This happened awhile ago but I just wanted to get some advice on what to do the next time I'm in this situation.
I texted this girl I've known for awhile in the summer after school had gotten out (we had just graduated high school) and asked her what she was doing "this weekend"....she replied with something like "i'm going to be up north all weekend sorry!" I then called her probably about 5 days later (the Monday after the weekend) and got her voicemail and left a message saying that I was wondering how up north was and that we should hangout sometime this week and to give me a call back. She never responded to this voicemail, and so I texted her I believe it was only two days later on Wednesday saying "Hey so did you wanna hang out? If not, I'll see you around!"...I thought this was a very clear message, meaning, if you want to hang out, respond, if you don't want to hang out, don't respond.
She immediately texts me back saying "Yeah sorry I forgot to call ya back! what'd you wanna do?" I then told her and I picked a day and she said she had to work that day, and so out of fear of picking another day she had work, I asked her when she was free. (I now realize this was a horrible thing to do as I am not being in control) She replied she didn't know but she would let me know. Of course, she never lets me know....
What do you think happened? To me it seems like she never wanted to hang out but then I don't understand why she replied to my message saying "do you wanna hang out? If not I'LL SEE YOU AROUND"...I gave her the option to get rid of me by not replying and she didn't take it.???
I can see now that I came across very needy and not in control as I gave in and let her have the option of picking a day and letting me know...
I texted this girl I've known for awhile in the summer after school had gotten out (we had just graduated high school) and asked her what she was doing "this weekend"....she replied with something like "i'm going to be up north all weekend sorry!" I then called her probably about 5 days later (the Monday after the weekend) and got her voicemail and left a message saying that I was wondering how up north was and that we should hangout sometime this week and to give me a call back. She never responded to this voicemail, and so I texted her I believe it was only two days later on Wednesday saying "Hey so did you wanna hang out? If not, I'll see you around!"...I thought this was a very clear message, meaning, if you want to hang out, respond, if you don't want to hang out, don't respond.
She immediately texts me back saying "Yeah sorry I forgot to call ya back! what'd you wanna do?" I then told her and I picked a day and she said she had to work that day, and so out of fear of picking another day she had work, I asked her when she was free. (I now realize this was a horrible thing to do as I am not being in control) She replied she didn't know but she would let me know. Of course, she never lets me know....
What do you think happened? To me it seems like she never wanted to hang out but then I don't understand why she replied to my message saying "do you wanna hang out? If not I'LL SEE YOU AROUND"...I gave her the option to get rid of me by not replying and she didn't take it.???
I can see now that I came across very needy and not in control as I gave in and let her have the option of picking a day and letting me know...