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Why Do Blondes Like Me More Then All Other Women?

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have any of you also noticed that a particular group of women show significantly more interest in you then any other group?

ever since i have been 12 years old i get more attention from blondes by far; no other group is even close.

I'm black but even black women do NOT show me the same level of attention or interest that blondes do. not even close

When i was younger i just assumed that blondes loved black guys but it seems more complicated then that since most of my black friends who have sex with a lot of white women seem to do better with brunettes then blondes.

My theory when i think about it deeply is that blondes like aggressive guys and if a random person saw me in public they could tell by my demeanor that im an aggressive guy and i think this is why i attract blondes more then anything.

I do mostly nightgame and over the years i have had interactions with blondes where i acted really aggressive and the blonde girl would instantly get insanely attracted after.

for example, back in 2013 or 2014 when i had just started clubbing. i was walking in the club and this short blonde was walking super slowly in front of me; i got annoyed so i kind of very lightly pushed her to the side so i could walk past her. this girl responded by ****ing throwing a bit of her drink at me.

i got instantly angry and turned to look at her. she noticed my facial expression and quickly jumped into a crowd i guess to try and get away. i quickly went after her, grabbed her by the arm and pulled her out of the crowd face to face with me and asked "why did you do that?" . Instantly this girl gave me a look like i was a god. ill never forget the way that girl was looking at me at that moment. its as if she had been waiting all her life for a guy to act the way i did and she could not believe it was finally happening.

so we just stood there face to face, her looking at me like i was a god and me not sure what to do given my inexperience at the time. knowing what i know now i should have just pushed her against a wall and started heavy makeout but back then i just stared back at her then walked away to the washroom to dry my shirt.

I have had other similar experiences where i will show aggression and a blonde will react by getting super attracted.

Blondes seem very fearless and badass in my experience. when i act aggressive in their presence they never seem scared or intimidated in any way.

so thats my theory; i think blondes can tell by my demeanor that im an aggressive guy and they like that which is why i attract them the most.

its the only explanation i have been able to come up with.

what do you guys think?

have any of you also noticed that blondes seem to like more aggressive guys?

do any of you also attract a group of women significantly more then others?

please share your experience with this.

and in case you are wondering here is how i would rank all women in terms of who shows the most interest in me:

#1 = blondes

#2 = black women and tall brunettes (5-9 or taller) are tied

#3 = short brunettes (below 5-9)

#4 = asian girls (chinese,japanese,etc..)

#5 = brown girls (indian,arabic,etc..)

There are not a lot of Latinas in my city so i have only experience while travelling with them but based on that limited experience i would say they would be somewhere between 2 and 4. so they seem to like me but definitely not as much as blondes.

please share your ranking and also your age and ethnicity. would be interesting to see what other guys attract.
 

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I'm blond and blue-eyed, and black women - have always had a thing for me, like the attraction is clearly palpable. Could have to do with my genetics, confidence level, and other things, but I'm not intimidated by them in any way shape or form, so that probably is a factor as well.

Frankly, I believe in evolutionary psychology in this case I think it's mental firmware at work. The mixing of the genetics of disparate racial groups is favorable for offspring and given that our sexual drive is focused on creating healthy, strong offspring our brains are wired for it, whether or not we know this consciously or not. Ever notice how women love a foreign accent? An American tears it up in the UK, Scotland, Ireland. Imperial accented dudes tear it up in the US.

I have had black chicks turn into kittens for me, where they act thoroughly ratchet in their interactions with others.

I love females, like love just about every race and skin color, real redheads are an exotic fetish I have, just love me a good-looking natural redhead not sure why but I do, it is not to the exclusion of others, but its there. I've conducted mini-relationships with several and I'll be damned if every one of them has not been in a relationship with black men. Again Evo-psych at work. Because I'm probably older than many here I have a bit of a body count and my target ages are 35-50 probably 70% of the redheads have mixed-race kids from men they've divorced.

go figure brah.
 

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I'm blond and blue-eyed, and black women - have always had a thing for me, like the attraction is clearly palpable. Could have to do with my genetics, confidence level, and other things, but I'm not intimidated by them in any way shape or form, so that probably is a factor as well.

