Originally posted by griffon65
first girl: She just wasnt interested
yep
Originally posted by griffon65
Now the other 2 seem to be interested and your making the same mistake I used to make. Not putting in enough effort. Have you had a lot of girls in the past that just amde it easy for you? That could be a reason or it could be that you have inner anxiaty and your too afraid to take the initiative.
With girl 2 this is what you sohuld've done: Everything before the phone call was good. I wouldnt really change much from what you typed. When you called her, you shouldve left her a message to let her know it was you and to show interest because so far you have shown NO interest in this girl.
Next when she called back, the first thing you shouldve established was how busy she was at the moment. If she wasnt busy you should've talked to her for at least 20 minutes and smoothly bring up the subject of hanging ou.
You made the mistake of asking her what she was doing that day and the next, instead of asking "Whens the next day you have some free time?"
Form here she would either tell you a time or if she didnt know you should've kept talking to her on the phone and class to build a connection. And then asked her out again
Yeah, when I was younger I pretty much just had girls all the time but I never really thought about it. You're right about the inner anxiety. I studied with an old bro of mine a while back before he moved away and I asked him how he was so successful with women. He pointed at a shoe that was laying on the floor and told me, "there, that is what women are to me."
Now, I don't agree with this entirely, hwoever, one of my problems I think is that I place the girl above me and think, "who the fvck am I and why would she want to get with me when she probably has a million other options."
Yeah, I guess that I just don't want to show too much interest causing them to lose interest.
About when she called back. When she aksed me what I was doing I told her I was studying and she called me a loser. I just blew it off and called her a loser right back in a c/f type of tone. Now, she was putting up a major ***** shield. Keep in mind this girl was really hot so my best defense was to play it off like I was too busy to talk and let her go.
That is a good idea about the next day she has free time thing.
Do you think it's too late for this one?
Originally posted by griffon65
Third girl: Again I see hesitation. You should've asked for her number on the last night you saw her when you talked a bit. It would've been even better if you asked on the day she said Hi really loud. So ask her number and build a connection already!!
I dont see too much worng with your style, its just that your waiting too long and girls lose interest quick because they always have guys chaseing them. Its good to make them want but not soo much that they think that your unattianable.
Ok.
Today I was late for class and so I just hung back and waited for it to end. The third girl comes out and I tell her to wait for me while I go in and turn in an assignment.
So afterwards we are talking and I tell her that it would be cool to hang out sometime and she agrees and writes her number down for me. Tells me she has to work today but asks me what I am doing anyway. But I don't really give her a straight answer.
BUT. After having gotten myself together a little since the past few weeks, I am having to reevaluate my postiion on her.
She is more like a six because she seems kind of "ghetto". I usually go for the classy clean cut professional or at least well groomed types at least 8 and above. I almost feel as though I would be doing her a favor if I hit it.
How do you bros feel about lowering your standards?
