"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Why am I such a B!TCH??

Chrom3y

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I keep saying this to myself over and over. And its cause of something stupid. I've got a problem with approaching a girl Im messing with while she's with her friends. I can't even flirt with her while she's with her friends, I jst dont know what to say to them. I kiss her in the hallways and all that but when she's with her friends I just avoid her sometimes. WHAT THE FVCK?? Anyone else like this?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Chrom3y said:
I keep saying this to myself over and over. And its cause of something stupid. I've got a problem with approaching a girl Im messing with while she's with her friends. I can't even flirt with her while she's with her friends, I jst dont know what to say to them. I kiss her in the hallways and all that but when she's with her friends I just avoid her sometimes. WHAT THE FVCK?? Anyone else like this?

Yeah, its common for people in high school. Don't be hard on yourself. It sounds like you're out of state when you're out of your element (in this case, when shes with her friends) - which is a problem 99% of us face... but that doesn't mean you have to stay out of state. I recommend doing some research on getting in state and ways to get there. When you truly get in state, a lot of that nervousness and anxiety vanishes and you should feel confident enough to be yourself and not give a **** around her friends.

At the same time, don't feel obligated to flirt with her whenever she's with her friends. You can just shoot the shyt, you don't always have to impress or say something witty. By doing this, you subconsciously start feeling more comfortable around her friends and you can eventually feel comfortable enough to flirt with her or whatever.
 

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Makes friends with her friends, this will make things infinitely easier for you. You will feel comfortable around them and be able to act naturally around your girl. They will also make your Girl go crazy for you if they really like you "OMG Chrom3y is so cool and funny, such a good catch blah blah blah"
 

Chrom3y

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Thanks a lot from both of you. Her one friend though I feel really weird around. Im the guy thats like coming out of his shell. And I really only get shy around people who already know Im shy, or places where Im tightly surrounded by people. Other than that Im fine. I dont know what to do but the first step is to TRY to make changes right? This sucks...
 

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Chrom3y said:
Thanks a lot from both of you. Her one friend though I feel really weird around. Im the guy thats like coming out of his shell. And I really only get shy around people who already know Im shy, or places where Im tightly surrounded by people. Other than that Im fine. I dont know what to do but the first step is to TRY to make changes right? This sucks...

Dude, I can totally relate to that first bit. I know what's its like to go through so many changes and be around the people who knew the old you. You just have to bite the bullet and try to make these changes. Gradually people will disassociate you with being shy or whatnot once they see the new you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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