Frankly, I believe in evolutionary psychology in this case I think it's mental firmware at work. The mixing of the genetics of disparate racial groups is favorable for offspring and given that our sexual drive is focused on creating healthy, strong offspring our brains are wired for it, whether or not we know this consciously or not. Ever notice how women love a foreign accent? An American tears it up in the UK, Scotland, Ireland. Imperial accented dudes tear it up in the US.

I have had black chicks turn into kittens for me, where they act thoroughly ratchet in their interactions with others.

I love females, like love just about every race and skin color, real redheads are an exotic fetish I have, just love me a good-looking natural redhead not sure why but I do, it is not to the exclusion of others, but its there. I've conducted mini-relationships with several and I'll be damned if every one of them has not been in a relationship with black men. Again Evo-psych at work. Because I'm probably older than many here I have a bit of a body count and my target ages are 35-50 probably 70% of the redheads have mixed-race kids from men they've divorced.

go figure brah.
thank you for this post.

i completely forgot redheads.

I have actually not had many interactions with red heads at all even though like you i have noticed that there is some sort of natural/biological/genetic attraction between me and redheads. like i can just feel something that is different compared to other women.

but again it has not resulted in anything. redheads never really show strong interest in me even though when i look at them a lot of times i get turned on and i can tell they fell it too. its weird.

i have also noticed that blonde people in general get along great with black people; its like there is a biological/genetic match. so im not surprised that as a blonde guy you attract a lot of black women. and there seems to be a mutual liking/fit/chemistry between black people and blonde people in general even beyond sex. for example, if you pay attention you will notice that most times if you see a group of black women with one single white woman the woman is almost always a blonde. and speaking of redheads; i have also noticed that a lot of redhaired men really like black women.

i hope one day some scientists do some serious research on this because i think biologically/genetically there seems to be a mutual fit/urge/attraction/match different ethnic groups have to each other.
 

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I’m a white guy, and I’ve always noticed the same thing. By far, I have always attracted mostly blondes. I always figured this was because I projected more positive vibes to them as a matter of preference.
 
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I’m a white guy, and I’ve always noticed the same thing. By far, I have always attracted mostly blondes. I always figured this was because I projected more positive vibes to them as a matter of preference.
Are you a dark-haired white guy? I think that could explain a lot. I always feel like the media pushes this whole ideal of dark-haired white guy with blonde girl and blond haired white guy with brunette...and we all know that women follow the media like crazy.
 

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Are you a dark-haired white guy? I think that could explain a lot. I always feel like the media pushes this whole ideal of dark-haired white guy with blonde girl and blond haired white guy with brunette...and we all know that women follow the media like crazy.
No, actually light brown hair, which turned mostly what we used to call “dirty blonde” in the summer due to pool chlorine and sunshine.
I know. The math doesn’t add up in my case.
 

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I think it’s all driven by the need to procreate with the moat genetically different, most alpha male possible. Given women are the choosers mostly.

I too believe in chemistry, ever had a woman that smelled and tasted like utter heaven? Ever notice she will usually say the same about you? Having a strong chemical bind like that is key to an everlasting LTR, to be able to always default back to crazy chemistry when the chips are down in a relationship is like the jackpot. I’ve had this and it’s intoxicating.

thank you for this post.

i completely forgot redheads.

I have actually not had many interactions with red heads at all even though like you i have noticed that there is some sort of natural/biological/genetic attraction between me and redheads. like i can just feel something that is different compared to other women.

but again it has not resulted in anything. redheads never really show strong interest in me even though when i look at them a lot of times i get turned on and i can tell they fell it too. its weird.

i have also noticed that blonde people in general get along great with black people; its like there is a biological/genetic match. so im not surprised that as a blonde guy you attract a lot of black women. and there seems to be a mutual liking/fit/chemistry between black people and blonde people in general even beyond sex. for example, if you pay attention you will notice that most times if you see a group of black women with one single white woman the woman is almost always a blonde. and speaking of redheads; i have also noticed that a lot of redhaired men really like black women.

i hope one day some scientists do some serious research on this because i think biologically/genetically there seems to be a mutual fit/urge/attraction/match different ethnic groups have to each other.
 
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No, actually light brown hair, which turned mostly what we used to call “dirty blonde” in the summer due to pool chlorine and sunshine.
I know. The math doesn’t add up in my case.
Not that much of an outlier though. Your look would be able to get most kinds of women in the US since you are probably as American looking as it gets with your appearance, maybe a Tom Brady lookalike?
 

