"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Why Are You Being So Mean To Me>?!?!

slickaz

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yeh i went on a date last night with this 8.5.

shes independant and i thought she was funny.

but she seemed a little nervous so i tried to make her laugh.

and in the process she opened up abit and relaxed, told me about some funny stuff, like her writing her car off by crashing into parked cars and her cooking skills etc.

and so using that thing you guys call C&F(?) where you make fun of and then have her prove herself..

i did that just making jokes but everytime she'd fire back with funny (she was joking about my LRG jeans and my Crooks Ltd Track jacket) so i fired back with her driving skills..

but everytime she'd say with like a fake sad face "Why you being mean to me!" at the end of the night i think she'd said it about 15 times.

i thought the date went well, but she text me this morning saying thanks for the date and being mean!!! and "keep in touch.."

im guessing this is either her playing games that i cant tell (coz i dunno her well enough to) or she seriously thinks im like a mean dude..

maybe because noone has really made fun of her, but it wasnt like i was pointing and laughin at her it was just me saying things like

"so my car doesnt even have to be moving for someone like you to total it?"

What do ya'll think?

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met her at a party, half portugese half japanese. nice body, cute face, independant as hell! but she's planning on moving cities and i dont want anything serious, just want her as a plate w Benefits...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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slickaz

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thanks KX, when i saw you had replied i thought o man! he's going to be ruthless..but..thanks..

yeh im just gonna continue firing at her, shes a big nough girl to handle that i think..lol..
i just find it annoying when, when you're being funny, they say "dont be mean!" but if i stop and the convo gets boring..she'll think "im never doin this again.." .......females!
 

Aragon034

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You did good. she found the date memorable and fun. this is almost exactly what i try and accomplish on any first date.

Did you escalate at all? get a kiss? Anything?
 

slickaz

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oh..yeh sorry i didnt wanna post the entire date..

HERE IS A GOOD WAY TO USE THE INFO ON SS AND GET A KISS!!

but yeh when she was leaving i walked her to her car and opened her car door for her..
she came in for a hug..i hugged her, but pulled her back and put my face in neck gently..said oh my gosh! what is that you're wearing..its messin up my senses....
she giggled..and i figured it was a good sign..so i said im not responsible for my actions when im under the spell on your parfum..my face was still gently rubbin on the side of her neck..

her body went warm immediately..and that means only one thing..
i went for the kiss..
it was a longer kiss than i thought..we were leant up on her car kissin for about 5 minutes..

i pulled out first..said she needs to get outa here before we do something involuntary and naughty and illegal in a public carpark..she kinda laughed but i could tell she wanted more..anyway i shut the door for her and walked away smilin.
shes a good kisser..
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Cashew

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Yeah... I'd say that's good. Sounds to me like she realizes quite well that you aren't serious. Just don't act all concerned about the fact in front of her when she brings up you being mean.

Think of it as a sh!t test. If you become overly concerned about being mean to her or feel you have to qualify/rationalize to her why you are mean (or explain that you aren't really being mean and that it's in the spirit of fun) then you fail the test.
 

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I have a friend who is what I call a "pouty little girl" who always says in a whiney girly voice "why is everyone so meeeeeeean to meeeee??" but when she is really mad or think someone is mean for real...a whole different person comes out. So realise that she's just playing along...its all good bro.
 

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sounds like she is spinning alot of plates.
 

slickaz

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thanks lads..
i hit her up yesterday (2 days after the date) with no contact in between.

she called me on it like what took you so long to hit me up?..lol

i rung her and she asked me again..i said "you know im way too busy to be hittin up every pretty girl i know everyday right?" she giggled and let it go.

anyway..ive set up another date with her next tuesday when i get back from Sydney. itll be goooooood i think i might push for a fclose
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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