"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

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Why do girls cokkblock?

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Listen...You are talking to this girl, and its obvious that the girl is interested...Then her girl friend jumps in and blocks...I can understand why dudes do it, but why do girls do this dumb sh1t? Its not like they are fukking or anything...Or maybe they are, lol...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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They are trying to save their friend from THEIR insecurities. Read up on approaching women in groups to combat this.
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
They are trying to save their friend from THEIR insecurities.
Interesting...Explain?
 

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i think he means:
she may be insecure a/b herself, and maybe an AFC i guess, so she has her friends push away all the boys that may "corrupt" her.

i think that's what he means, not sure tho
 

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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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They're jealous that their friend is getting the attention. Or maybe the two girls have a signal to let each other know that they are talking to a guy they aren't interested in so the other comes and takes her away.
 

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It probably has mostly to do with being jealous that they're not the ones being hit on, and women tend to be a lot more competitive and catty than men.
 

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Cuz they are childish and they want attention.It's worse when the friend stays quiet or angry forcing your girl to leave.

That whoar is the one that will make her changer her mind about you. Just cuz some jealous b!tch(usually a fat-fvking cow) wanted to be brung into a conversation and wasn't mature enough to do it herself.


Some men do that too and if your reading this realizing that act like a b!tch when women are around.You need to be shot.


Also,it could be that she just wants to help her freind out.Most of time it's what I said.
 

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Girls who kockblock their girlfriends from guys are usually ones who are either protective of their friend or want your attention instead of her friend getting it.

When you approach a group of girlfriends you either have to be 1. super charismatic 2. have a charismatic wingman that will district other people 3. the group has to be open minded.

i'm open minded and will not kokblock if a male is interested in dancing with a female friend, the thing that pisses me off is if the male doesn't even have the audacity to introduce himself to me or other people - i let it go but i am close by getting ready to deck the guy if he does something stupid.
 

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Originally posted by DJ_Dork


i'm open minded and will not kokblock if a male is interested in dancing with a female friend, the thing that pisses me off is if the male doesn't even have the audacity to introduce himself to me or other people - i let it go but i am close by getting ready to deck the guy if he does something stupid.
Why is it such a big deal? If shes just a friend, and a guy wants to dance with her and she wants to too, why does it make you mad if he doesnt want to intro himself to yall? Maybe hes only focused on his target and not anyone else...Thats how I am...If I see a girl in the club or whatever, I only care about that one girl, fukk whoever else...
 

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guys do this cause their jealous.

my guess is gurls do this for the same reasons. and girls in general are attention *****s, so u would expect this from them.
 

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Originally posted by Dukester
i think he means:
she may be insecure a/b herself, and maybe an AFC i guess, so she has her friends push away all the boys that may "corrupt" her.

i think that's what he means, not sure tho

I think if her friend goes with you , THEN SHE IS ALL ALONE

She is afraid of being the BICH UNWANTED ..She is JEalous perhaps

SO SHES GOING TO RUIN IT FOR YOU SO SHE LOOKS GOOD SOCIALLY AND TO HERSELF. I WOULD CALL HER ON IT INTO HER FACE< BE LIKE
" why ARE you talking her away , are you her lover or somethign ? "

" YOu got something against me talkin to your friend, " Say that right in front of her face and your target and if she doesn't let you talk to her, SHE IS GOING TO LOOK LIKE ONE JEALOUS Friend.. YOU want to amp up that she is jealous to your target and your target to notice that.


Peace.
 

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I agree. Its fvckin jealousy.

I used to say nothing when that used to happen to me,, from now on i'l try ur advice cause im sick of such jealous b1tchs
 

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It's called ASD, gentlemen. ANTI-SLUT DEFENSE.

Think about it. Duh.
 

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Originally posted by JT47319
It's called ASD, gentlemen. ANTI-SLUT DEFENSE.

Think about it. Duh.

What he said.

There could be many different reasons why this happens in different situations, but for the most part JT is right on.
 

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Yes, these guys are right. It's basically just jealousy.

Not in the sense that she wants you and the other is getting you, but that she wants "the someone" to be all over them and not the friend.
 

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Originally posted by Pro
Yes, these guys are right. It's basically just jealousy.

Not in the sense that she wants you and the other is getting you, but that she wants "the someone" to be all over them and not the friend.
That's only a partial explaination.

Girls detect each other's Buying Temperature and how hot/horny they are. When in groups of girlfriends, they all have to have roughly the same level of BT.

You can't get one girl too pumped up without her and her friends feeling how out of sync they are to one another. The same goes for depressing her BT, if you're a killjoy, then she's going to feel alienated from her friends and won't like it.

This is the reason why, during my LR about the Big Titty Blonde, my girl kept on going back to the Ditzy Blonde for affirmation. She kept on asking her, "What's the plan?" etc etc. While the other dude was being a total chump and not getting DitzyBlonde hot, my girl was all pumped up.

The discrepancy between the two was too much. That's why I did the thing with blankets to separate them from each other and why I finally pulled her to the hallway and bathroom so that they were separated.

Think of it as a herd mentality. Each member of the tribe/herd has to be in sync and in line.
 

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Yes there is usually an attention ***** in a group of girls.

I don't think it is really anti slut defence. It is more about being jealous. Girls who do this can't accept that another girl (who might be less attractive) is getting attention .

When you hit on a girl in a group it is best to remember that as you do it you are insulting all her other friends at the same time.
So don't be shocked if her other friends say something bad about you behind your back. The best thing to do is to let them see you check their butts out and then hit on the girl you want. Girls love it when they catch a guy taking a peek at their ass.

All you have to do is hit on the fat or the ugly girl in the group and watch how her friends react. It is all very funny.
 

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Good responses...I talked to my friend and next time we go to the club, we are gonna wing for each other...Thats better than me talking to the other girls, cause every time I approach groups, I go at the best looking ones and the others are average or busted...So Ill let him handle that sh1t, and if he needs me to, Ill handle the busted chicks for him...:)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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