You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Actually I get comments from a lot of people that I'm helping them, so before you accuse me of something, do us all a favor and take out that stick that is so far up your ass.Deus ex Pianoforte said:No you didn't, dude. I don't even know if you qualify as a troll, though...I mean, you got the post-per-day percentage and lack of usefulness on your side, but you're too obvious to really be considered undercover.
that was messed up man.reallyfreakinlost said:Actually I get comments from a lot of people that I'm helping them, so before you accuse me of something, do us all a favor and take out that stick that is so far up your ass.
Oh and by the way, that did happen, and I don't even know why I would make that up, I just yelled something, I didn't DO ANYTHING WITH THE GIRL. YOU FVCKING MORON, if I was bragging, I would say something like "I slept with Deus ex pianoforte's mom last night", but then again, I don't want to catch 193 diseases
Well sir, tell me, how is it messed up. Next time somebody accuses you of bragging, I'll be sure to tell you you're messed up.ValleyDJing said:that was messed up man.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I have no problem with you defending yourself. but come on now...that was brutal. :crackup:reallyfreakinlost said:Well sir, tell me, how is it messed up. Next time somebody accuses you of bragging, I'll be sure to tell you you're messed up.
It's got you thinking about it hasn't it? Game, set and match to the girl.ziminxe79 said:I dont get it some girls wear thongs and then when they get something from the floor they put there hand back there!
udontknowme said:we wear thongs because they are more comfortable under pants. they dont get all bunched up and they don't leave lines. When we bend down, (since most of us wear the low rise pants because they are more comfortable and look better), the top of our underwear (thong) shows, so we cover it.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I figured it would be for the same reason they cover the top of their shirt when they bend over to pick up something.ziminxe79 said:I dont get it some girls wear thongs and then when they get something from the floor they put there hand back there!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.