Why do girls online always ask this?

[Atom Smasher]

I'm sharpening my axe on a couple of dating sites, and the ones I'm on have stock questions you can send to a prospect.

There is one question that almost always comes up: "When in a relationship, how much personal space do you generally find you need?"

Why are they asking this? What is it they are really trying to find out?

 

[Solomon]

Trying to find out if you are needy or not (afc)
its a s***t test quesiton
if you say you don't need a lot, they go and party it up and use it agaisnt you in the future
I would try to throw the question back, see how she answers and try something like

I don't need a lot of time, however for a relationship to be succesfull , and work I do need a few days a week
something like that

 

[DJsparky]

"Depends how much weight you have "

That would be my answer

 

[parrot84]

I think it's a freakin' test.

If your response is : "I need lot's of space!" then she'll think "Ohhh, this guy needs the space because he has a lot going on in his life, MAYBE OTHER WOMEN " and that is probably a hint to her that you may be worth something.

If your response is : "I don't need space!" then she'll think "Ohhh, this guy doesn't need space because he 'DOESN'T NEED IT' because he has nothing going on in his life, maybe no WOMEN" and that says to her you're not probably interesting.

So my freakin answer will be : "HEY, I NEED LOTS OF SPACE; DON'T CALL ME EVERY DAY! I HOPE YOU'RE NOT A PSYCHO?!"

Be cool, don't even think about their question! They are only trying out to find out if you're the catch! And of course you are! WHY the fyck would you give a damn about what she thinks if it were otherwise ?

RESPECT

 

[Atom Smasher]

"Depends how much weight you have "

That would be my answer

:crackup:
Classic! Thanks for the laugh.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Yes, it seems like one of those damned of you do, damned if you don't sh!t tests.

I've been answering it along the lines of, "I think it's important for both people to have some space, but not to excess, and as with anything in a relationship, the right balance can be achieved through effective communication and based on the needs of each other".

They seem to respond well to the words "balance" and "communication". They always continue with me, so I must be pushing the right buttons.

But make no mistake... With other stuff I tease them mercilessly within an inch of their lives, and they love it.

Again, the reason I ask is that this is by far the most common question they ask.

Parrot, your response is good, too. Maintains the strong frame whereas my answer is more of a "throw them a bone" kind of thing that has worked for me.

 

[Crazy Asian]

just say enough to take care of my personal needs.

 

[mcs]

the girls from online ask always: have you been dating alot the members of (insert some dating site) ... ?

 

[PectoralisMajor]

RE:have you been dating alot the members of (insert some dating site)

they are seeing if you have been REJECTED by lots of girls already.

answer with lots if you want to be rejected, otherwise just say your quite picky and although you've had interest, you've only met a couple.

simple eh?

you need to brush up your girl skills if questions like this are confusing you !

 

[decades]

just say if you're fatter than you said you were, I will need LOTS of space in this relationship.

 

[DonGorgon]

I'm sharpening my axe on a couple of dating sites, and the ones I'm on have stock questions you can send to a prospect.

There is one question that almost always comes up: "When in a relationship, how much personal space do you generally find you need?"

Why are they asking this? What is it they are really trying to find out?

They are telling you that they dont like klingy men which basically means a man who cares about them... ie. all this is woman code for "if you treat me nice i wont like you"