I wish not to appear as too much of freak myself.

Well my current blushing debutante responds heavily to social affirmations, and has a crazy jealous streak. So simply being around other attractive women who dig me, brings her up to another level in the bedroom and other ways.

Without competition she gets bored.

 

[channingtatum]

I deal with the same issue, but really it comes down to biology man. I've had about 7-8 LTR's in my adult life with great women who were beautiful and awesome personalities, the type guys would kill for, but after 4-6 months like clockwork, no matter how much they initially turned me on, it became boring to have sex with them. The worst thing is they start to pick up on it and you feel terrible because they are otherwise great girls. Honestly, the best answer is to let them go and know they'll get over it and so will you and just accept it's how you are. Parring back and only seeing them 1x a week can help. But yea, usually the ones that make terrible gf's are the ones who you can to screw the hell out of for man years, but just keep them as plates.

 

[Epimanes]

Quit comparing your gfs/relationships to what you see in porn... Infact end porn. Then maybe your dopeamine reward system won't be so overloaded. *shrugs*

 

[G_Govan]

Sounds like you're messing with chicks who are of lower SMV for easier sex which means you'll get tired of them faster.

If you watch a lot of porn that could do it as well.

I think a lot of guys over do it with sex, believing its normal to be hypersexual all the time and try to do it until you collapse.

I could have sex more then I do but I actually enjoy it more when I do it less and its not constantly on my mind like it usually was when frequency was higher.

Savor the flavor.

 

[G_Govan]

Quit comparing your gfs/relationships to what you see in porn... Infact end porn. Then maybe your dopeamine reward system won't be so overloaded. *shrugs*

Agreed if true. I'm guessing you're a fan of nofap? Best thing I did to improve sex with women. Not to mention overall health.

 

[Epimanes]

Not nessarily no fap... Fap if you need to.. But don't do it to porn. (Easier said than done for a lot of guys .. I know)

Epi

 

[newtothis_]

Wow I think you guys nailed it, porn does make me want to find sluttier women or at least ones who fit the part physically.

I found the ones that do keep me interested physically but make terrible company.

 

[Zunder]

I have a different view. After three or four months your brain is subconsciously telling your penis that it might be "commitment time" if I don't get out of this relationship soon...she might be wanting to "have that talk" so your body adjusts your sexual attraction to her downwards so that you want to bail and try some fresh pvssy.

 

[mrRuckus]

@mrgoodstuff. Generally this is what I do. I try to push those buttons so each following session is heightened sexually. We start introducing all sorts of stuff to the bedroom. But every girl has her limits and I wish not to appear as too much of freak myself.

What is all this stuff? What acrobatics do you guys perform? I can't think of all this crazy stuff that I'd be interested in. I want to fvck, not do performance art or practice my acting skills.

 

[mrRuckus]

Agreed if true. I'm guessing you're a fan of nofap? Best thing I did to improve sex with women. Not to mention overall health.

Your overall health? Evidence? What diseases were cured? Did your deadlift go from 400 to 500 lbs in one month of no masturbation?

 

[newtothis_]

I mean is it normal to lose physical attraction or am I just a horny jerk?

I don't understand how most men can be with one woman for a long time. Do they just choose their ideal physical type to keep that attraction over time?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I mean is it normal to lose physical attraction or am I just a horny jerk?

I don't understand how most men can be with one woman for a long time. Do they just choose their ideal physical type to keep that attraction over time?

I tended to end up with females with my physical bodytype preference. Good pvssy is good pvssy. When you have had a variety, you may just have a few types that are your preferences and OK with it if it keeps performing.

Another reason men stay other than being trapped is loyalty and respect. They may have found a wife who has proven time and time again that she has his back.