Why do girls do this?

[sandinista]

Hey everyone.

I've been going to clubs ALOT latley & i've been working on getting ladies & everything. But there is something that i'm noticing that some women seem to do while they are there..

OK, so, there's a girl who i see in the club every so often, & we talk / dance sometimes. One night, we finally got off with each other (i think she was waiting for me to do something for a while, as she initiated it within seconds of saying "hello"), so we dance & kiss for about half an hour.. then, without even saying a word, she just walks off! I didn't see her for the rest of the night.

I thought maybe she wanted me to follow her or something, but this has happened to me 2 more times with different girls & i saw a friend of mine have the same thing happen to him! You know, seemingly having a good time with a girl, then they simply walk away..

Does this happen to anyone else? Is this a universal thing that women like to do? Why on earth are they doing this? I'm so confused!

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

how much time do you spend out on the dance floor, kissing etc..??

If you wait too long, the girl will have time to think about what she's doing and if you don't escalate soon (i.e. leave the club with her) She'll start rationalizing things and decide she shouldn't do what you both really want to do. So she gets cold feet and walks off.

Either that or there's something wrong with how you're kissing her or something.. it's really tough to tell, but i do know what you're talking about. it has happened to me before, in the past and it turns out that i just didn't take action and get her out of there.

 

[WC2]

She got what she wanted and got bored because you didn't take it any farther. Women aren't going to latch on and hang around with you the whole night just because you want to. You need to give them a reason to latch on. Read the bible.

 

[WC2]

You don't have to "get her out of there." Just because you dance with her and kiss her doesn't mean you have her on lock. Especially if you're hardly even talking with her. In her mind, she already has you. You're only going to bring home women if you can make them laugh, attract them, and not become clingy. Obviously she felt like she had been there done that and you don't have anything more to offer. Instead, she went home with another guy from the party who probably wasn't showing all his cards, so naturally she wondered what more he had to offer.

 

[Le Parisien]

This happens a lot if you go out a lot, it's pretty common.

Don't overanalyze things too much, there might be tons of reasons:

- You didn't escalate soon enough

- She went to have a "break", like buying a drink and drink some with her friends, and she "forgot" about you

- She never intended to go further than this with you

- She saw a better prospect

- She was just getting some revenge towards her boyfriend and kissing and dancing with you was enough

- Her friends were watching, she didn't want to be labeled as a slvt

- Too much dancing/kissing in the same manner got her bored

- It took too long so she started to "think too much"

- etc... some many other possibilities


Just brush it off and focus on your game next time.

Trust me, I was going out almost 3 times a week two years ago, all kinds of weird things happen at clubs and bars. Be prepared to even more weirdness...

 

[obijuan]

Hey everyone.

I've been going to clubs ALOT latley & i've been working on getting ladies & everything. But there is something that i'm noticing that some women seem to do while they are there..

OK, so, there's a girl who i see in the club every so often, & we talk / dance sometimes. One night, we finally got off with each other (i think she was waiting for me to do something for a while, as she initiated it within seconds of saying "hello"), so we dance & kiss for about half an hour.. then, without even saying a word, she just walks off! I didn't see her for the rest of the night.

I thought maybe she wanted me to follow her or something, but this has happened to me 2 more times with different girls & i saw a friend of mine have the same thing happen to him! You know, seemingly having a good time with a girl, then they simply walk away..

Does this happen to anyone else? Is this a universal thing that women like to do? Why on earth are they doing this? I'm so confused!

Who knows? :crazy:

 

[milrenkb]

My guess is you pushed to far to fast. As another person on this thread alluded to you have to take 2 steps forward and 1 step back. Leave her wanting more.

Also you might have done to much with her (them) that first night. The first kiss should be short, soft, and brief. Then each and every kiss gets a little harder and a little more passionate after that.

When you made out with her she may have full-well been enjoying it. However afterwards she might have felt like a slut. If shes dodging your calls its because shes thinking to herself "Oh my God, hes going to expect me to be like that everytime, isn't he? Now he thinks I'm easy and will probably drop me as soon as he gets what he wants. I can't let that happen."

The moral of the story: Very few girls, no matter how promiscious, want to be labled a slut.