"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Why are some sections of this forum hidden?

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I don't mean the moderators section - it's obvious as to why that's hidden - but other sections like the site feedback and suggestions one, the one about NLP and Speed Seduction (people even still post in that one occasionally!) and the success stories? I see no reason for them to be hidden, especially the site feedback and suggestions one. And it's not even as if these sections are hard to find either. Plus, they are still fully functional; they just don't appear on the main forum index.

Seems odd to me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Smack said:
I don't mean the moderators section - it's obvious as to why that's hidden - but other sections like the site feedback and suggestions one, the one about NLP and Speed Seduction (people even still post in that one occasionally!) and the success stories? I see no reason for them to be hidden, especially the site feedback and suggestions one. And it's not even as if these sections are hard to find either. Plus, they are still fully functional; they just don't appear on the main forum index.

Seems odd to me.
Speed Seduction: Wasn't popular enough

Success Stories: See above

Suggestions and Feedback: Kept getting the exact same suggestions for a while, then stuff turned into a flame war between members and even some members and moderators.
 

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And so if it isn't popular enough, it needs to be hidden? Odd, methinks. Regarding the suggestions and feedback, if the exact same suggestions were getting repeated ad infinitum, then perhaps it would have been a good idea to implement them.
 

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Smack said:
And so if it isn't popular enough, it needs to be hidden? Odd, methinks. Regarding the suggestions and feedback, if the exact same suggestions were getting repeated ad infinitum, then perhaps it would have been a good idea to implement them.
It's hidden because if it is deleted, you *cue dramatic music* can't see the posts, period. With it being hidden, the people that know how to find it can look back over any treasures that are in there.

With the S&F forum, the suggestions that were being asked are already implemented things (age, new colors, forum ideas (you can thank the revival of the "Mature Man" section to them and some persistent moderators too)), things that CAN'T be implemented on this software, or asnine suggestions ("Ban *insert poster here* because they said my post was stupid!").

*Sigh*

I've been here WAYYYYY too long. :crazy:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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They are not really truly hidden; they only do not appear in the forum index. Google them and you can get the links.

It's hidden because if it is deleted, you *cue dramatic music* can't see the posts, period. With it being hidden, the people that know how to find it can look back over any treasures that are in there.

With the S&F forum, the suggestions that were being asked are already implemented things (age, new colors, forum ideas (you can thank the revival of the "Mature Man" section to them and some persistent moderators too)), things that CAN'T be implemented on this software, or asnine suggestions ("Ban *insert poster here* because they said my post was stupid!").

*Sigh*

I've been here WAYYYYY too long.
Too me, a far better solution would be to move some of the good posts that are in these hidden areas into a non-hidden area. Even the archive.
 
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