"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Why do girls look down?

jeffthechef

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When girls walk by me, they have certain tendencies.
From when our eyes meet until 3 feet away, they maintain eye contact. I get the interested vibe. WHICH IS VERY ACCURATE.
From 3 feet until passing, they look down. This happens with all girls i get the vibe from. Why is this so? any clues?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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War Against Betaism

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People tend to look down when they make eye contact with another person when they feel threatened as a form of submission. You're possibly staring into their eyes for too long and making it seem awkward. Every time I make eye contact I have the "James Bond" look where I have a grin and smile when it lasts longer than 2 seconds. Chances are they're going to smile too.
 

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Loooking down- a sign that you are insecure \ submissive
 

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i dunno...i think that maybe girls get a bit intimidated because i turn my head when i get close to a person i was making eye contact with
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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you are either stunningly handsome or you probably just look at them a bit too long/don't smile.
 

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It's a good thing when they look down. They are submissive/intimidated and that's awesome for you. Better to have them intimidated by you then have it the other way around.
 

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SomethingClever said:
It's a good thing when they look down. They are submissive/intimidated and that's awesome for you. Better to have them intimidated by you then have it the other way around.
It's better than you being intimidated by them but I don't think it's still a good thing if they're intimidated by you. Nowadays I rarely have women look down; normally they either smile and look away, or just look away; they never look down.
 

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Of course it's not a good thing. Actually it's a horrible thing. You can imagine what's going in someone's mind when they're intimidated.

Be a good guy, make more comfort! :)
 

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Good luck finding the fine line between intimidation and admiration/attraction.

There's a girl who looks straight at me in my poli sci class (or I think she does, maybe she's looking out the window behind me) from the other side of the room, I tend to only look at her to see what she's looking at, as most folks have the sense of "being watched". It kind of creeps me out because she never smiles or shows any emotion while she's doing this, and never says anything to me.

Don't be that weirdo :p
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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War Against Betaism said:
It's better than you being intimidated by them but I don't think it's still a good thing if they're intimidated by you. Nowadays I rarely have women look down; normally they either smile and look away, or just look away; they never look down.
Well you know how guys get the "deer in the headlights" look when they look at very hot girl and the girl looks back. Girls can get that look too. And that's what i mean by the looking down thing being a good thing. It means you make her nervous, cause she's interested in you.

Whatever, all in all, you'll never know if you don't try to do anything with them.
 

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SomethingClever said:
Well you know how guys get the "deer in the headlights" look when they look at very hot girl and the girl looks back. Girls can get that look too. And that's what i mean by the looking down thing being a good thing. It means you make her nervous, cause she's interested in you.

Whatever, all in all, you'll never know if you don't try to do anything with them.
Actually I think it just means they're intimidated period. Back in high school I never really smiled when I looked at women, the majority of the time they looked down in submission and for the longest time I had this reputation of a guy who thought he was hard. Now I incorporate a smile/grin. I don't know what women think of me now, but let's say my success has skyrocketed since applying this.
 
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