Glassguy
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I think for most men, having a woman truly submit to them is the ultimate goal. Not talking about B.D.S.M , but talking about a woman that submits to YOU as a man.
Why and when do they submit?
Based on my experience, a woman submits to a man when SHE is:
1.) Not a me too, feminist, cancel culture, liberal
2.) Doesnt have severe emotional and psychological issues
3.) Has the ability to make herself happy both in and out of a relationship
4.) Is financially independent.
Now that list might seem strange to some of you when you read it, but make no mistake about it- when you reverse those 4 things to the opposites, she is not submitting to you for YOU, she is only submitting to you for something that you can GIVE her and is only a short term ordeal.
Based on my experience, a woman submits to a man when HE is:
1.) The leader. Plain and simply put, she respects and identifies that you will make the best decisions (financial, social, etc) for the both of you. Not that she cant make her own decisions, but she is submitting to you based on your track record of making good decisions and gives you that control.
2.) You have the ability to tell her "No"- women will not submit to a man who is a door mat. Period. A woman will submit to a man who has the ability to put himself first (which includes her best interest as well in a relationship). That includes telling her "no" when she wants to do something that is not beneficial and certainly tell her "no" when a decision is destructive.
3.) You have the ability to fully please her sexually. If you know how to push her buttons in bed (and also out of the bedroom through seduction and build up) she will not be looking for another sexual partner. She will crave you and submit to you.
4.) You have to be her best option. We live in a world where everyone is looking for an upgrade, next best option, the next best thing. People are replaceable and expendable in no time given social media, OLD, etc. When you are her best option she will have to invest and there is more risk of loss when she does something stupid to jeopardize the relationship, so she doesnt act or do disprespectful things.
Signs that she has submitted:
1.) Her plans will revolve around what you are doing, for the most part. You should always allow a woman time with her friends and to do things that she likes doing without you, but she will check with you before making those plans.
2.) She invests- emotionally, sexually and financially.
3.) She is submissive in bed. Not in a *****ish way, but in a way to make you feel fulfilled.
4.) She will talk about the future and her actions will reflect her words.
5.) She will not act disrespectful and will be slow to speak in a situation where she is given a chance to shoot off and be disrespectful. Think motherly/nurturing on this point. Instead of throwing a fit, she will act reasonably and communicate.
Signs that she hasnt submitted:
1.) She is disrespectful- calling you out in front of people, lying, cheating, etc.
2.) She does not invest into you as her first option- if a situation comes up where her friends invite her to do something but she already made plans with you, does she respect her plans with you or try to bail to be with her friends? Does she discuss things like this or just drop a bomb on you that the plans have changed?
3.) She doesnt invest financially- in a full blown LTR, is she splitting the bills? Does she contribute to trips/vacations? Or does she sit back and enjoy the free food and the free ride?
4.) She doesnt invest her time in you/offer to invest her time in you and spends that currency in a lot of other areas of her life?
Food for thought. Personally, if a woman isnt submitting after a couple of months of dating, its time for me to move on. If a woman submits (or wants to appear to submit) in a very short amount of time, its a big red flag to me and shows me that she is submitting to what I can do for her and not to me directly.
Happy hunting
Why and when do they submit?
Based on my experience, a woman submits to a man when SHE is:
1.) Not a me too, feminist, cancel culture, liberal
2.) Doesnt have severe emotional and psychological issues
3.) Has the ability to make herself happy both in and out of a relationship
4.) Is financially independent.
Now that list might seem strange to some of you when you read it, but make no mistake about it- when you reverse those 4 things to the opposites, she is not submitting to you for YOU, she is only submitting to you for something that you can GIVE her and is only a short term ordeal.
Based on my experience, a woman submits to a man when HE is:
1.) The leader. Plain and simply put, she respects and identifies that you will make the best decisions (financial, social, etc) for the both of you. Not that she cant make her own decisions, but she is submitting to you based on your track record of making good decisions and gives you that control.
2.) You have the ability to tell her "No"- women will not submit to a man who is a door mat. Period. A woman will submit to a man who has the ability to put himself first (which includes her best interest as well in a relationship). That includes telling her "no" when she wants to do something that is not beneficial and certainly tell her "no" when a decision is destructive.
3.) You have the ability to fully please her sexually. If you know how to push her buttons in bed (and also out of the bedroom through seduction and build up) she will not be looking for another sexual partner. She will crave you and submit to you.
4.) You have to be her best option. We live in a world where everyone is looking for an upgrade, next best option, the next best thing. People are replaceable and expendable in no time given social media, OLD, etc. When you are her best option she will have to invest and there is more risk of loss when she does something stupid to jeopardize the relationship, so she doesnt act or do disprespectful things.
Signs that she has submitted:
1.) Her plans will revolve around what you are doing, for the most part. You should always allow a woman time with her friends and to do things that she likes doing without you, but she will check with you before making those plans.
2.) She invests- emotionally, sexually and financially.
3.) She is submissive in bed. Not in a *****ish way, but in a way to make you feel fulfilled.
4.) She will talk about the future and her actions will reflect her words.
5.) She will not act disrespectful and will be slow to speak in a situation where she is given a chance to shoot off and be disrespectful. Think motherly/nurturing on this point. Instead of throwing a fit, she will act reasonably and communicate.
Signs that she hasnt submitted:
1.) She is disrespectful- calling you out in front of people, lying, cheating, etc.
2.) She does not invest into you as her first option- if a situation comes up where her friends invite her to do something but she already made plans with you, does she respect her plans with you or try to bail to be with her friends? Does she discuss things like this or just drop a bomb on you that the plans have changed?
3.) She doesnt invest financially- in a full blown LTR, is she splitting the bills? Does she contribute to trips/vacations? Or does she sit back and enjoy the free food and the free ride?
4.) She doesnt invest her time in you/offer to invest her time in you and spends that currency in a lot of other areas of her life?
Food for thought. Personally, if a woman isnt submitting after a couple of months of dating, its time for me to move on. If a woman submits (or wants to appear to submit) in a very short amount of time, its a big red flag to me and shows me that she is submitting to what I can do for her and not to me directly.
Happy hunting