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In my experience women will respond to how you show up. For me... well it's redheads.... But I LOVE redheads... sub-consciously they are only responding to my attraction.

If you have blondes or whatever attracted to you, it's just as likely they are just picking up on your subconscious cues.
 
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In my experience women will respond to how you show up. For me... well it's redheads.... But I LOVE redheads... sub-consciously they are only responding to my attraction.

If you have blondes or whatever attracted to you, it's just as likely they are just picking up on your subconscious cues.
I have found the opposite to be more true. The more I am into a woman or type of woman, the less likely I am to get them. I know when years back I had a thing for blondes, could barely get them. Now, I get them in droves but don't have that same thing for them.
 

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If you have blondes or whatever attracted to you, it's just as likely they are just picking up on your subconscious cues.
this has not been my experience at all.

I have never had a special sexual attraction to blondes.

I have a special affinity for blondes meaning i feel strong empathy and loyalty to them because they are nicer to me then all women by far so i try to be as nice as possible to them as well. but sexually they do NOT turn me on in any extra or special way and never have.

I have gone through different phases starting with latinas when i was 12-14 years old. all the first women i ever saw naked where latina pornstars. Mexican pornstar Sativa Rose was the first woman i ever saw naked when i was like 12.

and the crazy thing about my latina phase is that i had no latinas around me in real life. there are no latinas where i live and somehow i still was most attracted to them at that time even though i had never actually met one in person.

i also went through an asian phase and a brown girl phase in last 2-3 years.

never had a phase where blondes turned me on the most and even today what turns me on the most is based more on the girls behaviour.

i like bitchy girls. i get really really turned on having a bitchy girl become submissive to me. best sex i ever had was this mixed australian girl who was a massive ***** in the club and then i ****ed her super rough and she loved it and later admitted that she purposely acted like a ***** so i would be rough and dominate her.

so that type of personality is what turns me on the most; its not specific ethnicity or anything like that. i have also noticed recently that im really really attracted to milfs. like the hottest women i have seen in 2021 that just gave me instant boner was this milf (age 33-38) i met around 5 weeks ago.
 
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I have found the opposite to be more true. The more I am into a woman or type of woman, the less likely I am to get them. I know when years back I had a thing for blondes, could barely get them. Now, I get them in droves but don't have that same thing for them.
this is happening to me right now with Asian girls.

i have been back in the clubs for 2 weeks now and have never had so many Asian girls come after me and with such high level of aggressiveness.

and its happening now that i pretty much have no interest in them at all.

2-3 years ago when i was super attracted to them and hilariously almost fell in love with this asian girl i ****ed from tinder....back then i could barely attract asian girls.

but now that i pretty much snapped out of whatever phase suddenly had me obsessed with them and honestly now i have no idea what i was even thinking back then as i almost never find asian girls attractive now....its as if they can feel i have no interest for them and are desperate to get my attention.

this however has not worked with brown girls.

i also had a phase in recent years where i was desperate to get brown girls more then anyone and could never get them. eventually i pretty much gave up. i still see brown girls i find hot but have pretty much accepted that for whatever reason brown girls in my city do not like me. to this day still have never ****ed a brown girl.

so when i see brown girls now i just ignore them and show them no attention at all. this has not changed anything with them; they still show no real signs of interest in me.
 

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ever had a woman that smelled and tasted like utter heaven
the only women who's smell i ever noticed in a good way have been brown girls.

i remember getting hard just being around some indian girl and smelling her.

but brown girls have never showed me any love at all.

of all women i do by far the worst with them; its shocking how little they show interest to me.

its like to all other women im an 8 to 8.5 in looks but to brown girls im a 1 or 2.

by far brown girls show me the least interest. no one is even close.

i hate to say it but i think its a racism thing.

it cannot be a coincidence that in my experience indian men have also showed me the most racism by far; i have experienced more racism from indians then white people by a factor of at least 10 to 1 maybe even 20 to 1.

so my theory is indian girls feel attracted to me as well but have been raised to be anti black so they block it out; hate to say it but only theory that makes sense to me. there is no other explanation that really makes sense. there is no way the primal lust i sometimes feel for indian girls is not felt by them as well; they must feel it too since chemistry is 2 way street. my theory is they feel it but block it out because of anti black beliefs given to them by their parents.

