Why am i so hesistant??? I've been sitting on the couch with my cell phone, trying to get myself to call the girl and ask her to the prom. I know for sure she will say yes..i think... for a while i was debating until the other day when we went on a field trip together, she came up to me and grabbed my arm and walked with me with her head on my shoulder, i mean come on that has to be something right? Yet i cant find the courage to call her WTH! When i finally did, her cell phone was off lol and now all my courage dissipated. I will try agian in 30 min...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why Am i So hesistant?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
LOL, and there is NO other time you can ask her this question?
Go out, and DO something. Have fun, and when the opportunity presents itself, just fvcking do it!!!!
Go out, and DO something. Have fun, and when the opportunity presents itself, just fvcking do it!!!!
PeterNorthisawesome
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Why don't you ask her on a date and then ask her? I think asking someone face to face is much more personally and better. It def. looks like she likes you so JUST DO IT or someone else might come and take her. 
which is why i want to ask her RIGHT NOW! i didnt get a chance to ask her at school today because there are always people around. I've been putting this off for too long and now i need to take initiative. She told her friends she wants to go alone but i know if i ask her she will say yes for sure...i think :nervous: WHen should i call again?PeterNorthisawesome said:Why don't you ask her on a date and then ask her? I think asking someone face to face is much more personally and better. It def. looks like she likes you so JUST DO IT or someone else might come and take her.
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
Um, her cell phone is off...
Go out and have fun, if you keep waiting, she may never turn it on...
OR
Try to call her 500 times, and every time her phone is dead, then call it a waste of a night
The second option sounds like a GREAT plan to me!
Go out and have fun, if you keep waiting, she may never turn it on...
OR
Try to call her 500 times, and every time her phone is dead, then call it a waste of a night
The second option sounds like a GREAT plan to me!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Oh well, i guess today is not possible. Unless i call again late tonight. Should i do that? If not, any suggestionsfor what i can do tomorrow? Right now im thinking about asking her to see if she wants to grab soem drinks with me and ask her when i meet her there.
PeterNorthisawesome
Banned
...seriously JUST DO IT, send a txt message that your coming over and once it's late around 11 go OVER to her house throw a rock or something climb up and meet her at the window. I did that and guess what? she was so happy she ended up being a LTR. Stop making excuses make urself do it think that you'll lose your left testicle if don't do it today.
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She will say "Yes" no question. Her friends says she wants to go alone is just BS. She says that so if she doesn't get asked by anyone, she won't look like no one wants to go with her. It makes her look like she just choose to go without a date, not that no one asked her...follow?
Well, this was on the phone. I was asking her to seee if she wants to go to do something today and she said she's going to shop for prom. S oi thoguht i'd use this opportunity to ask while im at it. The answer was "maybe". She said she ahs someone in mind. Oh well, you think i'm gonna be all depressed and stuff? NO
I HAVE NEVER FELT THIS GOOD IN MY LIFE BEFORE.
It feels so great to finally get the weight off my chest. AFC no more, i have regained my DJ'ness
I HAVE NEVER FELT THIS GOOD IN MY LIFE BEFORE.
It feels so great to finally get the weight off my chest. AFC no more, i have regained my DJ'ness
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
dannowillbookem
Master Don Juan
alright calm down macho macho man.Oni said:
well, first off you should have scheduled a date for the future (eg call on a saturday and get a saturday night date? get real. call on a saturday and get a wednesday night date is more like it)
second, you shouldve held off and asked in real life
third, when she said maybe and that she had someone else on her mind, you shouldve told her "in that case forget it. i've got other girls to call"
but hey at least you got your testosterone pumping and shiit. lets go workout play some football fucck some girls and build a house. yee haw!:rockon:
yee haw
i guess you are right about asking in real life thing, but i doubt it would make a difference in this case. it's just i've been holding it inside me for so long i have to get rid of it.
but really though, i feel so pumped up and stuff.
i guess you are right about asking in real life thing, but i doubt it would make a difference in this case. it's just i've been holding it inside me for so long i have to get rid of it.
but really though, i feel so pumped up and stuff.