Why can't I stand not getting my own way?

[ben489]

Not sure what causes this but I tend to plan things out in my head and if things don't work out or I don't get my own way it really seems to get me down. Is this an ego thing? Any tips on taming it?

Example being I had plans with a girl tonight, food, drinks and she was going to stay at mine tonight. She texts me earlier saying she hasn't been feeling so good and will come out but doesn't want to stay over (valid excuse she was full of cold when we went out). Despite this I still felt down/miserable like a spoilt child throwing a strop the whole night due to not getting my way (obviously never said this too her) but it was probably apparent I wasn't enjoying myself. How do I avoid this in future and ensure my happiness is less dependant on me getting my own way?

 

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

Not sure what causes this but I tend to plan things out in my head and if things don't work out or I don't get my own way it really seems to get me down. Is this an ego thing? Any tips on taming it?

Example being I had plans with a girl tonight, food, drinks and she was going to stay at mine tonight. She texts me earlier saying she hasn't been feeling so good and will come out but doesn't want to stay over (valid excuse she was full of cold when we went out). Despite this I still felt down/miserable like a spoilt child throwing a strop the whole night due to not getting my way (obviously never said this too her) but it was probably apparent I wasn't enjoying myself. How do I avoid this in future and ensure my happiness is less dependant on me getting my own way?

Don't let your ego get in the way. Sometimes you have to realize that things don't always happen the way you planned out or hoped for. When things like that happen the best attitude you can have is to "accept it" for what it is. Then you will be in a much better state of mind. It also has a lot to do with maturity. Once you reach a stage of maturity you let things happen instead of forcing them to happen. Let nature take it's course is something we need to take heed to. You should also look at the bright side to every event. In your case, atleast she came over to see you though she was sick. She could have altogether cancelled your date. Thinking in a positive frame of mind helps ease the situation and make you feel better about yourself.

 

[Blackhole105]

It'll happen either two ways:

1) You mature and grow out of it

2) This sort of behavior causes you to experience some relationship failures, and you learn to stop doing it because of negative feedback

This sort of thing used to happen to me a lot with a particular girlfriend, very unattractive, and it brings the vibe down.