"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Why am I upset? & Should I be?

iLoveCookies

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So I meet this girl at school about 6 months ago. We start talking recently, she used to text me all the time. We hung out a couple of times. The last time we ended up hooking up on her couch. We talk every day for the last couple days. On Thursday I call her to let her know that I am going to stay home since I got my nose broken while boxing. Here is the kicker....

Hasn't called me since! Even if she didn't like me, which would be very contradictory of her last statement, wouldn't she still call and see how I am. Its not like I broke both legs but still!!!

I called her the other day and left her a message but no call back yet.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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She may have lost interest, she may have another prospect(s) or she might be playing it cool.

Don't fret. If she calls back she will, if not then forget about her. Just keep your cool!
 

iLoveCookies

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The Truth said:
She may have lost interest, she may have another prospect(s) or she might be playing it cool.

Don't fret. If she calls back she will, if not then forget about her. Just keep your cool!
Well how do you go from 100 to 0. One moment she is texting me and calling me every day the next moment, she falls off the face of the earth.

I mean ok maybe she sat down and thought something over and decided that she may not want to go any further, that's fine, I cant really be upset, its her decision but I am a big boy I can deal with it.

How do you go around telling me that you like me alot to just forgeting about someone. What happened to a simple "hey I dont know about this" or "I don't know if this is going to work out."
 

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Women have the ability to transfer all of the their feeling to someone new. Its just the way they do things. If she contacts you she is interested - if she doensn't then she isn't interested.
 

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flexion_ said:
Women have the ability to transfer all of the their feeling to someone new. Its just the way they do things. If she contacts you she is interested - if she doensn't then she isn't interested.
I hope I run into that "someone new she transfered her feelings to". As childish as it may sound he will regret ever meeting her. Just a little upset I guess
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Thats it. I am becomming a monk!!
 

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I hope I run into that "someone new she transfered her feelings to". As childish as it may sound he will regret ever meeting her. Just a little upset I guess

Wow you are cool. Would you be willing to make all my life decisions for me?
 

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iLoveCookies said:
So I meet this girl at school about 6 months ago. We start talking recently, she used to text me all the time. We hung out a couple of times. The last time we ended up hooking up on her couch. We talk every day for the last couple days. On Thursday I call her to let her know that I am going to stay home since I got my nose broken while boxing. Here is the kicker....

Hasn't called me since! Even if she didn't like me, which would be very contradictory of her last statement, wouldn't she still call and see how I am. Its not like I broke both legs but still!!!

I called her the other day and left her a message but no call back yet.
Similar situation here too. Girl really into me but havent heard from her in like 5 days since last date. Not sure what to make of it yet. In both of our situations I dont think it looks good and I hope I am dead wrong on this. Without further details I would say maybe when u guys "hooked up" you werent all that and she wasnt impressed and has recently been seeing someone who is or could be better than you in the sack. OR her feelings could simply have changed because maybe you seem too needy. The fact that she has not even called to see how you were after breaking your nose I think is the biggest indication that things may be over.

What are you planning on doing now? Just like me I'd like to actually talk to her and get confirmation that things are over or not over. But she seems too big of a wimp to get on the phone or email you and tell you how she feels. Looks like your girl is completely avoiding you at this point which mean she simply doesnt have the courage to tell you she is cutting you loose. Wish I could be more positive here. Good luck. Keep us updated.
 

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mrRuckus said:
Wow you are cool. Would you be willing to make all my life decisions for me?
I am not cool and I dont have to make them for you they have those magic 8 ball things for like $10 at the store or amazon.com
 

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She called me back. She was really busy. Stoked:up:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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gratz! now where the hell is my gf lol... havent seen/heard from her for 1 whole day!!! OMG

(its a long weekend too arrgghhh)
 

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OK sorry for being so neg but man you guys are totally fvcked, your getting upset cause some chick hasn't called for a few days ? Guys they have lives as well your not the center of her universe ( yea its true OMG wow LOL ) ya dorks. Man panic attack cause of this is lame and reeks of desperation, which shows you guys have some issues to work on.
 

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typical said:
OK sorry for being so neg but man you guys are totally fvcked, your getting upset cause some chick hasn't called for a few days ? Guys they have lives as well your not the center of her universe ( yea its true OMG wow LOL ) ya dorks. Man panic attack cause of this is lame and reeks of desperation, which shows you guys have some issues to work on.
lol QFT
 

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Sounds like she lost interest.

If this a girl in her teens or twenties (young chick) then she got bored and she's moved on to some other guy (guys).

When you say you hooked up on her couch, you didn't say what happened.

Obviously you were doing things right to get her alone on her couch but it sounds like you didn't f*ck close.

She might have been expecting you to take charge and go for her panties and maybe you were moving too slow.

With young girls you have to work fast and isolate them and get the p*ssy while you still hold their attention because these girls have the most options of any age group of women.

I can guarantee you with about 99% accuracy that this girl has already said "Next".

In the future, just keep it simple.

Meet girl, hook up with girl, isolate girl, and f*ck girl.

Then find another girl and repeat process.
 

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Women play this stupid game of they call -no contact- where they stop calling you to see if you call them back and how many times. They say if you are interested you will keep calling them.

I hate this stupid mental games.

What I do? I call and leave a message and in that message I tell them when when I will call again with the specific date and time, then if they don't answer I leave a last message telling them that I won't call again unless they reply to my message.

You will be surprised how nice this works in clearing out the flakes, the interested women call you right back and stop playing mind games.

K
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I dont know what to say. Perhpas, Perhaps Not
 
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