"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Why are we so fake?

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I'm not here to rant about how bad girls are or how this site's a piece of sh*t or stuff like that, but I do have some questions.

Why is that approaching, PU, ... so fake? I do get girls too, so I'm not here complaining. (I know that'll be coming from some AFC or KBJ!) It's almost like guys have to "act" around women. We can't talk about the things we do we with our male friends or act like we normally do because "it's a girl". Then there's all the sh*t with buying gifts (for LTR's only) and paying for dates, (which I accept, but I don't put out my cash when I hang out with my male friends). Is it just me? I just can't stand the fact that I'm always having to "change" myself for a girl.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Do you treat your boss the same way you treat your pals?
Do you treat your mom the same way you treat your pals?
Do you treat your pet the same way you treat your mom?
Do you treat a police officer the same way you treat your cat?
Do you treat a catholic priest the same way you treat a buddhist monk?
Do you treat a kid the same way you treat a police officer?

I could go on and on. Welcome to the grown up world. It looks like if you haven't socialized a lot with women through your life. Don't worry, you'll get a hold of it, and will love it. I now have problems relating, having friends, with men, I like women company much, much more. And I was a AFC/NiceGuy.

Trust us. Trust the bible.
 

wheelin&dealin

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Originally posted by tobby
It's almost like guys have to "act" around women. We can't talk about the things we do we with our male friends or act like we normally do because "it's a girl".
If my "act" is called 'not giving a sh*t about what women think of me' then I guess I'm a pretty good actor.
 

Tomatoes

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Originally posted by SamePendo
Do you treat your boss the same way you treat your pals?
Do you treat your mom the same way you treat your pals?
Do you treat your pet the same way you treat your mom?
Do you treat a police officer the same way you treat your cat?
Do you treat a catholic priest the same way you treat a buddhist monk?
Do you treat a kid the same way you treat a police officer?

I could go on and on. Welcome to the grown up world. It looks like if you haven't socialized a lot with women through your life. Don't worry, you'll get a hold of it, and will love it. I now have problems relating, having friends, with men, I like women company much, much more. And I was a AFC/NiceGuy.

Trust us.
Took out the "Trust the Bible" part. Apart from that. Very well said pendo. Answered the question.

Plus like i said in \O/ thread. How can you be acting..? Its you. You are you. If you act diffrent. Thats just you acting diffrent. You are still you.

Anyways

In the words of William Shakespeare "Life is a play. The world is a stage and we are merely actors playing our part"
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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westbeach77

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I was once told by someone i highly respect. "Life is a play. The world is a stage and we are merely actors playing our part"
You knew Shakespeare? You must be, like, old dude.
 

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Originally posted by westbeach77
You knew Shakespeare? You must be, like, old dude.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

I look young for my age saying i was around in 1616

Edited my prev post
 

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Re: Re: Why are we so fake?

Originally posted by wheelin&dealin
If my "act" is called 'not giving a sh*t about what women think of me' then I guess I'm a pretty good actor.
Thats the key right there. Many of us are taught to "act" a certain way around women when we are young by parents,friends etc. We are taught to not tease,not touch and not to be ****y. But if would act like we want(not giving a siht) then we are more succesful and we have fun while doing it. Now tell me which one is the act?
 
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