frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
the ole saying goes
FAT GIRLS NEED LOVIN TOO!
FAT GIRLS NEED LOVIN TOO!
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
These girls are completely delusional about the way they look or they're drunk. They might be friends with the guy too. Girls always jokingly tell their guy friends they are hot. Doesn't mean they actaully like them or even think they have a chance with them.Originally posted by penkitten
actually they have less to loose and would hit on him, and wouldnt be embarrassed to make a joking comment about how fine they think he is.
Good points. I guess I shouldnt take it as a negative but as a compliment. But I feel sorry for the guy that has GUYS hittin on him. I have it good compared to that.Take it as you are appoachable and these chicks feel as if they have nothing to loose. It's a pain but it's a part of being a DJ. Just thank them and tell them that you don't feel the chemistry, that's what works for me.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I like how your talking right now, I dont owe them any of my time and should get them out of my presence before they ruin my social proof. NICEOriginally posted by Luveno
Stop letting it affect your mindset.
All of the reasons given in this thread are plausible. Fat chicks all have their own individual motives.
However, fraternizing with sow-like women will only hamper your social proof.
I have maybe 4 female friends and none of them are whales. If these girls are not your friends, then you owe them none of your time. Just blow them off politely, and then rudely if they dont take a hint.
Hah! Women period can get it anytime they want it. Even the ugly ones. Men are flippin' easy. I've seen it WAY too many times.Fat girls would get no one if they never approached
I think penkitten is right on.Originally posted by penkitten
actually they have less to loose and would hit on him, and wouldnt be embarrassed to make a joking comment about how fine they think he is.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Personally I think that's a lack mentality that you have to think like that. Would never cross my mind.Originally posted by david90
So what if u approach an HB and she said that some ugly guy (u) approached her and that she was disgusted. I don't know about you, but when I say something about other people, I always reverse the situation to see how I would feel.
:crackup:Originally posted by BlackDragon
You need to go to the Ginnia Ruins. There's a lvl 7 protection force field that will protect from that kind of stuff. Be careful though. The imps have the death spell and wont waste time to use it.
That's what I was basically saying and that's why I feel it is a bit of an insult if a fat chick hits on you. It might mean you're good looking but probably far from great looking.Originally posted by Bonhomme
My theory is that it's because you're perceived as attractive, but not so attractive as to be seen as completely out of their league.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Anybody that knows anything would know that you can get a hot girl if you have game, status, or money. Women know that men are obsessed with looks. No matter how great her personality is or how much money she has she doesn't have a chance if he doesn't like her looks. A fat girl that hits on a Brad Pitt type must be some sort of a masochist. Some here say she will have less to lose. Well if she has half a brain she will know that she will lose every time. I'm sure you have seen fat or ugly guys with nice looking girls but I doubt you have seen nice looking guys with fat chicks.Originally posted by Jake-inator
So by the same reasoning we could conclude that ugly fat guys would never hit on good looking girls...
They're totally dillusional... why wouldn't they just hit on some fat guy if they wanted someone in their league?Originally posted by Fatality
These girls are completely delusional about the way they look or they're drunk.
Any normal thinking fat girl would be too intimidated to actually hit on a good looking guy and make it clear that she wants to date him.
Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
fat and ugly chicks only hit on nice guys. If you get hit on constantly by those chicks you need to change you need to stop being a nice guy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.