Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Why do (all?) girls play...games?

Poonani Maker

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GreyedOut said:
She understands I'm busy and works around my schedule.
If they'd just do this, I'd be a happy camper, at least right now. Too many of them think I can just meet them at happy hour or something, even though I tell them over and over again that I work late Always on a weekday. I'm not a 9 to 5er. I'm a 8 to 8er. I'll never understand where all these people get their money from to buy the nice house and nice car and still have time to play EVERY DAY, not just on the weekends like me. Must be nice. Credit cards?? You know, especially if she's in another town over a half hour away. None of them acknowledge my obligations. They think I can just drop everything I'm doing and come to them. And then when I don't, they get angry as if I'm not "independently" wealthy enough to go where I please at ANY time. This is my #1 problem at the moment with all the young women I know and have met over the past year.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SoSuaveDude said:
I mean nowadays, women play games with their boyfriends, ex's, guys they are and aren't interested in. I know things couldn't have been this bad back in the olden days lol. Seriously though, dating is a highly tactical and stressful zone of combat! My Question: Is the amount on bs women play due to them being primary attention *****s, and desiring attention and their image among peers? And has anyone ever met a quality girl who didn't play unnecessary mind-games?
Yes, but the funny part is sometimes it's the girls who seem the most innocent, sweetest and kindest that turn out to be the most savage ****s who will remorselessly toy with your emotions for kicks and attention. I know because it happened to me with a girl I was friends with, thought I knew her and could trust her and because of that I got played badly. Guess it made me more cautious which is sometimes a bad thing but on the rare occasion it comes in handy to be a little distrustful of them.
 

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GreyedOut said:
Girl I'm dating now doesn't play games.

She rarely answers her phone/text during dates.
She hates facebook and never logs on.
She always replies to my texts and if there's a delay she always apologizes.
She lets me know when she's available to hang out and never flakes.
She never tries to make me jealous.
She understands I'm busy and works around my schedule.
She offers to drive my way and pays on dates.

I don't do games. I've been working on my self-improvement pretty well that I can actually be that picky. I refuse to settle for that garbage. I'll take the girl out for a great time, have fun,light and witty conversation. But I expect respect and I will respect her right back.

You should have enough going on in your life that you instantly realize the unneeded stress from games/drama takes away from the better things in life.

Life's too short. Enjoy it.
congrats on finding a woman with these qualities, thats a very rare find. it is possible to demand these things from a woman up front. it will weed out some of the games that women play. but if the chick is not totally into you, i'm talking MAJOR SOLID ATTRACTION like what greyedout has, unfortunately it still wont eliminate all the games women play completetly.
 

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SoSuaveDude said:
I mean nowadays, women play games with their boyfriends, ex's, guys they are and aren't interested in. I know things couldn't have been this bad back in the olden days lol. Seriously though, dating is a highly tactical and stressful zone of combat! My Question: Is the amount on bs women play due to them being primary attention *****s, and desiring attention and their image among peers? And has anyone ever met a quality girl who didn't play unnecessary mind-games?
You realize that what we do is often referred to, even by us, as "game," right?

I mean, games are fun, right? Everyone plays, some win, some lose. That's life.
 
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