why am i Scared.

[kk2004]

If i see a hot gurl why am i scared to walk up to her and say hi, why am i scared to go and start dancing with a gurl that give me the signals in a club. Why am i scared to look at an attractive gurl for more than two seconds. Why man why, even jadakiss cant answer that one for us.

Being a Dj, you are your own enemy, I know that fear CONTROLS me it controls decisions in my life, fear brings dought and it clouds the mind and spirit.

Plz teach me how to defeat fear of anything, I want to get rid of my fears cuz they hold me back, I wish i could walk into a chamber or take a pill and all fear in my body would vanish.

I dont want to be afraid anymore, I have read the bible, now i need soemthing in my life to transform me to stop fearing all that i fear, from saying hi to chicks to dancing to driving a car (18 and im new). Any words of wisdom where I can find the weapons to fight my fears. Maybe a Shaolin temple, i have one not too far from my house. Im in NYC.

 

[Lost In the Seas]

confidence is your answer, and if you have read the bible (are you sure?) , read it again

 

[Bradshaw]

Do the bootcamp. Do it as many times as you have to. Do it until you are comforatable with each of the exercises.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

Because you fear knowing how undesireable you really are to women.

 

[Beatflux]

Focus on what you want

The real secret of success is what you focus on. When you are in a fearful state, it's from the result of focusing on what you DO NOT want. For most people, the focus through their visual sense.

All you have to do is visualize the outcome you want, girls being attracted to you, and your brain will help you manifest what you want by correcting you behavior, changing your state, etc.

There one difficult aspect to this focusing business and its the engrained habit of your mind. For years and years now, you have been focusing on what you don't want. When you go to focus on what you do want, you might find your mind pulling back to fear strongly. Let it be okay and keep focusing on what you want. You'll eventually change.

I learned this self help stuff from a man of the name Bill Harris. The full article is here.

 

[Adonis_18`]

let your balls drop grasshopper, and only then will thou see the light. hehe...just do it and move on like eveybody else, jeez.

 

[darthsidious]

<darth mode off>

hb8s-10s are human yet because they are considered attractive they are treated like celebrities and holier than though by many people who are weak minded.

don't play the "ignore the h0" routine but just stay confident of your abilities and whatnot, just approach simply with no expectations like how'd you approach someone who is an hb4-7. the only time you play "ignore the h0" routine is when she is acting all giggly or egotistical like a 16 year old prancing around like paris hilton.

find some compatibilities that you and the hottie share and if none, forget it. and btw if you're not an 8-10 in a man's looks you can forget about dating someone very attractive. that's how things go.

 

[diablo]

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb