RawkinKaoticStyle,
The fact that you are even curious about this tells me that you're a step ahead of the others. We go in and out of this site trying to apply knowledge and skill to our actual experiences, but never stop to ask why? Why does a guy like him but not me? If it's because he's more 'alpha' then why is that? What is alpha doing to her unconscious mind?
Human Nature
"WE" consist of a conscious and unconscious mind. The conscious mind is the 'awake' part of you. The part you see, touch, smell, hear, and sometimes feel. But there is another part of the mind that is leading us into each experience and compelling us to do certain things; the unconscious mind (UM). You can think of the conscious mind and the UM as a puppet and it's puppet master. The conscious mind being the puppet, without the UM (the master) we are nothing, just a shell. The unconscious mind sends us certain prompts to tell the conscious mind when it's time do certain things. Being hungry is one example, tired, and attracted. All examples of the prompts.
Attraction
The unconscious mind send us the prompt of attraction for two reasons: to create and thus sustain life, and for evolution of the species. That is the reason for it. You can't control who you are or aren't attracted to, because it's unconscious. You can consciously steer yourself away from an experience with that person, and try to convince yourself you're NOT attracted, but denial doesn't destroy truth. Attraction still exists.
Self Actualization
We evolve the species by what is called "Self Actualization". In our unconscious minds, holds the potential for what we could become. The UM knows where the conscious mind is right now, and knows what we need to reach this potential. Therefore it guides us in and out of experiences to manifest these qualities (make them REAL, or conscious). It does this in a way of prompts - attraction.
Since the UM knows what we need, it creates of a list of 'criteria' for it. Then, it attaches these traits to a symbol. This symbol being our 'ideal archtype'. Basically what is happening is, our UM knows what we need, and the conscious mind doesn't, and won't. So what the UM does, is figures out what our "IDEAL woman" looks like, an imagry....and stores that in the unconscious mind. From there it attaches alllllll of this 'criteria' (what you need to become the perfect you) to this girl. That way, when the conscious mind see's somebody who MATCHES the ideal woman, or at least resembles it in some way, it sets off these "prompts" that tells us to get with her.
When we look at a girl we are attracted to, we feel nervous, and vulnerable, and self-conscious. There is a reason for this. The unconscious mind gives this girl the criteria that you need. It perceives she is confident, and sensual, and good in bed, and sweet...etc - whatever you need her to be. She very well maybe NOT be this, but it doesn't matter, your mind perceives it as that so you have no choice but to accept that. You can consciously realize she's not, but it won't change the attraction.
Back to getting nervous...when we are looking at her, what is happening is, we are seeing the perfect opposite of US. The polar opposite. And this reflection of everything we are NOT, makes us feel self conscious because it makes us AWARE of all of the things that are fvcked up in us. And we believe she can see right through us. There is a reason fo that, the entire reason for ANY of this. Because when we become aware of our weaknesses, and flaws, we can then work on improving them and thus - evolving. Hence the name - self-conscious = conscious of what needs work.
When we are with a girl, or have sex with her, we are integrating those qualities that we perceive her to have, into US. And we grow. When the attraction 'dies'...what is happening is the qualities that we needed, were successfully integrated. So there is no more need to be attracted to her. Or, our perceptions changed and we perceive that she does not have those qualities. Either way, attraction is turned off. Consciously though, we might see it as "she was acting like a bytch | she cheated on me | the fire just died" but in reality what happened was that the reason for the relationship at ALL - dissolved.
This is why games will never work boys. Because no matter what you do, or how many games you play - if you match her AI at ALL - you're in. If you don't match it at all....nothing you can do will change that. That's why we have to just go in there and be real. If she is attracted to you then you just have to create a circumstance where it is convenient and comfortable for her to act on the attraction. Have fun : )
-Blitz
PS: Most of the information above I learned a while back from the site in my signature. I want to give credit where credit is due.