The only flaw in this theory is that asian men (chinese,korean,etc..) are almost as anti black as indian man...in fact i would say its a tie. in my experience indian and asian men have showed me by far the most racism.....but despite that i still have managed to **** a decent amount of asian girls but basically have no results at all with indian girls. so i sometimes ask myself why asian girls still show pretty strong interest in me despite having grown up in similarly anti black households but indian girls do not.

i have also heard that a lot of this depends on locations. for example, i heard indian girls in London LOVE black guys and black guys there are ****ing crazy amounts of indian girls.

so not sure what it all means but for now i just go for black and white girls as they have always been consistent in liking me all my life.
 

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I think in Western Society, the "mainstream ideal" is shown as a white guy with blond hair and light eyes. Think Ivan Drago from Rocky or Brad Pitt.
first, i do not think of Brad Pitt or Ivan Drago as looking similar at all honestly. i do not put those 2 in same "type" at all

secondly, i never heard women being into the ivan draho type at all at any point in my life...Brad Pitt yes but not Ivan Drago. but im born in 90s so maybe older people have different experience of hot girls talking about how hot Ivan Drago was.

thirdly, when you say "mainstream ideal" are you talking about white women here?

because we need to be specific because i assure you that the hottest black women do NOT think of Brad Pitt as their dream guy....not even close.

and i also doubt the hottest latina women have Brad Pitt as their dream guy at all.

and i would be very surprised if Brad Pitt was the ideal look for the hottest brown girls.

and im talking about Brad Pitt as his best here....I doubt the hottest black,latina and brown women would describe their ideal guy physically as Brad Pitt at his best.

so you need to be clear here; are you talking specifically about white women having Brad Pitt as their dream guy physically when you say "mainstream ideal"?
 

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Now blonde women and paler white women already know that they are top of the ladder and the most desired, at least in context of western society. As a result, they can act more "bold" and go for whoever arouses them. Now this explains why I see so many alphas of minority groups end up with blonde white girls or at least get with a few. The blonde has nothing to lose by going for a cool guy who may be more taboo and she might even want to push the barrier because she doesn't have to deal with any sort of a penalty for doing so.
i agree with you that blondes have had so much positive feedback from young age that they are extremely confident.

you are very sharp to have noticed this as its something i have noticed too but never see other people talk about.

Blondes are extremely confident; they know that if they date any race it will not hurt their status in any way so that is why you will see blondes with everything from black guys to brown guys to Asians. Blondes have no fear that dating any race could hurt their ability later to land a top white guy or anything like that.

in fact i think blondes are so confident they never even think of things like that. in my experience blondes are extremely confident, fearless and badass compared to other women.

where i disagree with you here is that you put blondes and pale women together. when i say blondes im talking about natural hair color.

there are pale girls with blonde hair, brown hair and red hair so not sure why you are talking about pale girls and blonde girls as if they are the same.

skin tone (pale) has nothing to do with what im talking about in OP (hair color)
 

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Who knows? Thing about it each of us have type(s) that tend to fall for us. Its good for you to know for you in particular for whatever reason, blondes are favoring you.
 

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In my experience women will respond to how you show up. For me... well it's redheads.... But I LOVE redheads... sub-consciously they are only responding to my attraction.
Interesting, since PUA theory seems to suggest that attraction repels women (well, not exactly, but close enough). I also love redheads, and there was a time when every time I saw one I would brighten up and be very upbeat and present when I engaged with them. This seemed to cause some attraction. At other times, I've basically ignored them, and for the most part they've ignored me. PUA theory would seem to suggest that I should be getting more attraction by ignoring them. Well, whatever.

Like the OP, I've always had better luck with blondes than any other group. Even at times when I was most attracted to brunettes (I've been through all three phases lol). Not sure why. I had very dark hair when I was younger, almost black (gray now), maybe the opposite attracts.
 

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Im bald and Ive noticed, young girls give me sociopathic choosing signals. 80/20 in my favour)

Then it stops in the 22-30 age range. (80/20 rule not my favour)

Then women over 30 back to heavy choosing signals
 
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