"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Why did you get into game?

AlexLefty1

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What is the specific reason you got into game?

Was it to: **** more girls, learn to socialize, get out of your comfort zone, overcome social fears, test yourself, self-improvement related reasons, casual curiosity, bordem, or something entirely different?

In other words, what was the pain point you were looking to solve with game?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Asmodeus

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Not everyone does it for their pain... Though some do it out of their malady. I learned it to control women using game techniques, psychology, manipulation, and behaviorism in order to basically gain complete control over them so that I could do what I want with them. I never went for women who were super beautiful, I always went for ones that I saw signs of low-self esteem, I was never interested in them, just interested in the fun of toying with them. I never had problems with women, never had any reason to hate them, nor do I have social fears. I guess that behind my composed, seemingly warmhearted, and almost philosophical exterior I have just a bit of darkness in me.
I am not kidding... And this is what I have done, the embodiment of the "cold hearted player". It was a weakness to do such for no reason or actual benefit and to control others but not myself, and I am past that now. I am beyond such pathetic things... The "game" did not help me as much as the other stuff I found along my way in learning it. So perhaps during the learning it helped guide me along the path of self-improvement, though in a different way than most others here.
 

ohrein

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I am driven by a desire for knowledge. I was a typical nice guy, forever in the friend zone and horny as ****. Wanted to understand all of it. Not just how to **** women, understand the nature of sexuality, what drives women and men to do the things they do, etc. So the pain point for me was understanding why I wanted to **** all the time and how to get laid as well. Well, I learned all that and then a lot more than I thought I ever would. Got bored of getting laid, couldn't find a decent woman and hit monk mode. Definitely loving life thanks to everything I've learned.
 

wifehunter

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As a ladies man since 7 or 8 years old, females have always liked me... young girls, teen girls, college girls, 30/40 somethings, and grandmas. The problem was... Making progress with the ladies that I wanted to be with.

I was failing throughout my teen and 20's years. I got fed up, and started working on my mindset. I thought to myself... " there must be something wrong with me." So, my mission was to solve the problem. I spent alot of time in my head and in books. It was all theory, until I started experimenting with the ladies at work. I started getting results... the ladies I wanted would hit on me, flirt etc.... I even had one really cute asian girl, come over to where I was sitting, and rest her lovely mammaries on my arm! I was shocked! It became too easy!

Now the challenge is, finding the right one, to spend my life with.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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nyc123

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Frustration, not being able to get the women that I want for various reasons
 

DongWong

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I just wanna f*** every girl in the world. But seriously, all the above.
 

CuddleJunkie

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Got out of a 5 years LTR and found myself with no idea on how to get a new girl. Literally on a "what I'm supposed to do" state.
 
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I don't think one "gets into the game". For me , It was natural progression. Attraction to the opposite sex was always there.. since a very young age... I was about 4 yrs old kissing and messing around with this girl who was about the same age. Our parents were friends and we would go there often.

To take it one step further, in 1st grade I would write my young Hispanic teacher love letters that she would show my mother at the end of the year.

In middle school, I got all the girls naturally. Why? probably because I was good looking, but more-so because I was completely care-free and totally direct with girls. In highschool, I had lots of girls interested in me but was in a slump for about a year or 2..

But, When I was 17 till about age 21 I used to have like 20-30 girls' numbers in my phone at all times... Then it slowed down a bit around age 22.... but I would still meet hot chicks here and there in the bar and club scene..

Age 23 I got back at it and started doing open approaches more often and at 24 yrs old now it's pretty easy for me to get numbers and capitalize on women I meet at bars/clubs. I've spun plates and all that .I just decided to slow down again because messing with 5-6 women was taking time away from more important things.
 

Armourhead

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I got cheated on and dumped by my first girlfriend of 8 months. After that I got serious into lifting weights and picked up a copy of The Game and over the years drifted into CH, Rollo, and then found this site.

I had just had enough of LJBF and getting my heart broken. Once I started to see results with Game I became a faithful convert.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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