Why do girls do this?

[DJinTraining06]

As i've mentioned is some other posts of mine, i met this girl on match.com, we went out 3 times already, the third night she invited me to her house and we made out alot on her couch. We talk all the time on AIM. She has been texting me like everyday, asking how my day is goin, and all these sweet little things. She told me online that she feels really confortable with me like shes known me forever. She even suggested the next date before i got a chance to.

Well tonite she was online, and i was tellin her how some freak emailed me on match and said something really funny in the email and i forwartded it to her and we laughed about it. She then asks, so r u gonna respond to her? (cuz the girl was pretty hot) I was like nah hell no. Then i said im not paying attention to match anymore.

So then i ask her, so have u met any other guys on match since me, she says yea 1. I was surprised cuz she seems crazy about me. So anyway i was like oh yea how was he? and i joked "i could take him" She says "oh i is this jealousy " So i joked back nahh was just wonderin if u were dating other guys or just me. She's like well "i like to meet new people. Everything is fine"
"As far as who i like to date and click with thats another story" Then she says if u feel like u wanna be exclusiver at some pt just be sure to have a conversation with me. So i'm like well this kinda is a conversation about that now accidentily isnt it. so then she says well i think we should get to know each other a lil better before we declare titles yet. A friendship is always good.

So i dunno this girl def has an interest level in me, but i dunno wtf this is. I have never ever ever met a girl who was totally into a guy and still wanted to try other options at the same time, besides ho's of course, and she def isnt a ho, shes a virgin and all.

What do u guys think?

 

[DJDamage]

What do u guys think?

You are being stupid and you are going to blow it.

First off stop this text messaging everyday and talking to each other everyday. You have stopped being a challenge and instead you are becoming more and more like a friend.

Second off, if you are already talking to her, don't talk about her other dating situations. Its none of your business who she is dating other then you. She is smart keeping her options open while you aren't.

After 3 dates you are already hinting about being exclusive?? what the hell is wrong with you?!

Keep your mouth shut about this and enjoy dating her and date other women as well. If she wants to be exclusive with you she will let you know.

 

[Hitman10000]

I have never ever ever met a girl who was totally into a guy and still wanted to try other options at the same time, besides ho's of course, and she def isnt a ho, shes a virgin and all.What do u guys think?

Stop putting the p*ssy on the pedestal.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Well she asked me 3 times already if im still using match and i dint ask her back till the thrid time. So i thought ive been acting pretty aloof so far. Shes the one texting me. I only texted her twice in 2 weeks, and 2 calls to set up our dates and thats it. She has texted me like 8 times. As far as talkin on aim every night, ur def right tho, im gonna cut that out, its killin my game. The whole convo that i just told posted was an aim convo. I hope i can recover from this. Were goin out tonite, im gonna act likei could care less bout her. I dont think askin her back bout match it that bad tho is it? I mean i wanted to know if she thinks were exclusive or if i should date others, most girls ive ever dated wanted to make it exclusive like immediately, after 3 or 4 dates tops. This girl has more self esteem i guess.

You are being stupid and you are going to blow it.

First off stop this text messaging everyday and talking to each other everyday. You have stopped being a challenge and instead you are becoming more and more like a friend.

Second off, if you are already talking to her, don't talk about her other dating situations. Its none of your business who she is dating other then you. She is smart keeping her options open while you aren't.

After 3 dates you are already hinting about being exclusive?? what the hell is wrong with you?!

Keep your mouth shut about this and enjoy dating her and date other women as well. If she wants to be exclusive with you she will let you know.

 

[DJDamage]

I dont think askin her back bout match it that bad tho is it? I mean i wanted to know if she thinks were exclusive or if i should date others, most girls ive ever dated wanted to make it exclusive like immediately, after 3 or 4 dates tops. This girl has more self esteem i guess.

Notice that its "they wanted to be exclusive", this one didn't but you felt you had to push for it. Not all girls want exclusively right away especially when they know they have other options open for them (something you should take a note of for yourself).

Don't ask her about who else she is dating. Do you really want her to start thinking about him/them while talking to you?! if you are doing things right, her other options should be the last thing on her mind.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Notice that its "they wanted to be exclusive", this one didn't but you felt you had to push for it. Not all girls want exclusively right away especially when they know they have other options open for them (something you should take a note of for yourself).

Don't ask her about who else she is dating. Do you really want her to start thinking about him/them while talking to you?! if you are doing things right, her other options should be the last thing on her mind.

Crap, we had a date planned for tonite and she just canelled cuz she thinks shes got the flu. She told me Thurs she was starting to feel a sore throat so i believe her, otherwise i might not cuz she had a really unusual raspy voice. Didn't sound a normal horse voice, sounding like someone faking being sick on the phone to their boss,lol. But anyway im sure shes tellin me the truth cuz she asked me if i wanted to move it to monday afternoon cuz we both have off from work. The only reason im makin an issue outta this at all is cuz she has been all over me on our dates, leaning on me, inviting me to her place, leaning on me as if we know each other a long time, making out etc. She told me she felt so comfortable around me a few days ago. All these texts she sends me. And that fact that she's a virgin, just had me thinking she was def one of those exclusive types. Im cool with it, i just kinda had a retarted AFC moment i dont know what i was thinking. I guess im really startign to dig this chick. Do u think i messed it up? Is it too late to re-make myself the prize. I was doin so well too. I thought i had mastered being aloof.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Notice that its "they wanted to be exclusive", this one didn't but you felt you had to push for it. Not all girls want exclusively right away especially when they know they have other options open for them (something you should take a note of for yourself).


Well im an idiot for getting a female perspective on this. i have this female friend who i had told bout this girl i been seeing, and she asked me if we were official yet. I told her i didn't know cuz weve only been out 3 times. SO my friend says "u gotta ask her" And i'm like nahh i dont wanna be a dork and ask her. ANd she goes "girls love dorks, why don't guys get that?"

I am never takin female advice again, men give good advice women dont know what the hell they r saying half the time. This friend of mine likes me, i wonder if she was trying to sabotage me by giving me that bad advice.

 

[Badmannaz]

man...your rushin the sh*t...you need to do 3 things

1.talk to other girls before u develop ONS about this chick...your gonna end up alone if she leaves and you have feelings for her

2.take that p*ssy of that pedestal (trust no women not even virgins) women are not perfect and all of them have lied to a guys...

3.go out and do other things besides thinking about her...it will make you seem as if you have a life..


Yea but your rushing it 3 dates?? and your already tryna be with her?? just take it slow...good relationships are 1st based on friendship 1st but never lose sexual tension

 

[mrRuckus]

what's happened with this?

 

[DJinTraining06]

what's happened with this?

So far so good man, we have a date for tomorow. She cancelled last nights cuz she had a sore throat, def not lying cuz she had no voice and was coughin up a lung. But were goin to dinner tom. I also signed on AIM this mornign for 10 minutes minute, and i didnt im her, she im'd me after 5 mins and was all happy to talk to me and crap. I dunno tho i feel like such an idiiot tho, i lost all the power i think. Any suggestions on how to act on the date to make her chase me again? I think she's way too aware of the fact that i want her now. I'm a moron.