"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Why do girls with no dads tend to behave worse than girls with dads?

El Payaso

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Especially in a single mother household.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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El Payaso said:
Especially in a single mother household.
Because fathers (should be) are an authority figure. Women are better at nurturing the kids, the father is better at setting boundaries and enforcing punishment.
 

stevo

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With Dads, they have an example to look at. Structure more so. Shapes their reasoning. These girls are more submissive.

Without Dad, they have a little understanding of how men act and what it takes to keep a man. They're used to things being their way and you can't tell them how to act. They only know what other women tell them about men which is nothing like how a man acts. These girls are more female-alpha and independent.
 

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Studies have shown that when a girl grows up without a father it can have effects on her brain development and her kids may come out more aggressive than average. I experienced this first hand with a single mom I dated, the kid was abusive to animals...suprise suprise- she had no father growing up. Women who grow up without fathers are also more likely to seek attention and validation from other men
 

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Without Dad, they have a little understanding of how men act and what it takes to keep a man.
I dated a single mom who grew up without a father. I had a particularly rough day at work and started telling her about it. Instead of the ususal "Aww, let me come and rub your back" that I usually get from women, I got a "I don't need no man dumping on me" statement. I'd never heard such a thing in my life and it was a total curve ball.

I generally try to avoid women without father figures. Women who have lousy fathers are better off than women who have no father at all.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My current one had a part time dad.. parents divorced at young age he went off and had a second family and split time between them.. I think it traumatized her. He lives with the other family now.

I am expecting the Bpd to come out at any time... she seems normal so far but her mom is crazy and pops pills.
 

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Many end up craving an unstable relationship which resonates on some level with whatever they endured during childhood. They consider this familiar turf, something they're used to. Your typical AFC "nice guy" does not stand a chance with these type of girls, causing them to feel undeserving of that kind of attention. An explanation I once came across is that they're subconsciously yearning to finally resolve what has tormented them for so long by reenacting their turbulent childhood - that is, entering into a relationship which simulates the sort of chaos that they experienced during their formative years - only it never is resolved, the cycle simply continues indefinitely.
 
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