Ok, I’ll be straight with you guys. There is no reason to beat around the bush when talking about this simple fact: there is no simple method for attracting and getting girls. There is no trick, no technique, no strategy that will let you bed them with ease, either. Anything contrived, or canned, or planned will fail. Conversations that are planned out, step-by-step, to subtly increase kino and intimacy and eventually lead to sex are boring to girls. Why? Because girls see through each of your “subtle escalations” and get fed up and annoyed, or worse, bored. They feel slighted—like you are insulting their intelligence by trying to pull the wool over their eyes and using a scheme to bed them. That really turns them off, because frankly, it’s very AFC, and super indirect, and being indirect is a one-way ticket into the fast lane for rejection. Why is that so? Because being indirect shows a lack of confidence, and confidence is the cornerstone of any successful DJ’s arsenal. By hiding behind pickup lines and planned conversation models, you hide away your confidence as well. That’s killer.
The reason its killer is because unless you have unshakable confidence as the foundation of your game, you’re entire game is build on a flimsy premise, liable to break down at any time and leave you with a “learning experience” if you catch my drift. Furthermore, without confidence, you can’t have ****y, and without ****y, you can’t have funny (unless you use self-deprecating humor, a big no-no in picking up girls). Without funny, you are unable to build intimacy, and without intimacy you can’t possibly hope to get a girl to go home with you. So, as you can see, if you don’t display confidence, it weakens your approach tremendously—to the point where you will almost never succeed.
Now, I’m not saying a “hook” line is bad—you know, something clever that will get a girls attention and get her interested in you—but if you predicate you’re entire game on a canned lines that you’ve thought up while watching TV or lying in bed, you will fail. Moreover, if you try and force your conversation with your target into a “mold” that is specifically supposed to lead to each of these steps:
Meeting
Break “Strangers” state
Create strong emotions
Create physical arousal
Make an opportunity
Sex
You will fail with that as well. You must let the conversation flow organically, and only consider how well you are progressing through the above steps during breakpoints (i.e. when she goes to the bathroom, when you go to the bathroom etc.). If you do that and show supreme confidence in whatever you do or say, everything else will fall into place. Contrive your approach, and you will crash and burn. So learn to be confident, and let your true self shine.
~ICE~
The reason its killer is because unless you have unshakable confidence as the foundation of your game, you’re entire game is build on a flimsy premise, liable to break down at any time and leave you with a “learning experience” if you catch my drift. Furthermore, without confidence, you can’t have ****y, and without ****y, you can’t have funny (unless you use self-deprecating humor, a big no-no in picking up girls). Without funny, you are unable to build intimacy, and without intimacy you can’t possibly hope to get a girl to go home with you. So, as you can see, if you don’t display confidence, it weakens your approach tremendously—to the point where you will almost never succeed.
Now, I’m not saying a “hook” line is bad—you know, something clever that will get a girls attention and get her interested in you—but if you predicate you’re entire game on a canned lines that you’ve thought up while watching TV or lying in bed, you will fail. Moreover, if you try and force your conversation with your target into a “mold” that is specifically supposed to lead to each of these steps:
Meeting
Break “Strangers” state
Create strong emotions
Create physical arousal
Make an opportunity
Sex
You will fail with that as well. You must let the conversation flow organically, and only consider how well you are progressing through the above steps during breakpoints (i.e. when she goes to the bathroom, when you go to the bathroom etc.). If you do that and show supreme confidence in whatever you do or say, everything else will fall into place. Contrive your approach, and you will crash and burn. So learn to be confident, and let your true self shine.
~ICE~
