Why do 20 year old women say 40 is young, but 30 year old women say 40 is old?

[bigneil]

I'm trying to understand a strange phenomenon that I've observed nationwide.

It's the fact that women who are 19-22 (born 1990-1995) regularly tell me that guys in their 40's are NOT too old, while women who are 29-32 (born 1980-1985) almost exclusively tell me that guys in their 40's ARE too old. One group of women dates guys 22 years older, while the other wants guys 2 years younger?? That's a 24 year age swing - in only 10 years actual time (1980-1990). The 30 year old women are often single moms living on welfare, and yet they choose the prettiest, hottest guy in the bar over a handsome provider, due to his age? (In part because the State already took his money and gave it to her). Traditionally a 10-15 year age difference was the norm.

Theories:

1) Is it a generational thing, where women born in the 1980's are more Cougar-like, perhaps from watching their moms, versus women born in the 1990's?
2) Is it based on economics, where after the housing crash young men can't get good jobs anymore, so women are turning to older men for resources?
3) Is it age-based, meaning these same 20 something women will in 10 years time prefer guys exactly their age? Do women observe their own mortality and form a new outlook on aging?
4) All of the above?
5) None of the above?

Your thoughts and observations are appreciated.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

I'm trying to understand a strange phenomenon that I've observed nationwide.

It's the fact that women who are 19-22 (born 1990-1995) regularly tell me that guys in their 40's are NOT too old, while women who are 29-32 (born 1980-1985) almost exclusively tell me that guys in their 40's ARE too old. One group of women date guys 22 years older, the other wants guys 2 years younger?? That's a 24 year age swing - in only 10 years. The 30 year old women are often single moms living on welfare, and yet they choose the prettiest, hottest guy in the bar over a provider (because the State already took his money and gave it to her).

Theories:

1) Is it a generational thing, where women born in the 1980's are more Cougar-like, perhaps from watching their moms, versus women born in the 1990's?
2) Is it based on economics, where after the housing crash young men can't get good jobs anymore, so women are turning to older men for resources?
3) Is it age-based, meaning these same young women will in 10 years time prefer guys exactly their age? Do women observe their own mortality and form a new outlook on aging?
4) All of the above?
5) None of the above?

Your thoughts and observations are appreciated.

As you see a lot of stuff is "generational" and dependant upon the values of that generation.

Interesting you noticed there...

 

[Mike32ct]

The only thing that comes to mind is that the 22 yo KNOWS she's young, and thus, she has nothing to prove age-wise.

The low 30s lady thinks she's old and has to cling to a younger guy to feel young.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

The only thing that comes to mind is that the 22 yo KNOWS she's young, and thus, she has nothing to prove age-wise.

The low 30s lady thinks she's old and has to cling to a younger guy to feel young.

Interesting, and yes I do notice ones running up on 30's or low 30's might make questionable choices in relation partners. Often partnering up with inexperienced younger men, who you have no idea what they are getting out of it other than the age thing.

IMHO if you want to feel younger be with someone older, if you with someone younger you will realize how much older you are...

 

[Cremasta]

I'm going to go with 3) and a couple of possible reasons.

20 year old girls want a guy who can show them the world and buy them stuff. They are often trying to act older than they are, and a 40-year old guy who's well established is a good way to do that.

30 year old women have seriously just hit their sexual prime, have their own money and often just want to f*ck the youngest, hardest d*ck the law will allow them to.

Or maybe I'm just jaded

 

[JohnChops]

Daddy issues

 

[bigneil]

I wouldn't say all or even most girls like guys that much older, but a significant percentage of beautiful women in that age bracket do.

 

[captain55]

I've met some chicks in their mid twenties who date guys in their thirties...Ive never met a chick under 25 who dates guys in their forties. Most women want a guy a few years older than them, 20-25 year old girls still want guys in their mid to late twenties usually. Most 18-19 year olds want a guy under 23, this is what I noticed anyway.

 

[Jaylan]

My experience in college was that young women saw anything over 26 as old. If you had a youthful look you could still do just fine...but over 30 was pushing it.

I never really experience young women calling 40 young when it comes to dating. Maybe when they say something like "youre not too old to *insert fun plan". But even then, if the topic youre talking about regularly involves people under 30, youll get weird comments and looks if your 40 trying to blend into a 20-something crowd.

I've met some chicks in their mid twenties who date guys in their thirties...Ive never met a chick under 25 who dates guys in their forties. Most women want a guy a few years older than them, 20-25 year old girls still want guys in their mid to late twenties usually. Most 18-19 year olds want a guy under 23, this is what I noticed anyway.

This.

Id say this applies to men too. Ive known men and women who will sleep with someone older is the moment is right. But Ive rarely met something in their 20s who actively sought partners much older than them. I know it happens, its just Ive rarely seen it amongst my friends, family members, and acquaintances.

And tbh, when I have come across it, there was usually some drama going on behind the scenes. All relationships will have their share of drama...age gaps just add their own drama due to the difference in stages of life experience. For example, I would totally have a fling with a sexy older woman (im late 20s). But I wouldnt date one seriously because I know Id get nagged for my lifestyle and interests. Plus Im not ready to have someone depend on my emotionally.

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

ha all girls that are 39.9 years old or younger think 40 is old. 30 is kinda old too for some girls and girls always guess that I'm 25 so I guess thats just them projecting their hopes and dreams. 25 is a great age, 30-39 is good if you take care of yourself -- 40 is the beginning of the long slide, then again you can slide slower if you work out, eat right, stay positive, and make money all while staying healthy and energetic.

