"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why didn't this day2 , f-close?

mackdaddy27

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Okay, this is my 2nd day2 ever:

--> we talk for 2.5 hours/ plus another 1 hour before the mtg, and .5 hour during extraction

--> shes chugs down two big drinks so I know shes loosened up a bit.

--> I try to be in 'state', so i m not missing opportunities to vibe with her. I did think pretty well but the beginning was rough and towards the end I am matching her talking energy level and her accent. She free like she can say anything to this guy maybe bc shes drunk?

--> I lead her to my place saying , I want to show her something at my place. She comes sits on my sofa.

--> I am sitting with her entire right side touching my right side. I kino back, hand, knee. her hair, put my arm around her..No objection or with slight objection.

But I get really close to her, she move away and back to the farer side of the couch. When I move REALLY closer to the side like inches... she moves forward. I put my arm around her, and I feel this slight sense of objection but no objection. I just say some complete idiotic like 'your beauty is like poland or something like' and I say I am going to kiss you, and I lay a small one on her kiss, at which point, she gets up and and wants to be dropped back to her car. We were still talking normally in the car, and all I got was a kiss when she was leaving my car.

WAS SHE JUST NOT PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO ME? DID I NOT DO ENOUGH COMFORT BUILDING ? ( only 3 hours totally so far ) WAS THIS JUST AN EXCEPTION DO MOST FALL BY NOW ?

She MET me, She came inside MY condo. I got away with alot basic kino, but then at the last minute, it was like freaking putting your hands around a chicken. I didn't even get mouth to mouth kiss


I just want to know for future reference..

Thanks in Advance..
 

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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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How much comfort/rapport did you get first? I'd have gone for the one step back, two steps forward approach when I got the first bit of resistance. Sounds like you put too much pressure on too soon. Also get her laughing.
 

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mackdaddy27 said:
Okay, this is my 2nd day2 ever:

--> we talk for 2.5 hours/ plus another 1 hour before the mtg, and .5 hour during extraction

--> shes chugs down two big drinks so I know shes loosened up a bit.

--> I try to be in 'state', so i m not missing opportunities to vibe with her. I did think pretty well but the beginning was rough and towards the end I am matching her talking energy level and her accent. She free like she can say anything to this guy maybe bc shes drunk?

--> I lead her to my place saying , I want to show her something at my place. She comes sits on my sofa.

--> I am sitting with her entire right side touching my right side. I kino back, hand, knee. her hair, put my arm around her..No objection or with slight objection.

OK.

But I get really close to her, she move away and back to the farer side of the couch.

Right here you should have stopped touching her or doing anything. She resisted and you should have pulled back and kept your hands to yourself.

When I move REALLY closer to the side like inches... she moves forward. I put my arm around her, and I feel this slight sense of objection but no objection. I just say some complete idiotic like 'your beauty is like poland or something like' and I say I am going to kiss you, and I lay a small one on her kiss, at which point, she gets up and and wants to be dropped back to her car.

We were still talking normally in the car, and all I got was a kiss when she was leaving my car.

WAS SHE JUST NOT PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO ME? DID I NOT DO ENOUGH COMFORT BUILDING ? ( only 3 hours totally so far ) WAS THIS JUST AN EXCEPTION DO MOST FALL BY NOW ?

She MET me, She came inside MY condo. I got away with alot basic kino, but then at the last minute, it was like freaking putting your hands around a chicken. I didn't even get mouth to mouth kiss


I just want to know for future reference..

Thanks in Advance..
Dude IMHO, you are OK. 2nd date and she's back at your place kissing. Maybe she doesn't put at that easy, maybe she wants you to work for it, maybe she wasn't it the mood. Unless she said "Never call me again you Creep" you are still in the running.
 
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