why be mysterious?

[Ultra Magnus]

You know, Doc Love always says to be mysterious and not say too much about yourself. Yet I don't understand how you can have fun with someone and show them you are a cool guy to be with without letting her know about yourself.

So how do you guys act mysterious and yet show the girl that you are different from all the other guys out there?

 

[squirrels]

Be unpredictable and don't volunteer information at random...only certain things that are related to the conversation.

Also, read this: http://www.sosuave.com/articles/intimacy.htm

 

[Click Here]

haha i dont know about you guys mystery gets me girls, but my friend slays so many girls and its no mystery what he wants when he meets a girl. hes open on the table kind of guy and he does very well with it.

 

[Bonhomme]

Lots of ways

Being mysterious just involves a bit of unpredictability or contradiction (like dressing mod at a hip-hop concert, for example), and not revealing too much about yourself. Having a good, unique personal style gets gals curious straight off.

Let her know you're cool by showing her a good time, not telling her.

The main thing is not to try to impress a gal by telling her everything. Just throw in a few hints here and there. Let her do most of the talking.

But if a gal interrogates you, it may be difficult to deflect the line of questioning without coming across as an immature twit. Still, it's best to turn the questioning around, and not give too many straight answers, because interrogator gals are usually bad news. If it's too obvious she's interrogating you, you might make a wisecrack or three, perhaps asking her if she's some kind of government agent, and telling her that your info is confidential.

But sometimes it's good to reveal personal info where it deepens rapport. So mystery is not always better than disclosure.

 

[Ultra Magnus]

Excellent post. I think that is why you can't be friends with girls and then try to change the relationship into something intimate. The fact that the girl knows you already means that there is nothing new and exciting for her to know about you so you can't "grow" on her.

 

[T.T. Boy]

Mystery is for cowards. GM is where it's at.

 

[Bonhomme]

Friends with potential

Yes, you can be friends with a gal, and get romantically involved, but only under certain conditions: typically, if she thinks you're out of her league, and never expected you to hook up with her.

Also, sometimes one person or the other is attached and simply unavailable.

It does help if you have an interesting multi-faceted personality, and can always manage to surprise the other person. I certainly find out surprising things about my friends, and vice-versa.

The only time to write off a friend as a romantic prospect is if she turns you down while she's not involved with anybody else. Otherwise, she just might be interested, but think you're not interested enough in her.

 

[Bonhomme]

What's GM?

No, telling someone something you don't want to tell them is for cowards. Stick to your guns.

 

[T.T. Boy]

What's GM?

http://www.fastseduction.com/acronyms.shtml

 

[Bonhomme]

GM and mystery are not mutually exclusive

Thanks for the link, TT.

Doc Love's talking about mystery regarding your personal characteristics, not necessarily your intentions. People do show more interest in things that arouse their curiosity.