"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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comic_relief said:
Are you kidding me? What a joke...

Any sucessful relationship is built on compromise. Otherwise the girl will be VERY unhappy with your stubborn @$$. It's all give and take.

- comic_relief
Ironic that this guy is saying 'are you kidding me, what a joke', and then follows up with something like that.

The kind of compromises acceptable are like:

Supressing your desires to cheat
Being pleasant to her parents
Being understanding of her fears of kinky sex

If you come on her and say that a man should compromise his addiction to gambling or smoking to please her, then you have never been in a happy relationship.

The compromise scale is 4:1, she will naturally put in 4 times as much effort to please you and obey your whims. She will compromise it without you even having to ask, if you are doing your job right.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ease said:
Ironic that this guy is saying 'are you kidding me, what a joke', and then follows up with something like that.

The kind of compromises acceptable are like:

Supressing your desires to cheat
Being pleasant to her parents
Being understanding of her fears of kinky sex

If you come on her and say that a man should compromise his addiction to gambling or smoking to please her, then you have never been in a happy relationship.

The compromise scale is 4:1, she will naturally put in 4 times as much effort to please you and obey your whims. She will compromise it without you even having to ask, if you are doing your job right.
Examples of acceptable compromises:
- Suppressing desire to cheat
- being pleasant to her parents
- being understanding of her fears of kinky sex
- agreeing to spend some time with her instead of your friends (SOME)
- agreeing to drive her to work when I should be sleeping because her brakes went out and can't get to work

Some amount of sovereignty must be given up to get into a relationship. Anyone that disagrees with that statement can discuss the statement with me.

Personally I believe a little conflict in a relationship is important and helps control the relationship.

- comic_relief
 

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Ease said:
You're forgetting the fact that he hasn't actually stopped smoking.

Lying to your girl is manly.


Of course the obvious thing to do in this case is to say 'i can smoke if i want to, ho', but it's not as bad as actually stopping smoking.

When my girl asks me if i got involved with any girls last night, i tell her no- i didn't. This may be a lie, but in this case saying 'i make out with girls behind your back, ho' is no good.

Sometimes the true nature of being a man is less obvious.
WTF? Are you on drugs or what?

Why would be lying manly?
If she ask you that if you got involved with any girls last night you could say:

-Yes. ...with your mother.

-Yes. ...with your father.

-I will tell you next year.

-Yes. There was a pretty blonde ...i ****ed out the sh!t of her.

-Guess...

etc.

That is not a "How did you sleep, darling?" question ...it is a strong agressive manipulation(So your answer can be agressive too).
How come you dont see it??
 
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