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why do girls with boyfriends still give out their numbers?

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saturday night I met a girl at the club. serious IOI's all night, she grabbed me to dance. I split from the dancefloor at the height of the fun. Lots of kino, number close at closing time. I gave her my number through a text at the same time. She texts me today, and we talk a bit. I tell her to give me a call later because i was about to hit the gym and she says "you know i have a boyfriend right". I said "so. boyfriends are temporary". She writes me back about how that pissed her off so bad, and that she is a monogomous girl that believes in love and all that crap.
So my question is this, why do girls that are taken still give guys like me their number? I rarely get them to confess at the club that they have a bf. Ive even number closed girls that tell me at "getting the number time" that they have a boyfriend.
 

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jamescr73 said:
saturday night I met a girl at the club. serious IOI's all night, she grabbed me to dance. I split from the dancefloor at the height of the fun. Lots of kino, number close at closing time. I gave her my number through a text at the same time. She texts me today, and we talk a bit. I tell her to give me a call later because i was about to hit the gym and she says "you know i have a boyfriend right". I said "so. boyfriends are temporary". She writes me back about how that pissed her off so bad, and that she is a monogomous girl that believes in love and all that crap.
So my question is this, why do girls that are taken still give guys like me their number? I rarely get them to confess at the club that they have a bf. Ive even number closed girls that tell me at "getting the number time" that they have a boyfriend.
because they are AWs
 

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numbers don't mean anything at all.

It's just like asking for their name.
 

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well obviously if a girl gives her number to a random guy she met 40 minutes earlier in the club, she will be expecting a call. Might not make the boyfriend too happy either. If my girl was out at the club giving out her number I would see it as if she were shopping for a replacement. A girl that is "monogomous" shouldnt be too much of an AW :crackup:
 

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Girls like to flirt, it's fun for them, it validates them and it makes them feel wanted.
Plus they're always looking for the BBD.
 

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jamescr73 said:
saturday night I met a girl at the club. serious IOI's all night, she grabbed me to dance. I split from the dancefloor at the height of the fun. Lots of kino, number close at closing time. I gave her my number through a text at the same time. She texts me today, and we talk a bit. I tell her to give me a call later because i was about to hit the gym and she says "you know i have a boyfriend right". I said "so. boyfriends are temporary". She writes me back about how that pissed her off so bad, and that she is a monogomous girl that believes in love and all that crap.
So my question is this, why do girls that are taken still give guys like me their number? I rarely get them to confess at the club that they have a bf. Ive even number closed girls that tell me at "getting the number time" that they have a boyfriend.

Ego thing dude. It's nice to be sought after when they've been with their bf for 3 years. They like to know they are attainable after the fact. But just from your statement you have to know she is not a good quality girl. What did she expect you to say when she said "I have a boyfriend?"
 

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Answers...

1. Ego validation as DonJuan11 pointed out.

2. Searching for something on the side or a complete change of who the man will be in her life.

3. Enjoys the drama of leading you on so her little emotions can get fired up.
 

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Yeah, it's basically a consensus.

In addition, sometimes it's also being taken in into the moment. So sometimes, she can actually genuinelly forget about her boyfriend if you sweep her off her feet.

But later on, when she gets home and remembers the boyfriend she can start feeling guilty and backwards rationalize it.

It's not always ego.

Sometimes its being swept off her feet.
 
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jamescr73 said:
saturday night I met a girl at the club. serious IOI's all night, she grabbed me to dance. I split from the dancefloor at the height of the fun. Lots of kino, number close at closing time. I gave her my number through a text at the same time. She texts me today, and we talk a bit. I tell her to give me a call later because i was about to hit the gym and she says "you know i have a boyfriend right". I said "so. boyfriends are temporary". She writes me back about how that pissed her off so bad, and that she is a monogomous girl that believes in love and all that crap.
So my question is this, why do girls that are taken still give guys like me their number? I rarely get them to confess at the club that they have a bf. Ive even number closed girls that tell me at "getting the number time" that they have a boyfriend.
Why does a girl with a boyfriend give out her #? Because she is looking for a BBD.
 

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Well, you got to understand, if you get a girl with a boyfriend attracted enough, she'll forget about her boyfriend for that moment(This is basically the same with women who are married and is how guys pull off f*cking married women). But lol you'd have to get her really interested though. If you can pass the "I have a boyfriend" sh*t test, you'll be good.
 

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jamescr73 said:
she says "you know i have a boyfriend right". I said "so. boyfriends are temporary".
thats where you messed up. By saying "so, boyfriendS are temporary", you insinuated to her that she goes through lots of boyfriends, hence she is a slut, hence her response to you.

You maybe coulda had a chance had you played it differently.

like maybe, " you know I have a boyfriend, right? yea, thats cool. wanna meet up at xyz or abc?"

or whatever
 

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It is like an insecure monkey: when they are swinging around up there in the vines, they like to look around them and see plenty of other vines hanging around them in case the one they are hanging from gives out.
 

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IPalindromeI said:
It is like an insecure monkey: when they are swinging around up there in the vines, they like to look around them and see plenty of other vines hanging around them in case the one they are hanging from gives out.
Is that insecurity or survival? It also could be an example of codependency on the vines
lol
 

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Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

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Here's my take and its one of my favourites. Who cares why? IMO its a waste of my time to think about why a women who I'm not going to sleep with is thinking a certain way. I don't chase women w/ b'f's so I really don't care about the pyschology of why they operate a certain way.

I'd much rather focus my time on something positive, like the psychology of a single women. Its all about prioritizing your life. Don't get hung up on things that don't matter. Simply move on to something better.

Does this really eat away at your soul? Does it keep you awake at night because she is giving out her number's to guys. She might just be looking for friends or she might be looking for a BBD, but in the end, I've got enough friends, so I don't need more female friends, so I simply move on to women who are interested and focus my energy there.
 

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girls are fcking sluts
they all love the c0ck and take it up the ass, thats why
they will do anything for attention
 

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You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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