 

[Trump]

Age is deadly for any gender. Most guys I know would rather do an OK looking woman in her 20s than a hot woman in her 40s. Can you name any female movie stars/singers in their 40s right now? How many of them would you want to hang with, let alone do?

Can't fight it, just accept it.

 

[bigneil]

Indeed once a man reaches 40 he'll take two 20 year olds any day. I've met several girls under 25 who date guys over 40. Three this week. At age 41 I met a 20 year old and dated her for 2.5 years (she is now pregnant but it's not mine). She wrote to me yesterday to tell me survived the Houston floods.

Live Interview with 22 year old beauty (this is the blonde girl from the upskirt video I published last fall)

Background: So I've been dating a now 22 year old for over a year. 6 months ago she tried to get me to marry her and I said no way, but we still go out. Last night I had a date with a 46 year old woman who tried to say a 4 year age difference was the most. She said "No girl more than 4 years younger will ever care about you!"

Just then I got a text from the 22 year old (who is still texting me as I type this) saying:

"I heard about the rain in Tulsa and wanted to make sure you were safe!"

When I told the 22 year old what the older one had said, she responded with this:

"Well, apparently in her book, you have to be within four years of someone's age to love them. Haha. How limiting. I disagree. Maybe she was jealous of my age. Wait... so if she was saying that, then she would have to be within 4 years of your age? That sounds so unlike you!"

I reminded her of her perfect timing and she wrote:

"My mom is 13 years younger than my dad. Humphrey Bogart was 24 years older than Lauren Bacall! And ha, that's divine timing! I thought about you and the cats in case you had gone back and I was worried."

Summary

As you can see, the last thing you want on this is the opinion of an older woman. Never take advice from a woman about another woman. I don't mean Jaylan, but that too.

 

[RangerMIke]

I honestly have never noticed this. I go out with women in their 20-30-40-and yes even a couple of 50 yo, they all respond to the same things.

The only real difference is .....

.... that women in their 40s are A LOT more aggressive. If one wants you she'll get you or die trying.

.... women in their 30s are REALLY drawn to power and what you might be able to do for them. They don't hide this at all. If you pay attention when they are talking to you, they will let you know what the conditions will be to date them.

.... women in their 20s are just out there collecting experiences and having fun. If you have great stories and are lots of fun it really doesn't matter what you age is.

 

[bigneil]

I agree, RangerMIKe.

Below are my actual age differences with girls who loved me since 1982:

My age | Her age | Age difference
---------------------------------------------
12 12 (0)
18 16 (2)
22 18 (4)
27 17 (10)
30 19 (11)
34 18 (16)
41 19 (21)
43 21 (22)
44 21 (23)
----------------------------------------------

Net

+32 +9

Observe that I aged 23 years more (and thus slower than) than the women did, over a 32 year span. As you can also see, for the past 18 years I've dated girls in the 17-21 range (their prime). It's great to be a man! So don't believe what the old ladies say you can't do. Only believe what young ladies say you can do.

 

[KingBeef]

Men are putting way too much stock in the opinion of women. With the exception of maybe fashion and a few other things, I could care less. They are too emotional, erratic and inconsistent. There "beauty" is based upon society's opinion and perception of them. They are will to do almost anything artificially to enhance it....They compete amongst themselves and secretly despise the fact that once they reach a certain age they can't compete with a 20 something .... THEIR OPINIONS DON'T MATTER.

IF YOU ARE FIT, LOOK GOOD, YOUTHFUL FOR YOUR AGE AND REALISTIC THAT YOU CAN PULL WOMEN YOUNGER YOU....THEN YOU CAN, PERIOD.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

My age | Her age | Age difference
---------------------------------------------

18 16 (2)

You did whaaaa!?!

Just messing with ya.

That is bizarre. I would have expected the early 20s crowd to spew out an unmeditated "eeewwwww!!" response to dating a 40-something year old, and the camp in their 30s to be more open to dating a guy just a decade (and perhaps some change) older. Could definitely be a generational thing as Daddylongshanks pointed out, as I have heard over the years my share of girls say that they don't want their kids to have a geriatric Father (back to your observation, this is assuming too that these girls in their 30s even aspire to be Moms, or are not Moms already).

Amusing little conundrum too, as these 30 year olds are probably ready to put an end to a career of kissing one toad after another (not being selective enough aka CC-riderz), so they probably figure, "time to get serious about this dating sh1t and get more selective than ever!", but "time" is exactly what they're about to run out of! Crazy cat lady club FTW!

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Pfft. Whatever.

Weirdly, older chicks have always always dug me. I had some some fully grown woman ask me how old I was when I was about 12 years old, literally coming on to me (and they complain about men being pervs). To be fair, I was a bit of a man-child and pretty much look the same now as I did when I was 16.

GFs have always been 2-3 years older, apart from the last who was 7 years younger. I currently have women up to 15 years older (blatant divorcees/ex party girls) checking me out online. Most of them are in their late 30's, basically just looking for the best option to settle down with. The thing they haven't counted on is the new generation of women growing up, looking after themselves far better than they have. Think some of them are even deluded enough to think they are as desirable as they were twenty years ago.

Doubt I'll ever date anyone older than 30, going forward.