Why did she suddenly text me?

[DrStranglove]

Met this girl in January. We really clicked and had fun but she blew hot and cold much of the time. Claimed to be a late 20's virgin wanting to take things slow so I was respectful and attributed that to her reserved/conflicted behavior. We saw each other 15-20 times total.

She went cold without explanation for a couple weeks in March-April. Crawled back and we danced around the idea of a relationship until she disappeared again in early June. Last time we saw each other in June I made a comment that upset her, but she later texted "don't worry I'm over it", but didn't really return texts after so I quit reaching out. My comment wasn't even bad, she's just the hyper sensitive walking on eggshells type.

We didn't talk all summer, then last Monday she texts out of nowhere. Sends a link to this nearby historic property for-sale, like we used to. Said she was eager to see it and knew I'd enjoy it. We exchanged maybe a dozen texts and she was flirty and upbeat. I played it cool - aloof but not too standoffish. We joked about me buying it and teaching her how to negotiate, she said "Ok teach me!" which I replied "Alright maybe we'll go see it sometime". Texted her a couple days ago, a link to another historic property and her reply was so long it came back as 3 texts, which seemed like a good sign.

So today I text "Let's catch up this weekend and go see X and stop for ice cream" (what we had been texting about). No reply GO FIGURE.

That pisses me off. She's ripped the band-aid off and wasted more of my time. Now I'm left wondering, what was the purpose of her even texting me?

 

[EmotionalGeek]

Met this girl in January. We really clicked and had fun but she blew hot and cold much of the time. Claimed to be a late 20's virgin wanting to take things slow so I was respectful and attributed that to her reserved/conflicted behavior. We saw each other 15-20 times total.

She went cold without explanation for a couple weeks in March-April. Crawled back and we danced around the idea of a relationship until she disappeared again in early June. Last time we saw each other in June I made a comment that upset her, but she later texted "don't worry I'm over it", but didn't really return texts after so I quit reaching out. My comment wasn't even bad, she's just the hyper sensitive walking on eggshells type.

We didn't talk all summer, then last Monday she texts out of nowhere. Sends a link to this nearby historic property for-sale, like we used to. Said she was eager to see it and knew I'd enjoy it. We exchanged maybe a dozen texts and she was flirty and upbeat. I played it cool - aloof but not too standoffish. We joked about me buying it and teaching her how to negotiate, she said "Ok teach me!" which I replied "Alright maybe we'll go see it sometime". Texted her a couple days ago, a link to another historic property and her reply was so long it came back as 3 texts, which seemed like a good sign.

So today I text "Let's catch up this weekend and go see X and stop for ice cream" (what we had been texting about). No reply GO FIGURE.

That pisses me off. She's ripped the band-aid off and wasted more of my time. Now I'm left wondering, what was the purpose of her even texting me?

There are 100000 possibilities so how would anyone know? More important is your reaction to her. You knew something is fishy so it's good. You were non needy so that is also good. You escaleted by trying to meet her in person instead of wasting time on stupid messages so its also good. She got her validation and broke contact. It's also good because you won't waste anymore time on uninterested chick, will you?

 

[Atom Smasher]

Attention and validation, aka ego-boost.

She got what she wanted from you and now she's back in her comfort zone.

 

[DrStranglove]

I thought there was a slim chance she missed me but figured attention.

Told her she was very bad at communication, she apologized and had a bunch of excuses. Not gonna reply, or reply soon anyway. She's very disrespectful and needs to be put in her place.

 

[BreezyB84]

Ive gone through the same thing 3 times with the same girl..
Currently going through it now...

I have ignored her quite a bit now and she seems to be increasing her communication. I don't think its a bad idea if you did the same. Calling them out never helps and it actually may bring up any negative emotions shes ever associated with you..

Fall back.

 

[jaymbrs]

Very low IL. Just forget about this one, dude. This has "friend zone" written all over it.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

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That pisses me off.

You sound like a woman. Emo lol

She's ripped the band-aid off and wasted more of my time. Now I'm left wondering, what was the purpose of her even texting me?

Women don't msg randomly. These aremanipulative and cunning tactics. She jumped off playboys ****. Your her little beta girl friend she can msg randomly for feels and to boost her ego. To her, you have no spine or ****.

In future, tell her to stfu, take her clothes off or **** off.

 

[R.U.G.]

Attention *****. Go back to my stand by line that actually does work.

She ghosted you and you say what are you going to do to make it up to me. She'll reply ??? or what? You then say or text you disappeared and what are you going to do to make it up to me? She'll say IDK, or something of that magnitude. You can then lighten it up a bit and then text no worries. ;'p. Invite her over for Netflix and chill. Don't expect much, but who knows. Every dog has their day. It's basically sh!t or get off the pot. However, you are being very direct and it may turn her on as it makes you look like you are taking charge; which can possibly raise her interest level. You may not have sex, but you may get to fool around a bit.

 

[Isildur1]

You need to go out there and approach different women. Threads like th is one show the dangers caused when me n over think individual plates instead of spending time finding new ones to spin

 

[mr-ed209]

Why are you hanging out with some girl 18 times, that you're not sleeping with?

 

[Machine10033]

Girls want validation and attention!!! If there is nothing going on in their life they reach out to a sure thing and feel better. View all females as vampires that attempt to suck your time and energy away! Guard against it and don’t validate any of them!! You should have ignored her out of the blue text because she ghosted you! When you offended her don’t apologize... speak your mind and don’t change for anyone.