"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why did you start pickup?

apocolipto

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Hey guys, I thought it would be interesting to see why you guys started pick up,what you wanted to achieve, and what have you achieved from there on?

I mainly started consiously working on my game when I figured out my GF from 2 years ago left me single and "brokenhearted" for two years.Obviously I was left with no social circle and no chicks,just guy friends.
Mainly,I want fun and sex from chicks.But I'm looking for a serious relationship,when I feel I have found a cool HB.Though,I doubt I'll go into a relationship again soon,as it ****s up your game.Maybe when I'm older.

At the moment I've started making new friends,and meeting new people.Got a thing going with a handful of chicks,and feeling great about my improvement!

Now let me hear YOUR stories :rockon:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LearningSlowly

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Well I had a long relationship that ended badly. We had been broken up for a while, but were still having sex when she decides to get a new boyfriend. That destroyed me. I harassed her, trying to get her back, every couple of months for about 6 months. That was the worst time in my life (followed in close second by the time when my freshman girlfriend and all of her friends dropped me from their social circle when I used to be the king of it. That led me to art though, and this lead me to sosuave, so the best things come from the worst things.)

I sulked for a long time. I tried to get with every girl in the one social group I had left. That killed my reputation in that group. Even now, when I'm cool as fvck, many of those girls look on me badly.

I somehow made the decision to get help. Lurked a PUA forum for a long time. Posted a lot, became a bit of a keyboard jockey (which is why my advice is sometimes better than my actions).

Someone on that forum recommended this site, and I had decided I was ready to write a journal. So I started a journal. I thought I had a little game back then, but I didn't.

The greatest thing I've learned is the necessity of having a journal. There's no way around it, you need to keep a record of successes and failures.
 

apocolipto

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Yes well,I'm building on my reputation.I also wanted to start a journal to help me achieve what I wanted to achieve.

Nice that we both have the same reason basicly!
 

AlexLefty

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To fvck chicks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LearningSlowly

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apocolipto said:
Yes well,I'm building on my reputation.
If theres one thing ive learned, its almost impossible to build on reputation. People put you in a box right away and its so hard to break from that box. Focus on meeting new people and making a great first impression.

(I enjoy ****ing chicks also, and will until I find a girlfriend in college)
 

apocolipto

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Danzy, I'm coming down this june to JHB, maybe we can meet up?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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apocolipto

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I don't think women are cool. I think we should all just fvck them.Relationships suck hey.My one friend got left and hurtin bad.

Advice? He is an afc, what should he do?
 

NorwegianDJ

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apocolipto said:
I don't think women are cool. I think we should all just fvck them.Relationships suck hey.My one friend got left and hurtin bad.

Advice? He is an afc, what should he do?
There are cool ones, just like there's cool guys. You just need to get to know them.

Chill with him dude. Just dont let him think about her all the time.
 
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